Marco's Rants

ODE To The Mosquito - Marco Becomes The Mosquito

2009-01-07T01:43:00.000-08:00

I never knew I could write ODEs.In the first place,I didn't know what's an ODE.Until 21st December 2008.I was told to go out to nature and find something to write about.

Was stung by a mosquito.I decided to write about the mosquito...

ODE To The Mosquito

You are small,yet impactful.

It takes just one bite from you,

To make me scratch all day.

You are persistent.

Your persistence cause you to live your life on the edge.

It takes only one accurate slap to kill you.

Yet you still risk to live.

After this,I was told to replace everything with I instead of you.However,it didn't really make much sense to me.So I edited the whole thing.In certain ways,I was just like the mosquito.Marco The Mosquito?Seemed pathetic.But the situation I was in was really like being a mosquito.Here goes my edited ode...

ODE To Marco

I am quiet,yet impactful.

It takes just one action from me,

To get you thinking all day.

I am persistent.

My persistence causes me to put my heart on the edge.

It takes only one specific outcome to kill my heart.

Yet I still risk to love.

Finally,I have graduated from Leadership Program.It was a big big relief for me.After being a mosquito for more than 3 months,it's time to be me.Back to being myself.No more being a wimp and being a YESMAN.

I watched YESMAN yesterday.It really spoke to me.I was like Jim Carrey in the show.Kept saying yes,because I have to,not because I want to.When you are alone,facing a number of people trying to influence you,it's not easy to say no.

Had a nice dinner with Christopher last night,we discussed about YESMAN.True,that show was so much like what we went through in Leadership Program.He was in a worse position than me.But now,I'm really happy that I have my own life back.I can be me again.The happy,confident and free person that I have always been.

No more bondage.No more "musts".It's all by choice now.No more being the pathetic mosquito anymore.Risking to love?Hahahaha,no pain no gain.Life's a gamble isn't it?Oh well,just go all out and see what happens.

Marco The Mosquito has became Marco The Eagle.Fly high,be free with style.:)

My Leadership Program Journey - How To Settle Disputes & Quarrels

2008-09-28T08:45:00.001-07:00

I have disappeared for sometime.Currently taking this Leadership Program,which is really stretchy and stressful.It's an emotional roller coaster,but I believe everything happens for a reason.Until the end,I will not be able to know what is going to happen and why it will happen.

Think it is a good idea to take notes during this journey and understand what went right and what went wrong.OK,this is an idea that came from senior,Jasica.She suggested that I should pen my journey in LP down.

I agree that she made a very good point.My penning down everything,I am able to reflect and go back to what I missed out.

Today's coaching call was about settling disputes and quarrels.My house is constantly under World War.Every few months,there is sure to be a world war going on.Today,I realised that I could use the "Point In View" exercise to solve the problem,instead of getting angry and irritated then flare up.

I will use this method the next time I get the chance.Results will be updated here.5am later I need to go for morning madness.No choice,have to rest early.The rest of the stuff I will finish tomorrow.

Happy Birthday,Chris!

2008-09-16T10:01:00.000-07:00

16th September 2008 is my dear friend Chris' 28th Birthday.Today,the birthday boy is the biggest fuck!He gets to make all the decisions today,ranging from food,to dessert and to whatever time he wants to go home.

We had Seoul Garden buffet for dinner.Unfortunately,I was still suffering from stomach upset.It was probably due to the smoked salmon from O'Brien's Sandwich on Saturday.I suffered for 3 whole days (hopefully it will recover tomorrow).Sunday night,I went for a wedding dinner.Throughout the whole dinner,I was moving to and from the toilet.

It was really terrible.So much nice food and yet I wasn't able to fully enjoy the food.

Anyway,back to today.My stomach was slightly better,I was able to eat some food and didn't need to keep rushing to the toilet like on Sunday.It was a nice dinner,even though I wasn't able to really enjoy the food,I enjoyed the conversation.

We discussed about the beliefs that were holding us back from attracting what we really wanted.There was an interesting pattern.In love relationships,both of us seemed to be the 3rd party in many instances.Those women would complain a lot to us about their relationships and we thought we had a chance to step in.

And we always ended up as the losing party.Of course,I am determined to end this cycle once and for all.Right now,I am very sharp when it comes to looking at women's intentions.I can tell if they are trying to manupilate me or to control me.I shared with Chris what were the signs and symptoms.

If you ever got into the same situation where you were "the shoulder to cry on" when things were going wrong with their boyfriends and "the football to be kicked away" when things are good,you might want to pay attention to the symptoms.

Here is how you test...

When she starts complaining,you start agreeing.Don't say anything first.Let her let off steam.After she finish letting off steam,then you start giving your advice and response.From her reaction to your advice,you will know whether she is really interested in you,or just using you as "a shoulder to cry on".

Example.

She: "He's terrible.Always ignores me.Like work is the most important thing.What about me?"

You: "Hmm..."

She: "And you know what?He made me cook for him last night.Then last minute he calls up and says that he has to stay overnight at the office."

You: "Yes,he should have called."

She: "Precisely.I don't know what came over him.He seemed to have changed ever since he started off this job."

You: "Is he always working overnight?"

She: "Yes.And it is always last minute."

Now,here's where the testing part comes.You try to say something bad about him and see how she reacts.

You: "Could he be seeing someone behind your back?"

She: "I don't think so.But you may also be right."

You: "Well,if he was to do that,then I feel that he doesn't deserve such a good girlfriend as you."

She: "No,don't say that,maybe he was just busy that's all."

From this point,you can see that she's being defensive.You can see that she is still defending him.Notice the facial expression and her reaction.Is it unhappy?Defensive?Angry with you?

Basing on the above conversation,the woman is just using the guy as an object to let off steam.The guy may think that he stood a chance because she "shared her problems" with him.The normal reaction is to start putting the boyfriend down,without realising that she was already getting pissed.

The above situation is not one which you would want to get into.Let's look at the other scenario...

If,instead of defending,she starts rambling more and more unhappiness about her boyfriend,probably she's considering breaking up.Then you start probing slowly and asking her whether she's happy in the relationship.If she says something like "if only my boyfriend was like you" then you probably stand a chance.

Other than that,just move on.You don't want to make things more complicated.But anyway,that's just a simple example.If you have been through something like this,you would know what I mean.

I am not telling you to be cold and not lending a listening ear.It is always good to be a nice friend,but never become obessed.If you become obessed,then you end up hurting yourself.Never never be the 3rd party.It doesn't do you any good.

Ok,so that was Chris' and my experience.I hope you gain something from it.Right now,we are planning some scripting and visualising exercises to attract whatever we want in life.Unfortunately,I have already signed up for the leadership course.So no choice,we have to find some time to do it so that we have time to go through everything.

The first thing to do is to identify those negative past beliefs.In order to do that,we are committed to going back to our childhood and writing down all the past experiences which affected us.Then we go through it and discuss.

After this part,we would start to get clear on what we want and manifest things.Sounds easy?But it's a lot of hard work.I'm committed to make this happen.I'll update you as and when I start progressing.

What Level Is Your Thinking At?

2008-01-15T09:21:00.000-08:00

A happy 2008 to you.I had other posts to write about,but this thing came to my mind on the 3rd day of 2008.I think it is more appropiate for me to share my thoughts about a new perspective that I came to realize.

Probably by the end of this post,you will be able to know what level is your thinking at.It is very true that as you grow older,you become wiser and calmer.When you are younger,you tend to be more rash and hot-headed.You tend to rush into things which may not be for your highest good,and regret later.

I am speaking from my own experience.I used to be very hot-headed and rash.I tend to do things or say things at the spur of the moment.Just because my emotions had the better of me.I wasn't able to control my temper.

But as time went by,I learnt that you can't "expose" yourself too much,if not,your enemies will be able to know your weak points and exploit them.So don't fall into this trap.If you want to get angry,make sure it is for a good reason.In certain cases,you have to blow your top to get your point across to some idiots.

Alright,enough of introduction.Let me move on to today's main topic,and what inspired me to share these thoughts...

On the 3rd day of 2008,my brother and I were walking home from Mustafa Center.I had to go there to buy something.On the way home,he asked me for my opinion...

His girlfriend's dad's birthday celebration was coming up soon.His girlfriend's family asked him to join them.He agreed,but was wondering should be foot the bill for the food.

My answer was that if he felt good giving them a treat,he should by all means do it.I always believe that you should do it if you feel good about it.However,my brother disagreed.He said that his girlfriend's family might feel that he was trying to show off that he was rich.

I disagreed.My point was that if he wanted to give them a treat,he should do it without bothering about how they think about him.As long as you want to bless someone,then just do it,why bother thinking about what they think about you?If they want to think bad,it is their problem,you have already done your part.

He disagreed with my point.He reminded me about a visitor we had last year.This guy was my uncle's friend from Australia.This guy bought some crystals as gifts for us.However,we didn't have any use and didn't know how to appreciate the crystals.

They weren't cheap too.

One of my aunts tried to tell him that he shouldn't waste money buying us something that we have no use for.Instead,he should just buy us something useful and cheaper.We knew that he wasn't that well off and we didn't want him to spend too much on us.

He seemed offended by my aunt's statement.He replied,"Don't tell me what to buy.I just want to buy something for you people.Just accept it!".

He didn't get my aunt's point.He just literally "forced" his gifts down us.My aunt was trying to tell him to buy something more practical,something which we would appreciate more.Maybe food.

So my brother's point was that I sounded like this Aussie visitor.I disagreed.I feel that it was a different scenario.

But after some discussion,we both reached the same conclusion.

There are people in this world who can't accept gifts from others.They are poor receivers.And at the same time,they feel that it is spiritual to be poor.They detest rich and abundant people.I felt that probably his girlfriend's family fell into this category.

I can honestly say that one of my ex-girlfriend's family was like that.They seem to detest rich folks.I have nothing against poor people.But they are indeed poor.From the response of my ex-girlfriend,I knew that they commented behind my back that I was some spoiled rich brat.

Well,I admit that I am rich and abundant.But I am not spolied as they put it.But poor people always try to view rich people negatively.That's why they are poor forever,until they change their mindset.They can't attract prosperity until they change their mindset.

But it is not wrong to want to be poor.Neither is it wrong to want to be rich and abundant.

Now,I'm coming to my main topic...

What level is your thinking at?I realised that people who think maturedly are able to accept other peoples' differences.While those who are less matured can't accept others.They always feel that they are right.Anything different from them are all aliens.

Ever came across people like this?

It doesn't matter what age they are.Old people can think like this,young people can think like this.

I classify people into different categories based on their thinking...

The lowest class are those who cannot accept others' differences.They tend to gossip and talk behind people who are different from them.They like to force everyone to think their way or do things their way.These people are also easily affected by what people think of them.

They have very low self-esteem.These are the Level 1s.

The next class will not talk about others if they are not affected.They don't care what the world thinks about them.They just do what they believe to be right.But if they are crossed,they lash out mercilessly.

They don't like it when people comment about them negatively.They always lash back when someone says something about them.In a way,they have low self-esteem because they are very defensive.They want to prove themselves and they care very much if others comment about them.

These are the Level 2s.

Now,the Level 3s are those who are not affected even if others talk about them.If others comment about them negatively,they just ignore the comments.Basically they don't care much about what others say because they are very confident of themselves.

These people have a healthy ego.They are not easily affected by what others say.When asked about why they don't respond to the negative comments,they will tell you that people at their level don't bother with the low levels.

These folks do their own things and mind their own businesses.They will not mix around with people who they think are lower than them.Some people will have the impression that they are arrogant.

Quite a number of successful individuals belong to this level.

Let's look at the highest level...

Those that belong to this highest level are able to accept everyone for who they are.These people really practice walking in love towards everyone.They are very willing to accept and forgive those who have done wrong to them.

They are very patient people and seldom blow their tops.They are willing to accept others' faults and will not criticize behind people's backs.These folks are also very quiet.They tend to listen more than they talk.

Most of them gives the impression that they are very cool and calm,in which they are.You will never see them throwing tempers or holding grudges.

Basing on my observation,those who belong to this level are usually monks,or people who have reached a very high spiritual level.Some priests or pastors are like that.These people are also deep thinkers and very wise.

But the main characteristic is that they are willing to accept everyone for who they are.

Which level are you at?Which level do you want to be at?

It is your call.I wish you all the best in 2008.You might want to move yourself up to the next level.I wish you success.

How To Propel Yourself To Greater Success

2007-12-27T07:35:00.000-08:00

I have been meaning to post here for a long long time.This post has actually been in my mind for at least 2 months.

I believe priority is very important when you want to become successful.I apologise if you have been expecting posts and none came up.I had to prioritise my time for my website and other things.

But anyway,Merry Christmas to you.I hope you are able to gain something from this post...

Many years back,I felt like a failure.I didn't know what I wanted to be,I didn't have any goals or sense of direction in life.I was very afraid of failing,but I didn't know how can I "play to win and not play not to lose".

"You will never amount to anything great!"

"You are a failure.Can't you do something right for a change?"

"You are always getting us into trouble somehow."

"One day,you will end up sweeping the floor and dumping rubbish."

"I don't know what you want to become next time."

"I fear for your future."

"Reality and goals are different.Don't count on your luck."

"Why aim so high?You just need to be contented in life."

Does all that sound familiar to you?I always hear that.Especially when I was a kid and during my school days.Did all these affect me?Yes.I was so fearful that all those so-called prophecies will come true.

What if I really became a failure in life?What will happend to me?I was really fearful,but yet I didn't know how I could make myself successful.I felt very lost.Yet no one can guide me or tell me what I could do.No one encouraged me.

The reality was...I was really a failure once upon a time.I used to do badly in school.When I was in Polytechnic,I kept failing programming and I didn't really do well in my studies.In secondary school,I didn't get into biology class as my parents wanted me to get into.

In secondary school,one teacher kept condemning me.She was very biased when she marked my test and exam papers.I felt really frustrated,but I wanted to prove to her that I was good.For the whole of secondary 2,I was marked down by her for my science papers.

When I wasn't able to get into biology class,I got hell from my parents.Of course,they meant well.I can't blame them for screwing me for mediocre results.But in the processing of screwing me,they made my self-esteem fall like a rock.

After that streaming,I felt that I wasn't able to do as well as others.Others seemed to have the luck but I didn't.Those tops students were really lucky and I wasn't.They were successes and I was a failure.

Even in Polytechnic,it felt the same.I wasn't able to do programming well,that's why I repeated 1 year.But it all boiled down to me feeling like a failure.

Was I really a failure?

If you asked me that question 10 years ago,I would have told you yes.Am I a failure now?

Nope,I would answer you quickly.I am still on my way to success,enjoying the journey towards success.

Now,how did I change my mindset?

As you probably know,everything starts from a thought."Thought become things".This quote must be quite familiar to you if you read self-help books.

Whatever you think at this moment will have an impact in your life sometime in the future.Whether its the near future or distant future,I can't tell you.But your thoughts will have an impact on your life.

Think like a failure,you will become one.Think like a winner,you will become one.Think like a billionaire,you can become one too.

So how can you think like a winner?

Let me share with you a method of programming your mind to propel yourself to greater success...

It is very very simple.You just need to be disciplined enough to do it daily.

How do you feel like a successful person?You just need to celebrate your successes,whether big or small.Do it daily,especially with the small successes,and slowly,you will have the confidence to undertake bigger projects which lead to bigger successes.

Let me give you an example of a small success.Let's say you are trying to get a birthday present for a friend.After looking high and low,you finally found something that is suitable and you buy it.That's considered a small success,you managed to at least buy a birthday present for your friend.

Celebrate that success.Congradulate yourself,give yourself a pat on the back.

Do the same for bigger projects.But for bigger projects,break them up into smaller parts.For successful completion of each part,celebrate the success.

Very soon,you will feel like a successful person.You will have the confidence to tackle bigger problems.You will start feeling that you are in control.When you start feeling in control,you can turn your life around,from failure to success.

It all starts with your thoughts.Choose the good thoughts.If you can't,celebrate your small successes,and you will be able to think positively and choose good thoughts.

Keep doing this daily,I'm sure you will become a big success.You are already on your way to success.

I will try to do one more post before the year ends.Stay tuned.

There Is No Such Thing As Failure

2007-09-29T09:55:00.000-07:00

Have you ever failed?I believe each one of us have failed one time or another at something in life.I have.But I don't believe in failure.

Nothing or no one can block us to success but ourselves.You have more control of your life than what you thought.You can choose to be a success or a failure.Yes,only you.

What does failure really mean to me?To me,failure means giving up and not trying again.When you do that you can forget about being successful.But at times it's wise to give up than to waste your resources on something that won't work out.

What happends when you fail at something?It simply means that you didn't do it the correct way to get your desired results.What you should do is to keep trying different approaches to solve the problem.

True enough,from time to time you will get demoralised when things don't work your way.But never give up.Keep going until you reach your desired outcome.

Mental toughness is essential here.You need to keep telling yourself not to give up.

Many years ago,I allowed circumstances to dictate my fate.Whenever things don't work my way,I will panic and finally give up.As a result,many things were left half done.

Thanks to what I learnt from Napoleon Hill about Persistance.When you keep persisting,somehow things will start to turn in your favour.However,you should have more than 1 plan,so that if it doesn't work out,you can still fall on others.

It feels good to go all out to achieve what you want.The best reward is the sense of satisfaction when you succeed.

My website is not doing very well.But I refuse to give up on it.There is always something to be done to improve the situation.You just need to keep looking and thinking of the solution.

But there are also certain things that I give up easily.I will only persist in things which I am confident that will work out.I don't waste time on things which I need to gamble on.

In particular,the area of women.If I show interest in a woman and she does not respond,I'll simply give up and move on to the next one.I had been stupid once.I wasted a lot of time and effort on one target and things still didn't work out.I should have given up early to cut losses.

This is like investing in stocks.In certain times,you need to sell at a loss to cut losses.Similarly if you try going after a woman and she is not interested in you,why waste you time?Move on to the next one.After all it's her loss,not yours.The world is so abundant,you are sure to find what you want.

You cut losses because you lose time.You time should be invested in people who are worth it.You time should be invested in activities that will further add value to you as a person.That could be learning a new skill.Never waste time on things that don't add value to you.

I used to.But I don't now.

In business as well,you must know when to give up and call it a day.Rather than further increasing your loss in time and money.In "The Tipping Point",Seth Godin shares when exactly you should give up.

It is stupid to give up too early.But it's equally stupid to not give up when you know that you are reaching a dead end.

I wish you success.In the next post,I will share with you how you can propel yourself to success and keep your mental attitude positive most of the time.So stay tuned till then.

Surviving In A Herd Where There Is Condemnation

2007-09-28T14:04:00.000-07:00

I just came back from my in-camp training.It was an exhausting experience.Not because training was tough...training was far from tough.As a cyberwarrior,my role is to assist the commanders is playing war simulation games.

Why am I exhausted?

I'm exhausted from the negative energy from the people there.Of course,to say everyone is like that is very unfair.There are a handful of nice people there,especially the full time staff and 3 new friends that I made there.

What is today's topic about?

In short,it's about how you survive in a negative enviroment.If you are like me,you probably understand what I mean.When you are surrounded by negative people,your positive attitude will somehow be affected by them.

There are a few types of negative enviroments.One is where people like to complain.Two is where people like to gossip,backstab and comdemn others.

If you know me well,you probably know that I hate backstabbers and people who are fake.Now,how can you survive when you are surrounded by these people?

I think there is ONE CRUCIAL THING you must possess...that is MENTAL TOUGHNESS.

Why mental toughness?

When you have mental toughness,you will not be affected by the backstabbing and the gossip.You will just take them as a bunch of fools who have nothing better to do.

Whenever you are different,the herd will keep "pressuring you" to be like them.When you are not like them,they "condemn you".Question is,can you be condemned?Or rather,will you be affected by their condemnation?

It is human nature to have the desire to be accepted by people.But it is insane to have the desire to be accepted by a bunch of losers.Why would you want to seek approval from a bunch of losers?

In order to seek approval from them,you "try" to be like them?

You?A loser?

Think about it...

You know what?My advice is to stand your ground.Be who you are.Let the losers say whatever they want.You may feel uncomfortable.But that's ok.You are human after all.That is where mental toughness comes in.Can you survive condemnation?

I realised a few things about losers...Losers love to gossip about those who are different from them.They love to see people getting into trouble.They love to poke their noses into affairs that don't even concern them.They condemn others so that they feel superior.

I hope you are not one of them.

Hey,thank God.I only go for in-camp once per year.Only get to see the losers once per year.Luckily not everyday.

The next tip for survival is to pretend to like them and try to mix around with them.That's really tough for me.I'm a straightforward person.I hate acting.If you can do that,I really salute you.Because I can't.

By pretending to be like them,they will accept you and not condemn you.Because you are like one of them.

There is one guy whom I salute.Salute meaning I salute him for his ability to act blur.But I look down upon him.He's just a loser in other aspects.But he's a winner in acting.He can pretend till you don't know what he is up to.

He looks very dignified and gentle.But probe deeper and observe longer,you will be able to see his true colors.Initially I was taken in by his innocence,but after a while,I can see the fox's tail sticking out.

He's smart.There's actually a lot to learn from him.He keeps a low profile and will never reveal much about himself.He'll make you talk while he listens.When you ask him questions,he will keep evading them.

So if you want to survive,be like him.

There's another guy,who is pretty straightforward and sincere.There's only one setback.He gives the impression that he is a slacker.After observing him for some time,I realised that he's a lousy worker.But makes a very good friend.

He is sincere and direct.Doesn't pretend and condemn like the other losers.But he's the target of the herd.He is always getting condemned and they always make sarcastic remarks about him.

Yes,this brings me to the next point.You got to learn to be sarcastic.This is to defend yourself.Once losers know that you are more sarcastic than them,they won't try to be funny with you.

So how to be sarcastic?OK,before I go on,please use the following information to defend yourself only.Don't use it the wrong way,please.Never use it as an offense.

In order to be sarcastic,you mind has to work fast.You have to know how to respond to your opponent.You have to be cool and calm.When the attack comes,do not get angry.I repeat,never never get angry.

Keep you mind cool and calm,then start thinking of how to respond.Be like the politicians.They are very good with this.They think before they speak.Similarly,you should do the same.If you have nothing to say,do say anything.

Wait for the chance to strike.Wait for them to fall before you whack them.

If you have a good memory,try to remember one or two incidents where they screwed up and use the incidents as ammunition to fire back.Usually,these losers will try to catch you screwing up and make comments about you.

Once you have enough ammunition,you can hit back.Find out their moments of embarrasment and hit them hard with it.After hitting them,smile and tell them you are just joking.Tell them don't take it too hard.

After a while,they won't dare to try their nonsense on you.Trust me,it works.

But you really must strike at the right time.Don't strike for the sake of striking.Never allow anger to blur your thinking.Never.When you screw them,screw them back HARD.

Before I end,I would like to leave you with this...

"Treat your allies and friends super-well,and crush your enemies!"

If you have given them a chance and they still want to harm you,crush them!!!

Introducing...My Beloved Bus

2007-09-15T09:40:00.000-07:00

Today is another special day.15th September 2007.Another super-blessed day.But that's beside the point.Today you will finally realise why I kept using 9074 in my user names and e-mails.

Anyway,if you look at the screenshot below,9074 came out as consolation prize today for the 4D lottery.For so many years I have been looking the the lottery results,today is the first time I saw 9074 in the results.

Why I kept using 9074?If you had known me since my secondary school days,you'll know that SBS 9074 D is my favourite bus in the whole of Singapore.

Till this day,it is still my favourite bus.I first saw SBS 9074 D in 1994,when I was in secondary 2.I was and still is a super fan of buses.Back then,I loved to collect tickets of every bus.SBS 9074 D was one of the last 197s I need to take to complete the whole collection.

I suffered a lot to take this bus.Whenever I needed to take 197,it will always appear in the opposite direction.Or it will always appear at times when I am unable to board it.Pretty sickening isn't it?

Well,I don't believe in failure.I persisited and spent many hours studying the order of all the 197 buses.It was 6 months until my first ride on that bus.

One day,my friend gave me a ticket of SBS 9074 D and wished me luck.Basing on the time on the ticket,I was able to know where the bus was at that moment.

The ticket was dated 14th July,the time was 11:53 am.My friend boarded at his house bus stop,which was at Jalan Bukit Merah,after Hoy Fatt Road.He went towards Bedok.

If the bus reached Jalan Bukit Merah at 11:53am,it should reach my bus stop at around 12:30pm.

15th July 1994.I decided to try out my luck.I waited at my bus stop at 11:45am.Just in case there was a change in timing or shift.I waited and waited.Other buses keep coming.

I decided to wait at a more strategic location.So that if it goes both directions,I could still catch it.
I waited at the junction of Geylang Road and Guillemard Road.

SBS 9059 Z came from Bedok.Then another series of non-aircon double decks came.But I kept waiting...

At about 12:35pm,I saw SBS 9073 G.It was going towards Bedok.My heart sank.I was quite disappointed.I started to turn my head and cross the road to board the next bus back to school.

As I was thinking through my disappointment,another bus came...I saw the advertisement..."INDOCAFE,Tastes Good Black Or White".

I jumped.I could hardly contain my excitement and joy.Finally...SBS 9074 D came.

I quickly crossed the road again to the opposite bus stop.SBS 9074 D stopped in front of me.I was so happy when I boarded the bus.My hands were shaking with excitement as I tried to use my Transitlink card to buy my ticket.

The front seats were filled,I had to sit at the second seat from the front.Back then,it was like the photo below.The bus was fully packed.Anyway,this photo was taken today.

Because I had to reach school by 1:30pm,I had to take a few bus stops and alight to take the next bus back to school.

I took SBS 9080 K back to school.Was nearly late for assembly.But that day was really memorable.I finally "conquered" SBS 9074 D.

My second ride came at a price.But I felt it was worth it.

One Saturday,after my common test,my friend and I decided to take 197 all the way to Jurong East just for fun.

When I reached Jurong East Interchange,there were 4 buses parked there.SBS 9076 Z,SBS 9082 E(the one I took) and 2 other non-aircon double decks.The next bus out was SBS 9076 Z.My friend suggested that we take it home.

He said he needed to go to the washroom first.I accompanied him.

When we came back,I saw the INDOCAFE advertisement again.It's SBS 9074 D again.It just came into the interchange.

I must take it!I must.This is such a rare chance.The last time I only took a few stops.Now I can go long distance.

My friend said he was going home.I told him I will wait for SBS 9074 D no matter what.If the bus doesn't leave the interchange,I'll keep waiting till it leaves.

My friend boarded SBS 9076 Z and left.I counted the number of buses parked there.There were 5 of them,including SBS 9074 D.That means I had to wait for around 1 hour for SBS 9074 D to depart.Since the average frequency was 12 minutes.

So be it.I will keep waiting.Until my bus leaves.

After a long wait,the driver finally signalled me to board the bus.I finally had a chance to take this bus for a longer distance.I reached home at around 4pm in the afternoon.My parents were very mad with me for being late.I was punished.They made me stay at home for the whole weekend.

To me it was still worth it.It is not everyday that I get a chance to take my favourite bus.From then on,SBS 9074 D became my favourite bus.Till this day.It has been 13 years already.The drivers and advertisements kept changing.But it is always my favourite.

Today is the very first chance I get to shoot a video of this bus.It is also the first time 9074 appeared in the 4D results.This is a special day.

The photo above was taken at Bedok interchange.The bald-headed guy is a new driver.He doesn't know how to control the bus effectively.The bus travelled very slowly.

I was wondering why my bus was 25 minutes late.It was supposed to arrive at 4:23pm at the St Joseph's Church bus stop.I waited and waited.It came at 4:48pm.

When it came,the whole bus was packed.But at least I was able to board it.As you can see in the very first photo,the upper deck is packed.

I reached Bedok Interchange at around 5:40pm.There was a very long queue for service 197.I thought I might not be able to shoot the video because my front seat might be occupied.

But the good thing was that other bus parks were empty.I was able to shoot the whole side view of the bus.As you can see from the photo below,I had to stand 2 bus parks away to shoot the entire side view.

The photo below shows the front view.They repainted the whole bus and removed the Volvo letters from the front.I wondered which idiot placed it there in the first place.This is a Leyland Olympian,not a Volvo bus.

Finally,at 6pm,I boarded the bus.Thank God I was able to occupy the front seat.As you can see from the photo below,it is taken from the left front seat.Where I usually sit when I take double deckers.

As the years pass...the advertisements change,the drivers change.The woman who sits beside me changes as well.But my love for this bus always remains unchanged.

One of my ex-girlfriends was jealous of this bus.I wondered why...

One night,after sending her home,I went to wait for this bus at her bus stop.She was angry with me for getting too excited about this bus.Oh well...she should be jealous.Come to think of it...

If a woman can remain my favourite for 13 years or more,I really salute her.Hahaha so far no one has ever been able to do that.All of my ex-girlfriends have rode in this bus before.

Damn,why am I taking about women all of a sudden?

Well,this bus brings back some nice memories with pretty girls during my secondary days.I'll share them another day.Meanwhile,enjoy the 2 videos that I shot today.

The first video is taken when leaving Bedok Interchange.The background noise is too loud,can't really hear the engine sound well.

The next video is taken after I alighted.The engine sound is clearer in this clip.Enjoy.

The Blessed Birthday!

2007-09-03T11:25:00.000-07:00

I am so blessed today that I can't let today pass without writing about it.Praise the Good Lord,who daily loads us with benefits.

Today is my 27th Birthday.

I had a very happy time.Everything went on very well.Since I stepped out of my house to work today,everything has been well.

Had a wonderful lunch with Uncle David,Irene and her nephew.They ordered a Chocolate Banana Cake for me.It was simply delicious.We offered some to the Han's Cafe staff who were on friendly terms with us.Uncle David gave me 100 bucks for my Birthday.

After work,I went out with my uncle for dinner at a Chinese Eating House at Chinatown.It was opened by some Chinese nationals.The food was average,but better than some of the food stalls I tried in China.

After dinner,we went over the the Heritage Museum at Chinatown.My uncle didn't want to go in initially because of the ticket price.But when he found out it was half price,he relented.I'm glad he enjoyed exploring the museum.I received 200 bucks for my Birthday from him.

We left Chinatown about 7:30 P.M. .I suggested that we go for a short drive before going to Billy Bombers at The Cathay for desserts.By following the leading of the Holy Spirit,I was led to Dempsey Road.

It can't be...

That toilet is already blocked up.It is also locked.Why am I back there again?There is no way I can shoot videos.Unless it's a miracle.

I ended up in front of Block 15,Dempsey Road.The location of one of my favourite toilets in Singapore.

Before I knew it,I was led to stop the car and to take another chance to visit it.

I went down.

To my surprise,it was open again.Everything was still unchanged.It was time for me to shoot the videos of that toilet.I was so happy!I could hardly believe my luck.I managed to shoot 2 videos and a few photos of that toilet.

View them at http://www.ultimatetoiletblog.blogspot.com/ .

That was the best Birthday Present I Received this year.

When I went home,I found an Armani Exchange paper bag on my bed.My dear brother bought me the Armani Exchange belt that I was aiming for a few months ago.I was overjoyed.

The day ended with my brother and I playing King Of Fighters XI and Super Street Fighter at Park Lane arcade.

I thank God for this wonderful day!

Oh yes,I have been busy working on my Feng Shui book recently.Once I launch it,I will let you know.There will definitely be a free downloadable gift for you.Stay tuned.

"This Thing Has Been Sitting In My Drawer For The Past 1 Year..." - Video Game Shopkeeper

2007-07-13T12:20:00.000-07:00

The law of attraction has worked for me again.It never fails.It's whether you or me utilize it fully.Let me illustrate this with the following story that happended recently...

You probably know that I have this hobby of collecting video games.I was surfing the net a few weeks ago.Came across this series of games called "Lunar".There were 3 of them,Lunar Dragon Song,Lunar Knights and Lunar Genesis.

The very first thing I did was to write them down in my book.The exact thing I wrote was: "I have all 3 Lunar games for Nintendo DS.".

One week later,I went out to hunt for them.My usual place was Seow Choon.But unfortunately,I only managed to get 2 games there.They did not have "Lunar Genesis".I knew that once you have an INTENTION for something to happend,it will.

The next place I went to was Sim Lim Square,which was across the road from Seow Choon.But sadly,every shop I went to told me the same thing..."Nope,we don't have it.".

I refused to give up.I knew the power of intention.At that moment,there was an inner prompting for me to go to Funan Center.Logically,if you can't find the older games at Sim Lim Square,it would be more difficult for you to find them at Funan.

Reason is that the games at Funan Center are always newer,and also the stocks move very fast there.But since it was inspired action,I took it anyway.I went to Funan Center to try again.

When I reach there,I decided to try the game shop at the 5th floor which sells pre-owned games.Since Lunar Genesis was a very old game,my chances of finding it as a 2nd-hand game was much higher.

But when I reached there,the response I got was this..."Sorry,I have never heard of Lunar Genesis.I only know there's Lunar Dragon Song and Lunar Knights."

Well,that was fine.I continued my search down to the 4th floor.There was this other shop which always seemed to be empty.I might find what I want there...

I was suprised when I reached there.There was this shopkeeper from another shop on the 3rd floor there.My immediate thought was that the 3rd floor guy must have taken over that shop.But I tried anyway.And I got the same response.There was no stock.

At this point of time,I was almost about to give up.Since the 3rd floor guy has taken over the 4th floor shop,it would probably be pointless to visit the 3rd floor shop.I might as well go home.

But things happended in such a way that I had to pass by the 3rd floor shop on my way out.Well,since I am already there,might as well give it a try.The 3rd floor shop was open anyway.

I went in and asked.The shopkeeper asked me "Is this what you are looking for?".I was very excited.AT LAST!I finally found what I wanted!My search ended there.

He further added "This thing has been sitting in my drawer for the past 1 year.You must be pretty lucky to be able to buy it.It's the last piece."

Wow!I was thinking to myself...The law of attraction worked again.But there's also something to learn here...

I believe I was too attached to the outcome initially.That's why when I went to all the shops,I wasn't able to get what I wanted.The law of attraction works only when you are detached to the outcome.

It was only during the last part that I was detached to the outcome.Because I was starting to get tired and wanted to go home.At that moment,things started to happend.

By learning from my mistakes,you will be able to attract what you want faster.Remember...be detached.And use the power of intention.It always works.I have used it when I wasn't able to fix my uncle's computer.I used it when I wanted to buy something,or when I needed some extra cash.

It will never fail you.I wish you prosperity and God speed in manifesting your desires.

Next blog entry..."Rich Rich Man VS Poor Rich Man".Stay tuned.Have a great weekend!

One Of My Favourite Songs..."Next Station...Tin Hau" By Twins

2007-07-06T10:37:00.000-07:00

At LAST!I managed to find this MTV.There are actually 2 MTVs.But I preferred this one.This song is actually from a Hong Kong film titled "Diva Ah Hei".

It's about this girl named Ah Hei who dreamed of becoming a star.She tried her hardest at the auditions.But the directors were not impressed with her.She kept persisted until one day,they decided to accept her.

But on one condition...

Because she could sing well,they wanted her to be a backstage singer.Meaning to say that she sings at the backstage and the singer on stage just mouths the words.Ah Hei's dad disapproved of it because he felt it was very unfair for her.

But because of his daughter's passion in achieving her goal of being a star,he supported her all the way.Things went on.

Until one day...

The truth finally came to light.The audience came to know the singer on the front stage was not the one who was really singing.It was then Ah Hei was given a chance to sing on stage,facing the audience.

At last,her dream was coming true.But suddenly,she decided that she didn't want to be a singer after all.She went back to her dad's seafood stall to help him out.

That's the story.Here's the MTV.I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

10 Tips To Look Like A Super-Confident Person

2007-07-06T10:07:00.000-07:00

July is here.Today,I have something important to share with you.Something which I believe have opened my eyes.This information has benefitted me.I hope you will also gain some insights from it.

Let's give credit to the author of "Always In The Kitchen At Parties",Leil Lowndes.After reading almost her books,I have gained a lot of knowledge on communication and being sociable.I highly recommend reading her books if you want to know more friends or looking for your special half.

Anyway,I'm here to share with you something which I read in "Always In The Kitchen At Parties".If you are a shy person like me,you will definitely benefit from this information.Are you ready?Let's begin...

10 TIPS TO LOOK LIKE A SUPER-CONFIDENT PERSON

1.When you are at a gathering,do not stand close to the wall or by the snacks.Walk directly to the dead center of the room.That's where all the important people instinctively stand.

2.When you are going through a large door or open double doors,don't walk on one side.Walk straight through the center.It signifies confidence.

3.At a restaurant,unless there is an established hierarchy,go for the seat at the end of the table,facing the door.That is the power position.

4.Sit in the highest chair in a meeting or on the arm of a couch - but not higher than the boss.

5.Make larger,more fluid movements.Confident people's bodies occupy more space.Shys take as little as possible,as if to say,'Excuse me for taking up this much of the earth.'

6.Keep your hands away from your face and never fidget.

7.When you agree with someone,nod your head up from neutral(jaw parallel to the floor),not down.

8.When walking towards someone and passing,be the last to break eye-contact.

9.For men:Don't strut like a bantam rooster.But to look like a leader,swing your arms more significantly when you walk.When you are seated,put one arm up on the back of the chair.Occasionally lean back with your arms up and your hands behind your head.

10.For women:To seem self-assured,square your body towards the person you're talking to and stand a tad closer.Naturally,give a big smile but let it come ever so slightly so it looks sincere,not nervous.

OK,there you are.10 simple tips to make you look confident.One more tip from me...
FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT.

Have a great weekend!

NUS = National University Of Singapore.What About MUS?

2007-06-27T10:40:00.000-07:00

You probably heard of NUS.Have you heard of MUS?Well,MUS is my school.As you know,I'm a Prosperity Teacher as well as a Student.I know I look more like a student than a teacher due to my boyish look.*smile*

OK,I promise you this...if you read every word I've written here,you'll be able to crack the code...what is MUS?

I am writing about my school because many people ask me things like "Where are you studying?" and "Are you working or schooling?".I decide to enlighten these people today.If you are one of them,then be prepared to be amazed.Or amused.It all depends on how you look at it.

If what I say makes sense to you,you might want to consider enrolling in my school.I guarantee you that it is going to be life changing.Your life will change for the better.I can't guarantee your success.Only you can decide to be successful.But life changing education?Yes,I can guarantee that.

There are probably a lot of questions on your mind right now...Questions like "Where is this school?","How much is the school fees?","Who are the teachers?","Any examinations or homework?","How long does it take to complete the whole course?","What courses are being offered?" and etc...

OK,let me answer your questions one by one...

1.Where is MUS?
It is anywhere you want it to be.It can be at your own home,any library or anywhere that you can study comfortably.

2.How much is the school fees?
It depends on how much you want to spend.You won't be paying me a single cent.All your money will be spent on buying the books that you need.

3.Who are the teachers?
Me.

4.Any exams or homework?
No.No deadlines.It all depends on you.How much you want to learn everyday.How much you want to do everyday.There are no exams or homework.Neither will there be any certs.

5.How long does it take to complete the course?
Forever.As long as you live.Our philisophy at MUS is to commit ourselves to lifelong learning.We commit ourselves to be smarter than yesterday and tomorrow we must be smarter than today.Keep improving!

6.What are the courses being offered?Or rather what's the curriculum like?
There are no courses being offered.But the subjects you will be studying are as follows...

a.Prosperity & Success(Law of attraction & how to manifest your desires)

b.Communication Skills(How to talk to people,to make friends and influence people)

c.Copy Writing(How to write good sales copy)

d.Investing(How to invest and make money)

e.Biographies(Learn from people who are already successful)

f.Spiritual Stuff(Books on religion,depending on your religion) *this is optional.

g.Creative Thinking(How to think and be creative)

h.Your current career(Anything relating to your current career)

7.How do I enroll?
Simple.Just drop me a comment and let me know which subjects you are interested in.I'll tell you what books to buy and study.

My rules are simple.My role here is to guide you on what to learn.The rest is up to you.The mission of MUS is to influence as many people as possible and to bring them to the road towards prosperity.

I won't be responsible for your success or failure.You will decide how successful you want to be.I hope you will be successful and prosperous.

Here's the answer to the code:
MUS = Marco's University Of Success.

I look forward to hearing from you.I definitely would love to share my knowledge with you on the books that will help you.

How To Get The Most Out Of Everyday...Maximizing Your 24 Hours

2007-06-23T02:00:00.000-07:00

Yes,you are thinking the right way.24 hours is really not enough for me.Today you will discover how you can maximise your 24 hours.That is assuming you are as busy as me.If you have lots of time to waste,then this is not for you.

I will share with you a few tips on how to maximise your output each day.Whatever that you read here is tested by me.I am using these tips myself.Don't worry,I practice what I preach.

The first tip is to have a plan.Before your day starts,you must have a plan on what you are aiming to achieve.Set realistic goals.Make sure that you are able to fulfill what you write down.Best way to do this is to use an organiser.

Write down all your appointments,and whatever you need to do for each day.

Secondly,have deadlines for everything you do.When you have deadlines,you won't idle.You won't procastinate.Set yourself a deadline.Even for simple tasks like cleaning your room or washing your car.

If you have problems remembering,write them down in your organiser.

Now,you are probably wondering...what if there are sudden disruptions?And what if I can't finish what I need to finish?What would I do?

Relax...relax...Let me share with you what I do.

For me,it depends on how long the disruption is.If the disruption takes up a lot of time,then I will try to multi-task.Bring out the work I need to do or books I need to read.There are times when you need to queue or wait for long periods of time.

These are the minutes you can save by reading a few pages of the book you intend to finish.Or write a few sentences on whatever copy you are working on.

If you really cannot finish,then you need to work later into the night.Or if you are really tired,then go ahead and sleep.But work doubly hard the next day.That's what I always do.But don't keep putting things off.

Because if you do,work will keep pilling up and you end up being overwhelmed.

Third,prioritize.Know what is really important and what is not so important.Many people fail to prioritize correctly.And they end up wasting a lot of time.You must be able to separate the important and the less important.

Fourth,know when to say "NO".Now,speaking from experience...there are many times when certain people keep asking me for my time.I don't mind spending time with people who add value to my life.I don't mind spending time on those who need my help either.Neither do I mind spending time mentoring those who need me.

But I do mind a lot when people call me up to whine and complain.To make matters worse,they like to repeat the same complain over and over again.It really gets on my nerves.So the best thing to do when you encounter people like that,is to say "NO".

Say it politely "I'm sorry,I'm busy now.Let's talk another day.".If they ask you out,reject them.Unless you really have to much time to waste.If you are like me,you don't have time to listen to whiners and complainers.

Let them stay mediocre.Let them complain.But don't let them affect you.You have better things to do.

Fifth,maximising time whenever you can.It can be when you are waiting for someone,waiting for a bus or travelling on a bus.You maybe surprised,these little minutes add up to many hours that you can save per day.

I always have a few books ready for me to read.You seldom see me without a book.And I don't get pissed off when people turn up late for their appointments with me.I simply find a corner and read.

Sometimes I thank them for being late.Because it gives me a chance to finish what I set out to read.

Sixth,concentration.Always concentrate on what you are doing.Don't allow anything to mess up with you schedule.Phone calls,SMSes,MSN messages and etc.Either turn all of these off or ignore them.There's a time for phone calls and messages.But when it's time to work,work all the way!

Some other things that will affect your concentration are your family members.If you are staying with your parents,you probably know what I mean.They don't understand that you are busy.When they call you and you don't answer immediately,they get angry.

Sometimes when you are deep in thought,they come and call you.If it's important,it's ok.But if it's something unimportant...well,you know how annoying it can get.But they don't understand it.In order to solve this problem,get out of the house and find a library to do your work.

Next,things like E-mail and web browsers should be closed.You will get diverted from your work because of an interesting E-mail or some advertisements.Don't allow anything or anyone to mess up with your schedule.

There is a time and place for everything.Of course I'm not advocating that you be a selfish person and ignore everybody.But know when to do the right thing is very important.

Remember...you only have 24 hours per day.No more,no less.Once they are gone,they won't come back.Live wisely.God bless you.

Giving Others More Allowance & Being More Tolerant

2007-06-15T23:31:00.000-07:00

2 weeks since I last wrote anything here.Plenty has happended.In fact,24 hours a day seem too little for me.There's so much to do yet so little time.

I had to work,and my dad had to go to hospital for an eye operation.Trust me,the hospital is not a nice place to be in.And I feel sorry for the doctors and nurses and at the same time appreciate them.They seem to have no life.The patients are never-ending.They don't even have the time to eat.

Anyway,recently something happended to make me think twice before getting impatient with people.I'm constantly on the move and I move fast.I get pissed when people block my way or somehow delay me for no good reason.

I can't seem to understand why people must be slow.Can't they be more alert?Can't they make way when someone is trying to pass through?

When I'm walking in shopping malls or along the street,if someone is obstructing me,I'll wait for a few seconds for them to realise I'm there.If they don't,I'll just push my way through.When driving along expressways,I really hate it when some idiots cut into the right lane(fast lane) and then travel at only 90km/h.

If I'm driving at 90,I'll move into the center lane.But usually I drive between 100 to 120km/h.Most of the time I'm in the right lane.And I get real irritated when an idiot in front of me is travelling at 80 or 90.

You can say that I'm a critical person.Because I have high expectations of myself.I expect people to be the same.I don't like to obstruct people and I always want things to be done fast.Never like wasting time.

But one day...I realised that I obstructed people too.But without meaning to.I had too many things on my mind.

One evening,I was crossing Boundary Road...I saw a car approaching.But thinking that the traffic light turned red,it would stop and I could cross.Despite the pedestrian light being red,I still crossed.

Because I was deep in thought,I walked very slowly.That car stopped for me to cross.But when I reached the other side of the road,I realised something...

The turning light was green,and that car was intending to turn.At that moment I felt really bad.I shouldn't have crossed.That driver was in the right.He could have sounded his horn.But he didn't.He probably gave me the benefit of the doubt that I didn't intentionally wanted to obstruct his way.

From that moment onwards,I started to become more patient and tolerant towards others.Sometimes we get angry with people for obstructing our way or delaying us.It doesn't affect the other person at all.But it spoils our day.

I learnt one thing...before getting angry with someone who obstructs your way,just think in this way..."Maybe he/she has something on his/her mind.He/she doesn't mean to obstruct my way.".

When you start thinking in this way,you won't feel so mad.And you become a more tolerant person.I have learnt my lesson.If you are also an impatient person like me,you might want to do the same thing as I did.

"As Long As My Children & Grandchildren Are Blessed,I'm Happy,It's Money Well Spent." - Grandpa

2007-06-08T08:56:00.000-07:00

I seldom write about people.But this is one person that I respect tremendously.I didn't know too much about him.Until after this trip to Xiamen.I discovered that he was not the person I made him out to be.

He is none other than my Ah Gong(My mum's father).My initial impression of my Ah Gong is that he's a very serious and strict person.Though he's easy going,he can be pretty stubborn at times.

He is 84 years old this year,but he's still healthy and strong.As you can see in the 2 photos below.The photo directly below is taken at Huan Dao Road Waterfront Park,Xiamen.

The photo below is taken at the Xiamen Ferry Terminal,going towards Gu Lang Yu.The cute little boy is my cousin Jia Jia.

You may be wondering what made me respect my grandpa so much...

Well,the story starts off when I was around 9 years old.One night,my parents left me at home with nothing to eat.I was terribly hungry then.Around 9pm,my grandma called.She asked if I had eaten.I said nope.She said she'll cook and bring down some food for me.

I thought she was kidding.You know...adults like to give empty promises to kids.(Well,I won't do that to my kids)

At around 10pm,my grandma and grandpa arrived at my home with a few dishes and rice,all put in a tiffin carrier.There was Fried Fish and Braised Pork.I was very touched by what they did.Nearly cried.

My parents came back,surprised at why my grandparents are at my home.Then my grandma told them the whole story.My parents left me at home because I was naughty.

Till this day,I have not forgotten what my grandparents have did for me that day.I'm looking for any chance to repay their kindness.

That was in Singapore.When I went over to China,I discovered that my grandpa was a philantrophist.He contributed a lot of money to repair the roads to his village in his hometown.Besides the roads,he helped to raise funds for the village school,refurnished the temple and his ancestors' house.

When I went back with him,I realised that he was very well respected there.His brother passed away at a young age.My grandpa took up the responsibility for providing for his brother's children.

I realised why they respected him so much.He was very generous and kind towards his relatives.When they saw him,you could see the joy in their eyes.They are sincerely happy to see him back.

See the house in the photo below?That was built by my grandpa 31 years ago.Back then his business wasn't doing very well.But the relatives asked him for money to build the house.He agreed even though he wasn't that well to do.Of course my grandma was pretty mad about it.
Before I went over,my grandma told me to be wary of my grandpa's China relatives.Why?I asked my grandma.She told me that they very "gian lui"(money face in Hokkien).Not only that,they are also busybodies.

I was quite careful when I went over.But they were not as bad as what grandma commented.In fact,I kind of liked them because of their sincerity.

After sometime then I understood why grandma didn't like them.It seems that they keep asking for donations from grandpa and he seems to spending a lot of money there.I asked grandpa why did grandpa object to him donating money to the village projects.

His response was quite overwhelming.He spoke indignantly...

"Your ah ma is a 'gian siap gui'(miser in Hokkien).To me,doing good is more important.This type of money is well spent.After all,my doing all these,I'm sowing good seeds.As long as my children & grandchildren are blessed,I'm happy.It's money well-spent."

I agree with him.As long as the money is spent blessing others,it's money well spent.I totally agree with my grandpa.However,not many people agree with me.Especially my parents.Well,see if you agree with this...

If you can give,it means that you have plenty.You can't outgive God.God blessed you to be a blessing to others.If you become miserly and selfish,how can God trust you with more blessings?

Of course the above is my own theory.I believe that I'm living in an abundant world.I believe that God blessed me to be a blessing to others.And indeed,when I start blessing others,I myself get more blessings.

Try it.Be a giver.When you start giving,you will receive more.The good energy gets transferred.

The photo above shows the door of my grandpa's ancestors' home.The whole house was refurnished because of his donations.

The photo below shows the roof of the ancestors' home.Look at all the holes being patched.It was all my grandpa's contributions.

Of course my grandpa suffered certain setbacks when he was too helpful and generous.There were some people who tried to cheat his money.There was this relative who cheated him RMB 3 million.But this joker's son died mysteriously a few years ago.Is God fair?I think He is.

Grandpa asked my uncle to help him get the money back from this joker.I went with them to negotiate.Although I didn't participate,I found this joker very cunning.He kept telling my grandpa how pitiful he was and how bad his financial situation was.

My grandpa felt sorry and didn't really pursue the matter too forcefully.That's his weak point.He tends to sympathise with people easily.Even if they are pretending to be in a sorry state.In the end the case was left hanging.

Interesting,although grandpa didn't study the Laws of Prosperity like me,he seemed to know a little bit about them.One day,I was chatting with him about this relative from my dad's side who is always jealous of others being better than him.And whenever this happends,that relative will try his best to sabotage that person who is better than him.

The response from my grandpa startled me.This was what he said..."How can this person attract good into his life if he keeps getting jealous of others?"

Then he continued...."We must be happy for others,celebrate their success and happiness.In this way,then we will also attract good into our lives."

Wow,isn't that from Randy Gage's Prosperity CD album?But hey my grandpa doesn't understand english,let alone speak it.

One thing that drew him closer to me was this...

I didn't know he had the same interest as me until the day we returned from Xiamen.I bought a biography of the World's Tea King,Li Rui He,at the Xiamen Airport before leaving.Grandpa asked me what I bought.I showed him.He told me it was good to read such books.

Then I asked him if he read a lot of biographies.He told me yes.He loved to learn from the successful people.Hey,that's just like me.I love to read biographies too.Throughout all these years of studying in Marco University,I have learnt a lot from biographies.

Hahaha I was so happy to know that there was someone in the family who shared a lot in common as me.I always thought I was the odd one out.I'm really glad that I went to Xiamen this time.If not I wouldn't have known my grandpa for who he really is.

I'm thankful to God that He has given me wonderful grandparents.I know that there's ONE gift I can give them to make them happy.Just that ONE GIFT...

And that is to be successful and make them proud of me.My grandparents are always very happy when any of their grandchildren achieve results,whether in studies or work.One of the reasons I have to become successful,other than for myself,is for them.

May God bless them with great health,happiness and bless my business.And bless you reader.May you be prosperous.

Is It Easy Being A Parent For JUST A Few Hours?

2007-05-30T07:47:00.000-07:00

I guess it all boils down to a few things...1.Do you love kids?2.Is it your kid that you are parenting?

Oh well,when I was in China,I had my chance of "being a parent" for a few hours.I learnt a few things about parenting while I was there...

See this cute boy here?He's my cousin Jia Jia.He's 7 this year.Kind of reminds me of my younger days.Jia Jia is an active kid,he loves running around,exploring new things and lastly,he can be full of pranks.

There were a few occasions,my uncle told me to take care of him when the of them were not with us.Initially I did have a little challenge in making him stay in sight.Being active and curious,Jia Jia loves to move around.Sometimes I can lose sight of him if I'm shopping.

He can suddenly "disappear" and I had to look for him.I got a little frustrated initially.

BUT...

Come and think of it...wasn't I like that when I was his age?I kinda ignore what the adults said.I would run wild and explore whatever new places that I find interesting.

I wonder how my older cousins felt when they had to look after me during my younger days.I hereby apologise for all the inconvienence caused.Probably God is giving me a taste of handling an active kid.

When I'm in Singapore,I hear young parents nagging their kids "Hey,can you please don't do that?" and "Please lah,I beg you,can you be more well-behaved?".

Whenever I hear that,I always think that these parents don't know how to handle their kids.However,this time round...I was in their position.I was nagging Jia Jia.Of course I didn't use the 2 sentences mentioned above.

I merely told him not to wander around and not to touch the floor with his hands.Apparently my words fell on deaf ears.He continued to do as he wished.My nagging continued.

Oh no,I thought to myself.I seem to be in the same position of the young parents I see in Singapore.But then what can I do?He's not my kid and I can't use my method to discipline him.(But of course that's not a good method to use.)

Are you wondering what's my method?OK,I'll tell you.My method is very simple.I will tell you nicely what not to do.If you continue,I'll issue a warning.If my warning is not heeded,when you get home,you'll get it from me.It's that simple.

But he is not my kid,I can't possibly use this method.I decided to try another method...

I started to try to talk sense to him.Explain to him why he mustn't do this and why he mustn't do that.After the explaination,then I'll tell him the penality if he disobeys.My penality is that I won't bring him out if he disobeys me.

Now,this method really works.On our 2nd outing,he was very obedient.Didn't cause any problems.Wow,that's a new way of doing it.My parents use to cane and slap me when I disobeyed.

But did that help?It didn't.I became more rebellious.I didn't like it when people threaten me.

I think ultimately there's one important thing to understand...Kids are very innocent.There's no such thing as a bad kid.To me,bad kids are "made",not born.All kids are born good.

Kids may be talkative,disobedient and mischievious.It's because they want to have fun.They never have any ill-intentions to cause their parents or teachers to be angry.In fact,they want the approval of their parents and teachers.

The problem is that parents and teachers keep telling them they are bad.And never give them a chance to be good.Like myself for instance...

In primary school,my behaviour was always "Fair","Satisfactory".It was never "Good" or "Very Good".My mum will always say "Can't you be a good boy?Your results may be good,but your behaviour should be good or very good.".

After hearing what she said,I tried my best to be "good".But most of my teachers never gave me a chance.Except Mrs Sylvia Yeo,Mrs Collen Sheares and Mrs Tan(my chinese teacher).These 3 teachers believed in me.They told me I had potential and always offered words of encouragement to me.

Singapore should have more teachers like them.During their lessons,I did try to be "good".And they did tell me that I can be "good".The other teachers told me I was bad,I was naughty and etc...

End result?I became more "bad" and naughty than ever.I would keep disrupting lessons and really give them a hard time.I would get hit by rulers and get canned.But did all these stop me?They didn't.

But I wish to say here that I didn't harbour any ill-intentions towards any of my teachers.I didn't have the intention to cause them anyway problems.I was just talkative and mischievious when I was young that's all.Probably they couldn't accept me back then.

Coming back to my cousin Jia Jia...I think he's much more well behaved than me.He was willing to give my uncle(his dad) and my grandpa leg massage when they came back home.I never did those things when I was a kid.

I would try to find people to play some pranks on.Many of my relatives couldn't stand me back then.If anyone got targeted,God bless them.Hahahaha.But those days are over.I've got past the stage of playing pranks.Though now I play different games.

If you are a parent and your kid is giving you problems,just be patient with him/her.Always try to talk sense before you nag or punish him/her.Make your kid understand why you want him/her to do something and not do another thing.

Nagging will cause you to "lose your power".If you talk in a very serious tone,your kid will know that you really mean business.Usually kids will "stop their nonsense" when being spoken to in a very serious tone.I think that works quite well.Don't need to get angry or frustrated.

Probably God's training me up to be a good parent to my 4 kids.Praise God,He's always "upgrading" me.

Hope you've enjoyed this post.More are coming...

How I Learnt About The Power Of Love From A Great Couple

2007-05-07T10:20:00.000-07:00

What you are about to read...is a love story of 2 people who are thousands of miles apart.And yet they overcame all the obstacles to their relationship.

Imagine this...you are in Singapore and your girlfriend is in the United States of America.How would you maintain the relationship?Would you have given up?If someone better came along?

I do not know this myself.But I saw the power of love for the first time in my life.Of course there are books and dramas that talk and show the power of love.But trust me,experiencing and seeing it first hand is another thing altogether.

Let me introduce my 2 good friends...the charming,smiley guy is Justin.Justin has been my friend since our army days.Time flies.We met in 2001,it's already 2007 now.But we are still very good friends.

Our common interest is good food.We love eating good food and make it a point once per month to meet up for some nice buffet.Justin is a very friendly and reliable chap.If he promises to do something for you,he'll do it.

But sometimes being too nice a guy causes others to take advantage of him.

The cute gal with the nice smile is Connie,Justin's fiancee.Or the future Mrs Zhang.Connie is a very friendly person.She is a good listener.A nice person to talk to.

On yes,those are not their kids by the way.They are not married yet.But they sure look like a happy family.

How they met?Well,through the Internet of course.When I first heard this news,I was happy and concerned at the same time.Throughout all the years,I've been through a lot of internet dating and my experience hasn't been that great.

I was happy that my friend had found his true love,but I was also skeptical at the same time.Whether the realtionship will really work out?My experience told me that relationships formed over the internet are very "shaky" or unstable.

Things go on fine until the day when both parties meet each other.I was afraid that my good friend might get hurt.After all,he has been hurt a few times during his schooldays.But I didn't want to discourage him.

Sometime last year,Justin told me he was going over to see Connie in the States.That was my first lesson...LOVE KNOWS NO DISTANCE.

No matter how far,if 2 people really love each other,they will somehow meet up.No matter what it takes,they will still meet up.

Then I realised another thing...Justin seem to have changed to another person.During our army days,he wasn't as happy as he is now.Connie became the "light of his life".She brightened up his life.I have never seen Justin smile so much before.

Whenever he talks to me about her,I can literally feel his joy.It's as if I'm also in a great relationship like him.

Of course when the relationship is in it's "honey-moon" period,everything is fine.There will be no quarrels.Both parties will find each other the "best person" in the world.Does that happend to you?It happended to me before.

Their first obstacle came one day.I won't elaborate here because it's their private affair.Justin was pretty sad.But after sometime they managed to resolved it.I kept asking myself...if I was in Justin's position,what would I do?I'll probably have given up.But Justin didn't.He decided to love all the way.

I really salute him for that.(Hey,I don't just salute anyone.People salute me usually.)Hahaha my army friends know what I mean by that.

But seriously,I salute him for his decication to the relationship.

Now how do they maintain the relationship,despite being so far away from each other?Justin tells me that he calls Connie every night at around 10:30pm.It's morning in the States.They would talk and after which he'll go and sleep.

I think when people are really in love,they can talk every night and don't find it a chore.Probably I have yet to find someone whom I can talk to every night and don't get bored.As a person born under the Monkey sign,I get bored easily.It's not easy to sustain my interest.

Or maybe because I wasn't really in love back then?One of my ex girlfriends like to talk on the phone every night.For the first few weeks I was okay with it.But after that it really became a chore.Especially when you've just met up earlier.

Is it my fault?I don't know.Someone enlighten me.But I don't like to waste too much time on the phone.As a busy businessman,I have a lot of things to do.I can't afford to talk 2 to 3 hours on the phone every night.My ex was very angry with me when I made that comment.

She told me that my business was more important than her.Well,it's true.If my business don't work out,who is going to support the family?

But since it's working out for Justin and Connie,I think I should change my thinking and strike a balance on the phone conversations.That is for my next girlfriend.If you are reading this,please don't blame me if I spend too little time on the phone with me.

For the past 2 weeks,I met up with Justin and Connie twice over meals and outing.It was Connie's first time in Singapore.I realised one thing,photos are deceiving.Connie looks a lot better in person than in the photos.

Haha I think I do too.:P

The thing I gained was I finally knew how to really love and care for someone else.After looking at them,I think I'll be a better boyfriend.I was very touched by them.Connie has problems walking,and yet Justin was willing to accept her for who she was.

That was really great love being demonstrated.Justin will walk slowly with her and keep a lookout for her,making sure that she could walk properly without slipping.We went to many places which weren't really flat ground.But Justin is always looking after Connie to make sure she is ok.

We went to a few places.To the Chinatown Heritage Center,to eat Outram Park Roasted Meat(my favourite roast meat stall) and to Little India.Just by looking at them was a good enough reward.But of course,I enjoyed their company tremendously too.

Oh yes,one more thing that came to my mind...If you want to manifest a great relationship,try to take a look at people with a great relationship.Feel their joy.Then try to visualise yourself in that relationship which you desire.

It may not be the same person you are looking at.Visualise yourself with someone you like.You may not know the person.But just visualise the looks.Imagine as if you are really holding hands with that person that you want to be with.

Think of the words you'll say to each other.Get into the intense feeling of excitement and anticipation.Keep doing that and you'll be able to attract that relationship you desire soon.Remember,you must add in feelings.Don't just visualise.Visualise with feelings.

Of course,I'm practicing what I preach.Whatever I mentioned above,I'm doing it myself.You are not alone.I don't preach things that I don't practice.

Saturday,5th May,I went to Changi Airport to see Connie off with Justin.I felt sad.I would miss Connie.Justin probably felt worse than me.He told me he wasn't going home after the sentoff.Despite feeling sad inside,Justin was very encouraging towards me.

I was asking Connie when she'll come back again to Singapore.She told me probably 2 years later.I told Justin that 2 years later I'll probably get attached or married.He told me it'll be a good thing,the woman that I choose would be very lucky.

Why?I was puzzled.I asked him why...he told me that I was someone who will also love all the way.Am I?I didn't know myself.I only knew I got hurt in the process last time.

But Justin told me something which I had already forgotten.It was 6 years ago...

He reminded me that I was willing to learn stitching just to make something for one of my ex-girlfriends.I have forgotten about that.After he telling me,I remembered that I gave the half-conpleted stitch to "302".

Because the relationship ended before I finished stitching.

But on second thoughts...yes.Even though that ex wasn't worth my effort,I shouldn't hold back in loving someone.Like Justin and Connie.They loved each other completely.I will follow their example in this.

After all...the one who is chosen by me should deserve the best from me right?Hahaha,we'll see about that.

Anyway,I'm going away on Wednesday.Won't be blogging for a while.I'll be back on 18th May.Probably you will hear about my travels.I'm going to Xiamen.

Meanwhile,stay prosperous and God bless.

How Can Playing King Of Fighters 2002 Train Up Your Mental Strength

2007-04-27T11:17:00.000-07:00

It's weekend.What are you plans?For me it's going to be the same old boring weekend.Or rather a negative weekend where I have to strategise and fight wars.

Anyway,that's not the subject today.You are not going to learn how to fight wars,but rather how to fight yourself.Have you heard of the saying "The greatest enemy in life is yourself"?I think that's pretty true.Sometimes you want to achieve something,but it's you stopping you.

If you really want to do something,no one can stop you except yourself.What do you really want?Are you willing to pay the price for it?

Back to the subject of King Of Fighters 2002...Being a King Of Fighters fan,I've been playing it since 1994.Despite the 13 years of playing,I'm still not that good at it.Why?Because I believed that I wasn't good enough back then.

But after going through so many self-development books and audios,I decided to make myself better.At least better than last time and not give up and run away from problems.I used to have this problem with using the slammers,i.e. Clark Steel,Goro Daimon,Orochi Yashiro.

I didn't know to slam my opponents.Actually it's a mental block.I just needed to practice and I'll be able to do it.Recently,I decided to get over this mental block.I decided to practice till I'm able to use the slammers.

Started with Clark first.When using slammers,the first thing you need to do is to gauge the distance correctly.If you are too far,you can't slam.If you are too near,you may get attacked by your enemy.

I tried to use a combo (Heavy punch then slam).I failed many times trying to execute the combo.Because the timing was wrong.You need to be very fast.The minute when the first hit is executed,you need to do the semi-circle forward+heavy kick to complete the combo.

After many many tries,I'm now able to it.It all comes with your mindset.If you believe you can do it,you can do it.Believe that you can't,you are also right.

However,that is not my main topic tonight.As promised,I'll show you how you can use King Of Fighters 2002 to train up your mental strength...

You probably know about the Desparate Super Moves(You can only execute them when you have less than 10% of life left).They are supposed to deal a ton of damage to your opponent.But it's not easy to execute them and make sure the move hits the enemy.

Some of the moves are slow.If you did not time correctly,you risk getting counter-attacked.Others can only hit if the distance is correct.If it's too far,you'll miss.Speaking of the desparate moves,some of them are slightly more complexed than the normal Super Moves.

You need speed,accuracy and timing in executing them,so that they hit the opponent.

Now,here's where the mental strength training comes in...

When there's only 10% of life left,what's your normal reaction?You'll be nervous right?Nervous because you might be K.O.ed anytime if you are not careful.And when you are nervous,it's not easy for you to execute the Desparate Moves correctly.

I don't know if that happends to you.It happends to me.I'm training myself to calm down so that I'm able to execute the moves accurately.When I do that,I'm fighting against myself.My mind will keep responding nervously,and if I don't keep it in control...I'm unable to execute the moves correctly.

Let me quote a real life example.You probably know about Ryuji Yamazaki's Desparate Move.You need to do a semi-circle backwards 2 times on the joystick followed by B+D.The semi-circle backwards 2 times need to be done very fast,if not the move will not execute.

Now,there may be many ways of making sure the move really hits.I've seen experts going into counter-attack mode(B+C button together),then keep comboing with special moves and ending with the Desparate Move.

I admit here that I'm not that good.Because I don't spend as much time as them training.But my way of doing it is to jump and land in front of the enemy.Then quickly execute the move.I notice this method works.

Instead of moving forward and risk being counter-attacked,jumping over is a good way to execute slam moves.

Ok,back to the topic again.Now,when my life bar is only 10% left,I start to get real nervous.To make things worse,I need to concentrate on getting close to the enemy without being attacked.The enemy will keep moving around.You need to keep gauging the distance and where to land.As well as the direction you are facing,so that you execute the move correctly.

Once the facing direction changes,you need to change the execution.For example,semi-circle backwards may change to semi-circle forward.It depends on which direction your enemy is.

When I first started off,I wasn't able to execute the move at all.It was a total flop.I only get one chance for every match.There are 7 matches,excluding Rugal.Trust me,if you are an average player,you won't want to try those moves on Rugal.

In all the 7 matches,I have only 1 chance per match to try out Yamazaki's Desparate Move.Sometimes the first opponent of the enemy team is too easy.And I end up with a full life bar.I need to wait till the third opponent to have a chance to do the Desparate Move.

When that opportunity comes,I need to calm myself down.Then look for a chance to execute the move and make sure it will hit the enemy.Certain opponents are easier to hit,while others are more difficult to hit.

In this case,the ones that are easier to hit are...Yashiro,Terry,Joe,Maxima,Kensou,Chang.These are all I can think of for the time being.Reason is because they like to move close to you.And you can easily block their moves.

Like for Yashiro,he likes to use the move where he jumps up and hits down at you.You can easily counter that.As for Terry,he likes to keep doing Burning Kunckles.Just need to block then execute the Desparate move.

Those more difficult to hit are...Athena,Choi,Chris,Kim,Vice.These few characters like to keep jumping around.It's difficult to land near them and execute the moves.Sometimes if you are lucky,you can hit them with the Desparate move.

Now,it took me many tries to calm myself down to execute the moves.I had to keep training my mind to keep calm despite the excitement and nervousness.During the first few tries,it's going to be tough.

But keep going.Don't give up.I kept doing it.And now,I'm able to keep calm and execute the moves with more precision.

Another combo move that requires precision and speed is Orochi Yashiro's (Quater-circle backwards+A,catch the opponent,run forwards,Press C then Forwards+A and immediately Semi-circle backwards,forwards + C).

It took me many tries to master this one.I've seen people ending this combo with the Super Move instead of the normal slam.I will try to master this one too.

But the moral of the story is that you can train up your mental strength by playing this game.Although it's just a fighting game,you can also gain something from it.I'm sure you can,because I've gained more mental strength from this game.

Think about this...in real life,when a situation arises,what's the first thing you need to do?Keep calm right?I personally believe that learning to keep calm during situation is a very important discipline to have.

Another use of this discipline is this...Consider this scenario...You are very angry because someone insulted you.You fumed and felt like shouting all the worst obscenities you can think of at that moment.

However,whatever you could think of at that moment was very limited.You kept repeating what you said immediately.Your mind seems to be blank.

After the incident...

Your mind starts working.Then you start wondering..."Why did I use this word and that word?It will be more impactful than what I said."

But you did not consider something...at that moment,you were fuming mad.That's why your mind couldn't think clearly.As a result,whatever words you used at that moment didn't have the greatest impact.

Now,think about this from another perspective...what would happend if you had kept calm?What would happend if you thought out your words correctly at that moment?And make sure that they had the most impact on your opponent?

You would end up laughing and your opponent would be the one who will be fuming mad.But instead,right now,you are the one fuming mad.Sounds silly?It's the truth.Has this happended to you before?

But let's face it,sometimes you didn't expect people to be so rude.That's why you are not prepared for their insults.But that's life.How are you able to know who will insult you?And when?You can't tell.

And when you lack preparation,you can't fight well and strategise.You need to fight there and then.However,keeping calm at that moment will decide your fate between victory and failure.

Which do you want?You decide.

Many times I was insulted and I got really angry about it.Ended up I lose the verbal war.Because I lost my ability to think and respond correctly.The worst words to use is vulgar words.Well,I do use them sometimes.Though I personally feel that when you want to really insult a person...

Using vulgar words is a low class method.The high class method of doing it is to be sarcastic.

BUT...

In order to be sarcastic,your mind needs to be calm.You need to think carefully where to poke at that person,so that he/she will flare up.You need to know which are the hot buttons to press.Once you can do that,they won't try to be funny with you again.

At the same time you must be sarcastic with style.Especially when you are dealing with the elders.Sometimes these old fools are too free.They like to insult youngsters,saying that they are old and wise while the young people are young and stupid.Always doing the wrong things.No discipline and spend and lot of money etc etc etc...

I'm sure you encountered this kind of shit before.My rule is very simple "If I don't live off you,you got no damn right to teach me how to spend money."

I get frustrated with these people.It's none of their damn business.I don't live off them anyway.And why can't they mind their own business?

But always keep calm.Remember that.When you are calm,your sarcasism can reach it's full potential.Hahaha.And these losers won't dare to insult and talk any nonsense about you the next time.

OK,let me share with you a few tatics...when you want to push hot buttons,always know what your opponents get affected by.Which are the things that they are really frustrated about?Example...Maybe they are broke?Or maybe no galfriend or boyfriend?Or maybe they just hate the world for some stupid thing...

I don't know.You got to figure that out yourself.But no matter what,keep calm at all times.

Hope you had fun reading as much as I did writing.Have a blessed weekend ahead.:)

Oh yeah,for your enjoyment,take a look at this Awesome Combo Video Clip below...

"It is not the difficulty of the task that stops most people - it's how difficult they perceive it to be." - Morris Goodman

2007-04-25T10:04:00.000-07:00

Discover how a man survived an air crash...and recovered to lead a normal life.Despite being told by his doctors that he's going to be a vegetable for life.Even if he survived.

It's my 100th post today.There's something I want to share with you today.A story of how this man overcame all the odds stacked against him.Based on his fighting spirit and his will to live,he managed to create his own miracles.

Many of us today give up too easily.Myself included.How about you?Do you give up at the slightest obstacle you face?Especially when things don't go your way?

After reading about this man,I felt ashamed of myself.A normal person giving up easily?As compared to someone who wasn't able to speak at all and bedridden.I was really inspired by Morris Goodman,The Miracle Man.

I'll share his story with you here in summarised form.If you are really interested,go buy his book.I think it's worth every single cent.

Morris Goodman was at the pinnacle of his sales career.Although only in his early 30s,he had already founded his own company.In addition,he had qualified for insurance's exclusive Top of the Table Award.

Goodman also realized another dream.He had just bought his own single-engine plane.On March 10 1981,his plane crashed.

As a result of the crash,Morris Goodman was left with a broken neck and a body damaged so badly mangled he was hardly expected to survive.And even if he did survived,the doctors predicted that he would be a vegetable for life.

Though his body was destroyed,his spirit was stronger than ever.Unable to speak,eat or move,or even breath without the respirator,Goodman was determined to regain the full use of his body.

If you were in Morris Goodman's shoes,what would you do?What would be on your mind?Give up and die?Or to allow your survival to be dictated by fate?I think I'll probably just give up and go see the Lord in Heaven.But not Goodman.

Like every normal human being,he is also affected by the tradegy.But what made him different was he that he didn't just get pulled down by negativity.He fought negativity.He was determined to win.But question is...how to win that big battle of faith?

Here's what he did.It's something you and I can do.It's very simple...Just 5 simple steps.

Step 1:When you have a huge goal,you need to split it up into smaller chunks.
Step 2:Priorotize each chunk.Which one should you start on first?
Step 3:Concentrate on what you are doing.Give it all you've got!
Step 4:Once you finish it,move on to the next important chunk.
Step 5:Keep repeating until you complete the whole goal.

The first issue at hand for Morris Goodman was survival.He needed to survive the operations immediately after the crash.There was nothing to be done,but to focus on survival.Despite his body feeling weak,he fought hard.Until his condition stablized.

Let's talk about you now...what issue on hand do you think needs to be handled first?Do that one first.

Once Goodman's condition was stable,he needed to communicate.At that time,he could only blink his eyes.Fortunately,his sister made an Alphabet Card for him to be able to communicate.He just needed to blink his eyes to tell them which alphabet he's referring to.

Next,he set himself a goal to be independant of the respirator he's using.Goodman knew that if he was to tell the doctors what he was up to,they would tell him it's impossible.At that point of time,he doesn't need anymore discouragement.

He started by taking 100 deep breaths,then a 5 minute rest.Then repeating the process.As he was doing this,his chest ached.After numerous practices,he was able to take 200 deep breaths.Very soon,that number increased to 300.

Finally,the doctor got him off the respirator.

Goodman proceeded on to try to get around independantly on a wheelchair.He succeeded after many sessions of physiotherapy.

After sometime,his speech therapist brought a machine for him to try.He was supposed to step on a pedal to form words and sentences.Goodman refused to accept that he was supposed to step on a pedal to speak for the rest of his life.

The machine fired up a white-hot intense belief deep within him that he would somehow overcome his physical limitations and continue on the road to full recovery.

Goodman made tremendous progress in his recovery.But he was still missing out on one of the pleasures of life-eating.Once he made up his mind to try,he told his nurse to go across the road to get him an orange freeze.She was skeptical whether he could swallow.He said he will try.

He started with small spoonfuls until the whole cup of freeze was finished.Goodman was so excited that he wanted to tell everyone of his amazing feat.However,the doctor was very mad when he discovered it.The doctor responded that Goodman might have easily choked to death.

Undeterred,Goodman worked on improving his swallowing so that he could improve his diet.As time went by,he was able to eat normally.In the end,he was served normal meals.

The next challenge he faced was trying to walk...Goodman started by practicing being able to support his own weight while standing.At first he could only stand for only 5 minutes.But every few days he was improving by only half a minute or so.

Whenever Goodman became frustrated with his slow progress,he would remember what his doctor said "If he survivies,he will be paralyzed,only able to blink his eyes the rest of his life.The most hope I can give you is that in 20 months he might,and I emphasize the word might,be able to sit in the wheelchair without being strapped in."

By keep trying,Goodman progressed on to walking his first step.He didn't succeed at first,but in the end he was able to take 3 steps before falling back to his wheelchair.

After gaining progress in all the different areas,Goodman set a goal to be home by Christmas.It was June then.Because of his tremendous progress,he was able to go home on 17 November.He needed to keep going for physiotherapy even after his discharge to fully recover.

Goodman got his full time physiotherapist.The fees were paid by his insurance coverage.After a few months,he was finally able to lead a normal life again.

I have summarised this story.It would really be benefical for you to get the book and read it.Sometimes in life,we tend to take things for granted.Our health,our family,our ability to do things we love and our freedom.

I have learnt to be grateful for my health and everything that I have.How about you?Has this story inspired you?Has it made you a more determined person?I hope you are inspiried,just as I was by the Miracle Man.

Stay Prosperous and Blessed.

BEWARE:Whatever You Write Down & Hold In Your Mind Comes To Past

2007-04-23T07:55:00.000-07:00

2 incidents happended within these few days that made me want to share them with you...

In some part of your life,maybe as a kid,have you ever wished that you had a lamp like Aladdin?I did.And many years later,I found my lamp.

You are going to discover by the end of this post...how,you too can have a "magic lamp" like me.

You probably read in some of my previous posts,I used Thomas Pauley's method to manifest a number of things that I wanted in my life.I managed to get good results.However,I discovered that there's a shortcut to his method...

If you have read "I'm Rich Beyond My Wildest Dreams,I am,I am, I am",you probably know that you need a ring note book to write down all your desires.You need to first write down the desires you want in the first section.In the second section,you need to write each of your desire in detail.Then you end off with the statement that the Law of Attraction brings you together with love and understanding.

Now...I realised that for small desires,you can skip the second part.Let me explain what do I mean by small desires and big desires...

Small desires are desires that you know you can achieve in a short span of time.You know that it's very easy to attain.Small desires include things like watching a certain movie,or buying a certain book,or buying a certain game.

It's just a matter of you stepping out of your house and getting it done.

Big desires are "tougher" to achieve.Big desires can be things like wanting to find a suitable life partner,or maybe reaching financial freedom,or maybe living in that dream house that you desire.

Of course all these depends on where you are and what's your belief system like.For someone who is already very rich,reaching financial freedom and living in a dream house maybe a small desire.

I have a few friends who wrote down all big desires and didn't write down any small desires.In the end,they complain that the method doesn't work.My personal experience is you should write down all your desires,be it big or small.

When the small desires manifest,you'll start believing that the big desires can manifest as well.

Now,you probably have this question in mind...which is our main topic tonight...

"What if I suddenly change my mind and don't want that desire anymore?"

I won't give you the answer right away.Read on and find out what happended to me this few days.Then form your own conclusion...

Last week,I wanted to catch 2 movies,Sunshine and Shooter.However,I was having a course from Tuesday to Saturday.I had to cramp everything into Monday.After checking the showtimes schedule,I decided to watch Sunshine first,then Shooter.

However,when I reached the cinema,the counter staff told me I'll be missing the first 15 minutes of the Shooter if I watch Sunshine first.I happended to be a daze that day,forgetting that I calculated the duration of the show.

Ended up I watched Sunshine and Turistas.Because Turistas started at 3pm.But then I was very disappointed with the 2 shows.Both story lines sucked big time.Trust me,don't waste money on these 2 shows.

I had no choice but to give Shooters a miss.My mind kept working...how could I watch the show despite my hectic schedule.Should I watch at Princess or Tampines?Because my course is held at Tampines.

However,I didn't have any chance to watch it.After my course each day,I had something else on.In the end I got fed up.I decided that maybe I don't want to watch it after all.And I left it there.

I decided to try an experiment.Since I had already written down my desire,what would happend if I decided that I wanted to "cancel order"?

Weekend came and go...

I wanted to catch 200 Pounds Beauty and Nightmare Detective today.However the timing was not right.If I watched one,I had to give up the other.And I got to wake up really early.Next thing is that I needed to go to Bras Basah to buy book covers for my new book.

Maybe I check the movie timings again and see if any of the 2 shows are showing at Shaw Towers.I checked but none of the 2 shows were showing there.BUT...

Shooters was showing at 2:55pm.The timing is just right.I can wake up late and make it on time for dinner at home.At the same time I can buy my book covers too.

I went...and it was showing at Prince 1(Big Screen).It was an enjoyable show.Recommended.If you love snipers,you should watch it.

This is the first incident.Let's move on to the second incident...

15th April 2007.Supposed to be the offical release date for Pokemon Pearl and Diamond for Nintendo DS.I was looking forward to this day.However,it's a Sunday.Probably the stock have not arrived yet.Anyway,Seow Choon games don't operate on Sundays.

I went online to check Seow Choon's website to see if the Pokemon games have arrived.Apparently they haven't.But I found out that Phoenix Wright Part 4 was out.Just that it was in Japanese.Great thing was that they had a collector's edition.I drooled at the thought of it.

I reached out for my notebook and started to write it down.As I browsed on,I found that there's also a "Mask Vision Murder Case" under the Japanese version section.Immediately that went into the note book as well.

But I thought that was part 3.Because there' s part 1,2 and 4.The logical deduction is that "Mask Vision Murder Case" is part 3.I wrote down in my notebook that I wanted Part 3.

I called up Seow Choon on 16th April.They told me the Pokemon hasn't arrived yet.It will only arrive on 21st April.Damn it.Never mind,I'll have to wait until 21st.

I decided to go down on the 20th to at buy the 2 Phoenix Wrights that I saw online.I asked whether it was in Japanese only or is there an english option in the game.They told me it's purely Japanese.Damn.I was rather disappointed.

After chatting with the gal at the counter for a while,she told me that some people just buy it to collect.After all it's out of stock in Japan.Oh well,since I can afford it.And since I love collecting this kind of stuff,why not?

I ended up buying the Japanese Collector's edition.When I asked about part 3,the gal was surprised.Because there was no part 3 for Nintendo DS.I told her it's called Mask something.She went to check and told me it's Part 1 in Japanese.

I decided on the spot not to buy "Mask Vision Murder" after all.I got my collector's edition and went to pay for it.The gal told me that I had accumulated 2000 points and I could upgrade my card.Instead of the usual 5% discount,I was entitled to a 7% discount plus a $20 voucher.

I was pretty happy and thought of using the voucher for buying the pokemon.The price is probably going to be around 70 plus per game.There were 2 of them.I budgeted $150 for both games.After the voucher and discount,I probably can buy another game...

Again,I was wondering...what if I "cancelled order" again for the "Mask Vision Murder"?

But later I realised that I had a 20 bucks voucher,plus there's still money left over from the $150 budget.The Pokemon cost $59 each.I might as well buy "Mask Vision Murder" to collect.Since the one I had at home is the PAL version and the look of the box suck big time.

Ended up I went down to Seow Choon's on 21st and bought everything.I still had money left over.

The moral of the story...once you write it down,it happends.I think maybe you could "cancel order" if you tear out the page and throw it away.I don't know...I'll try it one day and let you know.

Meanwhile be blessed and stay prosperous.

"Love Your Enemies" - Is This Really Necessary?

2007-04-22T12:07:00.000-07:00

I've been busy for the past week.For a good reason too,there has been considerable progress on my business.Something to be happy about.The only setback is that I didn't have enough sleep and currently I'm suffering from diahorroea.But this won't stop me from blogging.

Today let's take a look at something which is pretty common to everyone.I'm sure throughout your life,there are people who don't like you.Even if you didn't do anything against them.These people sometimes plot against you or just make life difficult for you.

Question is...How do you respond to all these people?

1.Screw them back?
2.Let things be as they are?
Or 3.try to love them?

I'm not a preacher,even though I'm a Christian.The bible says that we should love our enemies.I felt it was just something "good" and noble to do.Until a few days ago...

After reading Dale Carnegie's "How To Stop Worrying & Start Living",I discovered that there was something deeper to this.According to Dale Carnegie,he said that when you "love your enemies",you are doing yourself a big favour.

Why?

Because you are not consumed by hatred and anger.As a result,you will have better health and live as a happier person.

Well,I do agree with what he says.But I have a different approach to this matter.Personally,I feel that there are different categories of enemies.Some are mild ones,the other ones are more bitter.

You can let the mild ones go and not bother about them.The bitter ones are those that call for your concern.The bitter ones are those who will go all out to "exterminate" you.And in order to survive,you have no choice.Either fight or flight.Can you still love them?

It all depends on your perspective.Let me share mine...I feel that I can love them because I can always gain some experience from dealing with them.Or rather when I get sabotaged,I learn something in the process.

Perhaps there's something that I overlooked and allowed them the chance to sabotage me.It's a good learning experience.But on the other hand,I know that if I don't do something about them,they will get me one day.

I know that there are some people who hold grudges for a very long time.They can remember what people did to them many years ago and not forgive them.Are you one of them?Well,I used to be one of them.

But right now,there's a different approach that I would like to share with you.Because I'm gifted with a good memory,it's tough for me to forget things.I still remember what those people did.But I won't allow those feelings of negativity to dominate me.

Revenge?I don't think it's necessary.

Let me quote myself..."The Best Revenge Is To Totally Cease Contact With That Person."

Now,you may be asking me "What if this person is in my home?Or worse still he or she is my superior at work?"Let me answer your questions...

Let's say if this person is a relative or family member,I'll handle it in this way...
1.Try to make peace first.Be the gentleman first.Be nice to this person first.
If this fails,step 2...
2.Try to get away from this person.Minimize contact.Always try to shy away from negativity.If this fails,then you have no choice...Step 3.
3.Issue a warning.Warn him/her to stop all the nonsense.If not,you'll start your attack.

IMPORTANT:Show that you mean business.Never be a wimp here.These people will try to test you and see whether you really mean business.If you really whack,whack them hard.Then they won't dare to step on you again.

If this person is someone more senior than you,i.e some stupid uncle or aunt,then hint in an indirect way.Say you don't like it when people "fill in the blanks".E.g. "I don't like it when people stab me behind my back.If I happend to discover who this idiot is,I'll make sure he gets it big time from me."

That's what I do.But I don't tell that person upfront like that.I'll say it indirectly.You have to do it indirectly if not they'll say that you are not respecting your elders.Which I think it's a load of crap!

In the first place,an elder should behave like one and gain the respect of his juniors.I never buy the idea that just because someone is my elder,I should be respectful.If that person earns my respect,yes.If not,I can be pretty rude.

Well,that's me.You need not follow my example.

Now let's move on...What if this person is your superior or collegue at your work place?Basically you have 2 choices.Easiest way is to quit.Your other option is to fight.This is where politics and strategy comes in.

Sorry to say so.But when the situation warrants,you need to be tough to survive.Most of the time,you most bitter enemies come from the work place.They show no mercy.The relatives can't deal as much damage to you.

Just wondering...have you ever felt condemned?And you can see it clearly that you are treated as a 2nd or 3rd class citizen.I've been through that many times since young.

So is there a problem with me?Or is there a problem with those people who condemn me?Am I being oversensitive?Or is this really true?

Whatever the reason may be,I've come to realisation that it's useless to get upset.Simple reason...if they didn't mean to condemn you(i.e. misunderstanding),you get upset for nothing.Secondly,if they really condemn you....

There's nothing you can do to make them like you.If you ever do that,then I'm sorry to say that you are giving away your power to them.When you are affected by anyone or any circumstance,you are giving away your own power to that thing which affects you.

You are living your life based on other peoples' perception of you.Just because you are different from others or just because you have set high goals you get condemned.

Are you going to sacrifice your own life's purpose just because someone condemns you?Are you going to give up on your dream just because some idiot says that you are crazy to dream big?

I DON'T GIVE A DAMN ABOUT LOSERS.Losers are not even worthy of my attention.If they were so great,they won't be condemning people.

Usually condemnation is seen in families.There will always be the popular kid.The one who always wins praises.The one who seems to be the apple of everyone's eyes.Then there's this kid who is condemned.The one whom people try to shoot down.

Just because he has his own mindset and he thinks differently.Maybe he's a little more playful and mischievious,he gets condemned.Unlike the popular kid who is very obedient and respectful.

But should the playful kid get upset just because his relatives condemn him?No,I don't think so.He should simply ignore them.Instead,focus on what he wants to achieve in life.To hell with all those relatives.Those old bastards are going to die earlier than him anyway.

Why would he want to waste his life trying to please them?It's foolishness.

I do feel sad.For a couple of reasons...1.Why should people condemn others who seem different?2.Why do people get so affected by what others think of them?

There are so many wasted talents.So many people who didn't make it just because someone told them they couldn't.Someone told them they are plain crazy to even think big.

If you are in the situations I described,let me assure you this...I've been in all those positions before.You are going to be the WINNER.If you decide to be.No one can stop you,if you want to aim high and think big.

No one can stop you from success.Most importantly:NO ONE CAN CONDEMN YOU.If you don't allow them to do so.You are one unique creation.

Always remember this...God created only ONE YOU.You are God's unique creation.Who has the right to condemn you?When you are perfect in your heavenly Father's eyes?No matter what,God always loves you.

When you focus on God,whatever men say about you is immaterial.

One last thing before I end...

Have you ever heard this phase "You must work hard and prove to them that you are not what they say!Show them you can do it!"

Heard this before??

Hahaha my mum loves to say this.My grandpa loves to say this.My grandma loves to say this.

They all meant well I know.But let me point out something here...there's a small FLAW in this statement.

Let me ask you,why must you prove to those people who condemn you that you are good?

Just to show them?Just to get back some face?

The way I answer my mum and my grandparents is this..."I don't need to prove to anyone that I'm good.I know that I'm good.I don't need to work hard to show them.I work hard only for myself!!!"

Hey,that's the attitude man!

You work hard for yourself.And you work hard for your loved ones.You work hard for those who are concerned about you.You work hard so that one day you can help those who are less fortunate than you.

There are so many good reasons for working hard other than trying to prove losers wrong.

Do you agree with me?

Next time if anyone tries to condemn you,remember this,they are not worth you attention or "proving".Who the hell are they that you need to prove them wrong?

Your existance don't depend on them.You don't need them to survive.You don't need to take revenge.You don't need to get back some face.

YOU ONLY NEED TO SUCCEED IN YOUR ENDEAVOURS.

Before I go,let me leave you with something...

"The Best Revenge Is To Totally Cease Contact With That Person." - Marco The Great

Which Nintendo DS Game Can Increase Your Analytical Skills & Intelligence?

2007-04-12T11:32:00.000-07:00

Believe it or not,playing video games can make you more intelligent.But at the end of the day,it depends on what kind of game you play.

Recently,I've gone crazy over this Nintendo DS game that I can stay up very late every night just to continue from where I stopped.Why do I get so "addicted" to this game?

There are a few reasons...

1.It increases my analytical power.
2.It makes me more sensitive to people telling lies.
3.It makes me more intelligent.
4.I become a more careful person.
5.You don't need to hear the whole story to get the full picture in certain situations.
6.It trains me to think fast in tough situations.
7.You'll learn how to cope with sudden changes.

And this game is...

Phoenix Wright Ace Attorney - Justice For All

In this game,you play as a defence lawyer.Your role is to defend your clients for crimes which they did not commit.The witnesses will tell lies and you need to uncover the contradiction in their testimony.

If you say the wrong thing or present the wrong evidence,you'll be penalized by the judge.You have a life bar.Whenever you are penalized,a chunk of life is taken away from your life bar.Once all your life is gone,the game ends.

Let me share some of the benefits I personally gained from the game.If you know me well,you probably know that every weekend I have to fight battles.Every weekend is a political war.Enemies surround me,waiting for their chance to attack.

By playing this game,I realise that before people try to do anything,there's always a tell-tale sign.If you are able to spot the sign,you are able to tell what is going to happend next.You may not be able to 100% pin-point what your enemies are up to,but you'll get a rough idea.

Another benefit is that I don't need to know or see the full picture before knowing what my enemies are up to.Just by their conversations,I'm able to figure out what they are trying to hide.

ATTENTION GUYS:If you want to know whether anyone is lying,this is the game to train your sensitivity.I realise that women are more sensitive when it comes to catching liars.We men need to train up more.

Next,I learnt how to be more careful and thorough in checking things.Sometimes you need to check every single suspect to find the evidence that you need.Finding evidence is very important.Even in real life,without evidence,you can't nab the other party.

By playing this game,I gain the new ability of how to find evidence to nab my enemies.They are very smart in finding evidence to nab me.Best thing is they backstab without me knowing.But right now,I'm able to expose them easily.

If you are in a political enviroment like I am.Whether it's your workplace or family,this is the game to invest in!I highly recommend you this game.

Now,I'll share with you some tips on how to get the best out of the game...

Normally,we just play a game or read a book and after a while,forget about it.In order to get the best out of it,you should take it seriously.Study it.

How do you do that?Simple.Whenever you fight a case and you are stuck,don't go checking the hint book or gamefaqs.com.Try to think...think hard.What have you overlooked?The answer may not come immediately.But don't give up.

Worse come to worse,save your game,switch off your DS and go to sleep.When your mind is clearer,the answer will come.That's what I do.It works pretty well.If you really really really really can't get the answer,then go to www.gamefaqs.com to find the solution.

It may be a spoiler.But only read the part where you are stuck.Once you get past the area where you are stuck,then continue with the game.

After finding out the solution,ask yourself where have you overlooked.Once you are able to understand where you made a mistakes,the game becomes easier.During the first 2 episodes,I relied more on gamefaqs.com.From 3rd episode onwards,I was more on my own.

Next,when you are trying to find evidence,leave no stone unturned.Sometimes the least likely person is the one who committed the crime.

During the court session itself,you opponent will go all out to "kill" you.You'll have to deal with changing situations.Sometimes it seems that you are about to win the case,but suddenly your opponent turns the tables on you.This is so true in real life.There are many situations when we need to respond to changing circumstances.

The way to respond is to firstly be calm.If you are not calm,you can't think well.Same as in real life.When your enemies are attacking,remain calm and think about the options that are avaliable to you.

Once you do that,you are able to nail your opponent down easily by providing the correct piece of evidence.Even if it's not the correct piece,you are still able to make a close guess.

There are certain cases where you have to literally guess what is going on.It's during those times that your analytical power comes into play.Intuition plays a part here too.I sometimes rely on my intuition during the game.

One last tip...once you receive any new information from any witness or any new pieces of evidence,try to piece everything in your mind.See if you can "predict" what is going to happend.When you do that,you'll be able to guess and figure out what your opponent will do next.And also you'll be able to pin-point where the contradiction lies in the testimony.

Hope that you'll benefit as much as I did playing this game.Have fun!!

The Shocking Truth Behind Sad Love Songs Part 1

2007-04-09T08:13:00.000-07:00

What you are about to discover...is the shocking truth behind sad love songs.

You will hear a true story of how a seemingly innocent sad love song created a sad reality for me in love.In part 2,you will be able to see the lyrics of the song(it's a chinese song,but don't worry,I translated the lyrics into english) and view the MTV as well.

I'm sure there are times when you feel down when you relationship life is not working out the way you want it to.Sometimes you are interested in someone,but this person is not interested in you.Well,that's not so bad.You didn't have chance anyway.

But what about this...you are interested in someone,and this person is also interested in you.But somehow it's fate that separated you.How would you feel?

Well,it happended to me in 2003.But now I finally knew the truth behind this.I claim responsiblity for it.Because I attracted it.How did I attract it?Read on...

In December 2002,I went to Hong Kong with my family.Heard from many friends that Jeff Chang's new song is nice.It was the theme song of the Korean Serial Drama "Winter Sonata".

My aunt kept raving about it.My ex-girlfriend kept raving about it.But back then I was still in army,and didn't have time to watch it.They kept telling me about the theme song.My curiosity was aroused.

When I was in Hong Kong,I came across one of Jeff Chang's Best Compliation Album.There were many nice songs that I used to sing during my school days.And of course,the theme song of Winter Sonata was in it.

I decided to buy it and listen to the theme song and see if it's really that nice.
I opened up the CD immediately after reaching the hotel and listen to the theme song.

Oh my God...it was heavenly.It made me calm down when I was nervous.I got "addicted" to that song,I would keep listening to it daily.I was determined to learn it by heart,so that I could show off to my ex-girlfriend during our KTV sessions.

I made it a point to listen to this song at least once everyday.Until I mastered the whole song.Including how Jeff Chang sang it.The pauses,the dragging and etc.I made pretty good progress.The only setback was that I wasn't able to sing like Jeff Chang because his voice was very high.

Without myself knowing it,I was programming my sub-conscious mind in a very negative way.I didn't understand why...my relationship with my ex seemed to be going downhill.In November,we had some disagreements and she told me what she was unhappy about.

I did everything to change for the better.At that point I realised that I loved her deeply.Because I was afraid of losing her.I went to the extent of sending flowers to her as a surprise and came up with a love poem for her.(Honestly,I think it's a stupid poem,but women just love these kinda things.)

And I tried to give way to her most of the time,to make up for the wrong I did early on.But NOTHING seemed to work.As the days went by,our relationship went downhill all the way.

One day,we met at Esplanade(her favourite place) after work.I was feeling sick that day.Had a terrible headache and felt like going home early to rest.I wasn't able to walk properly that day.I told her that I wasn't feeling well.

Guess what?

She told me to go home by myself,she wanted to stay longer.I was shocked.I thought she would accompany me back because I wasn't able to walk properly.Didn't expect her to be so merciless.

I was quite hurt.I felt that I didn't do any wrong,why did she do this to me.I decided that if she fell sick,I wouldn't bother too.

End of March 2003...

During my physiotherapy one morning,she smsed me,saying that she was sick.I told her to see a doctor and that's it.I resisted the urge to sms and ask how she was.She should have a taste of her own medicine.

Few days passed.No sms from her either.

5th April 2003 came...I went to my superior's house to fix his computer.Suddenly an sms came.It was her...

"Who do you take me as?I'm sick and yet you never bother to find out how I am.I don't care,I want to break up."

WAH!I thought I must have went overboard.Things seem to be pretty serious.I tried my best to tell her about my unhappiness as well.She didn't accept what I said.End up we broke up.

Felt pretty sad the next few weeks.Didn't know what to do.Hoped that she would change her mind.But she didn't.

May came.It was her birthday.She invited me to her 21st Birthday Party at Pasir Ris charlet.But I felt really terrible.Throughout the whole party,she was neglecting me.I felt really unwelcome.Decided to go to the arcade for a round of King Of Fighters to make me feel better.

But it didn't make me feel better.

I made up my mind that night.Once I give up on her,I will NEVER turn back.I had to let go and life goes on.I can't let my life waste away because of her.

UP TILL THEN,I STILL DIDN'T KNOW THE NEGATIVE INFLUENCE OF THAT SONG.

In fact,just after the breakup,I listen to that song more frequently.Because I felt that song was describing me.

THE ACTUAL FACT WAS:I CREATED AND ATTRACTED ALL OF THAT.

For a few months,I felt I needed a break from relationships.Didn't want to get hurt.I told my friend about my ex and he comforted me "There are so many fishes in the sea,why give up the whole sea because of one lousy fish?"

He was right.After all she was a lousy fish.She wasn't exactly what I was looking for anyway.I should find someone better.

September came...my friend told me that he has been "fishing" girls from IRC.He gave me a few phone numbers and told me to try.I asked him how to go about doing it.I was at a loss.

Never called any girl that I didn't know before.He gave me a solution...

He smsed me a cute message and told me to sms all of them that message.See who replies.Then after that pretend to know them and make it some kind of mistaken identity.And slowly talk to them from there.

Sounded easy.I decided to give it a try.After all I was a bit tired of being single.
He gave me 3 numbers.

17th September 2003,about 8pm...I was in camp because I was on duty.After locking all the offices and clearing up all the work,I had nothing to do.Saw a piece of crumpled paper on my table,wondered what it was.

Oh,it was the 3 numbers that my friend gave me.I took out my handphone and started to forward the cute sms to them.My heart was beating fast...would they reply?I wondered...

1 minute passed...no reply.

5 minutes passed...finally...

A reply.Out of 3,only 1 replied.Well,better than nothing right?

"Who are you?"

"I'm Marco.We met in IRC last night remember?You are Rachel right?"

"No,I'm not.You got the wrong person."

"Oh I'm sorry.It's a case of mistaken identity.Since it's such a coincidence that we met this way,care to be friends?"

"No,not interested."

"OK then."

Damn,I was stuck.I didn't know what to do next.Went to sleep afterwards.The next day I needed to get my off pass for going to Physio.I was already planning where to go after booking out.

Perhaps I should go to Yishun to watch "Turn Left,Turn Right".I loved that movie.

I had a great dinner,enjoyed the movie and took the last train home.As the train moved,an idea suddenly struck me...I could make that gal talk to me and make her like me through sms.Hahahaha...I laughed at myself for being a genius...

"Hi there,I'm sorry to bother you,but can you help me?"

"What is it about?I told you I'm not interested in making friends."

"Yes,but I need your opinion on something.Will you be willing to help me?"

"OK,what do you want?"

"You are a girl right?I need your opinion on a girl's behaviour.Please advise me what to do."

"OK,shoot."

So I told her about my ex,what I did and everything...

"Let me tell you,she's just making use of you.My advice:dump her before it's too late."

"OK,thanks for the advice.I know what to do now.I really appreciate it."

"You are welcome.Tell you the truth,I was once like the girl you mentioned.I used to make use of guys."

"Oh I see.But now you have changed right?"

"Yes,I realised what I did was wrong.You must never let that girl make use of you."

"I understand.Thanks for advising me and warning me."

"No problem.If you need any advice,can always ask me."

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA I succeeded.I managed to make her want to talk to me.At the same time I indirectly promoted myself to be a nice guy.(Although I really am a nice guy,but gals don't know.So need to advertise.)

Next day,she started to sms me.She said she was on long sick leave and needed someone to talk to.I wasn't able to concentrate on my work.Spend all my time smsing her.

Later I found out that she was 21 and her birthday was also in September.Oh,a Virgo Gal and a Virgo Guy.Good match.But she was a 14.Number 5 can be domineering and hot tempered.But definitely pretty.

I was excited.As time went by,we realised that we had a lot in common.I slowly started to fall for her.

THEN...

The bomb came.One day,she told me that she already had a fiancee and she was going to get married in October.

DAMN IT!WHY MUST THIS HAPPEND TO ME?

OK,fine.I will NOT fall for her.Just ask her to intro her friends to me.I'll tackle her friends and that's it.Better to get out of this quickly before more damage is done.

But I still enjoyed the conversations thru sms.We continued like this,until one day I asked her to intro her friends to me.

"No,I won't intro my friends to you."

"Why not?You already have a fiancee."

"I just said no.And don't ask me why."

"Hahaha there must be a reason right?"

"I don't want to tell you ok?"

"Up to you then.I don't care anyway."

"Okok,I'll say it.I have feelings for you.I'm starting to fall for you already and I'll get jealous if I intro my friends to you."

Wah,she's falling for me.I did well man!!BUT...there won't be a good ending.I know it already.I'm the 3rd party.But how to resist her?

I didn't know what to say.I didn't want to fall for her.But since she has fallen for me,what should I do????

"Tell you what,before I find you a girl,I'll be your temporary dear first.When your one comes then I'll leave you."

Hmm...I was thinking hard.What should I do?Should I accept it?Since I like her and she likes me.No harm right?

WRONG!!You'll know why...

"OK then,you be my dear first."

That was the beginning of the end.

Every night we'll chat on the phone.11pm we'll start.From the time I reach the camp gate till I reach my bunk,we'll chat.And my phone bills sky-rocketed.This went on for 3 weeks.

Until one day...

"Dear,I think we got to stop this.I feel bad cheating my fiancee."

"If you are happy,I'm willing to let go."

"Trust me,I'll find you a good girl.I have this friend,she's better looking than me.She'll be perfect for you.You are a nice guy and she's a nice girl."

"No.I love you and only you.I can't just fall for someone like that."

"Please dear,this is the best way out for the both of us.I have been a 3rd party before.I know how you feel.We can only blame fate.If only we had met earlier,I would definitely be with you."

"Damn it,it's fate again.Why is fate so cruel to me?What have I done wrong?This is like the Jeff Chang song."

"Please dear,give yourself and my friend a chance.You'll never know.Who knows,you might fall for her."

"Well,I'll just meet her up and see how.Promise me something.Promise me that you'll be happy.Don't worry or feel sad because of me ok?"

"I'm touched.We have only known each other for 3 weeks and yet you are so nice to me.If only my fiancee was like you."

"If you change your mind,I'm still here.If not,be happy,I'll be happy."

We met up a second time on the 11th October.She brought her friend along this time.Her friend was ok looking,but looked rather cunning.I didn't like her at first look.

We had buffet lunch at East Point.There was this korean BBQ restaurant which was quite nice.The conversation went on normally.Then she left the table and made her friend talk to be in private.

I dismissed her friend.Told her friend to join her.I wanted to be alone.

When she came back,she started to talk to me harshly.Telling me all about my flaws.Deep down inside,I understood that she did it to make me feel better.Because that was our very last meeting.

After lunch,I went down to Starhub to get a new phone line.She and I parted at Orchard Point.She had to go to work at Cuppage Plaza.As I watch her go,my heart was crying...but I knew that this won't work out.

I wish her all the best in her marriage.

So was that a sad story?I feel sad writing it.But what I want to say is that what happended was due to me feeding my mind with too much negativity.Even after my breakup with my ex in April,I was still listening to that song.

And that best part was I didn't know what caused all these sadness.After 4 years then I realised this.Probably if I knew this earlier,I might not have broken up with my ex.

My dear friend...don't follow in my footsteps.Whatever song or movie or book you read has an impact in your life.Don't allow negativity become your reality.If you go through the lyrics below,you'll realise that the song was in a way about me.

But the answer is...I created this reality myself.I programmed my mind to attract all those things into my life.

You have a choice.You have a choice in your daily mental diet.Choose only positive things.If you know that a song is negative,have the discipline to stop listening to it.

I think Jordan Chan,Eason Chan and Joey Yung sing a lot of sad love songs.Do go through the lyrics first.DON'T SAY I DIDN'T WARN YOU.YOU DON'T WANT ALL THESE THAT HAPPENDED TO ME TO HAPPEN TO YOU.

Alright,I have to get back to business.Hope this post really enlightened you.God bless.

The Shocking Truth Behind Sad Love Songs Part 2

2007-04-09T07:45:00.000-07:00

Here are the lyrics of Jeff Chang's song from the Korean Drama "Winter Sonata".It's in Chinese.The translation is below.

If you want to see the MTV and hear the song,scroll to the end.

张信哲从开始到现在
From Beginning Till Now

如果这最后的结局
If this is the last ending

为何我还忘不了你
Why can't I forget you?

时间改变了我们告别了单纯
Time has changed us and said goodbye to innocence

如果重逢也无法继续失去才算是永恒
If there's no contiuation after reunion,the loss is considered eternity

惩罚我的认真是我太过天真
Punishing my sincererity,it's because I am too naive

难道我就这样过我的一生
Am I going to live my life like that

我的吻注定吻不到最爱的人
My kiss fated not to reach the one I love most

为你等从一开始盼到现在
Waiting for you from the beginning till now

也同样落的不可能
In the end it's still impossible

难道爱情可以转交给别人
Can love be transferred to someone else

但命运注定留不住我爱的人
But destiny is fated to be unable to keep the one I love

我不能我怎么会愿意承认
I can't and why would I be willing to admit

你是我不该爱的人
You are not the one I should love

如果再见是为了再分
If seeing again is for parting

失去才算是永恒
The loss is considered eternity

一次新的记忆为何还要再生
Why must a new memory be reborn again?

难道我就这样过我的一生
Am I going to live my life like that

我的吻注定吻不到最爱的人
My kiss fated not to reach the one I love most

为你等从一开始盼到现在
Waiting for you from the beginning till now

也同样落的不可能
In the end it's still impossible

难道爱情可以转交给别人
Can love be transferred to someone else

但命运注定留不住我爱的人
But destiny is fated to be unable to keep the one I love

我不能我怎么会愿意承认
I can't and why would I be willing to admit

你是我不该爱的人
You are not the one I should love

拿什么作证
Using what as evidence

从未想过爱一个人
Never thought of loving someone

需要那么残忍才证明爱的深
Need such cruelity to prove deep love

难道我就这样过我的一生
Am I going to live my life like that

我的吻注定吻不到最爱的人
My kiss fated not to reach the one I love most

为你等从一开始盼到现在
Waiting for you from the beginning till now

也同样落的不可能
In the end it's still impossible

难道爱情可以转交给别人
Can love be transferred to someone else

但命运注定留不住我爱的人
But destiny is fated to be unable to keep the one I love

我不能我怎么会愿意承认
I can't and why would I be willing to admit

你是我爱错了的人
You are the one I loved wrongly

ATTENTION GUYS:101 Ways Of How You Can Score Points With A Woman

2007-04-03T07:11:00.000-07:00

I've been doing some studies on relationship recently.Came across something which I want to share with you.If you are a guy,you probably need to go through this list.I can gurantee that if you are able to do a few of the things mentioned in the list,your relationship will improve.

Personally,I've been guilty of not doing some of the things mentioned in the list.And I don't understand why women get so upset with us men sometimes...is it because they are just a bunch of trouble makers?

Well,I used to think so.But now,after reading Dr John Gray's book, "Men Are From Mars,Women Are From Venus",I look at them from a different perspective.I believe the women have their own comments about us as well.We men are not perfect.I think we just have to accept each others' differences for a healthy relationship.

Without further delay,let me share with you the 101 ways which you can score points with a woman.If you are currently single,this will make you stand out from your competitiors.If you are attached,then you are on your way to a more fulfilling relationship with your better half.

Let's begin...
(Those words in italics are my personal experiences and comments.)

1.Upon returning home find her first before doing anything else and give her a hug.

2.Ask her specific questions about her day that indicate an awareness of what she was planning to do (e.g., "How did your appointment with the doctor go?").
Yes,this works.It makes her feel that you care.I did this many times,it works wonders.

3.Practice listening and asking questions.
This is important.We guys have a tendency to want to talk and dorminate the conversation.

4.Resist the temptation to solve her problems-empathize instead.
Yes,this is often overlooked.I'm guilty of this.I'm always trying to think of a way to solve their problems instead of trying to listen.Are you also like this?

5.Give her 20 minutes of unsolicited,quality attention (don't read the newspaper or be distracted by anything else during this time).
And it's better to switch off your cell phone during this time.

6.Bring her cut flowers as a surprise as well as on special occasions.
Doesn't have to be flowers,can be any small gift.Or something you made yourself.Based on experience,something you made yourself has higher perceived value.

7.Plan a date several days in advance,rather than waiting for Friday night and asking her what she wants to do.
This is easy.I always plan in advance.I hate to screw up last minute.But trust me,they don't like screwed up guys.

8.If she generally makes dinner or if it's her turn and she seems tired or really busy,offer to make dinner.

9.Compliment her on how she looks.
Hahaha.You must tell a white lie even if she looks ugly.Unless she really gets on your nerves.(I'm referring to women whom you are not interested in and they keep pestering you.)

10.Validate her feelings when she is upset.
Remember Titanic?"You Jump,I Jump!" For this case,you sad I sad.

11.Offer to help her when she is tired.
Be a gentleman.

12.Schedule extra time when travelling so that she doesn't have to rush.
I still don't understand why women like to dilly dally.I guess it's just their nature.No choice.We got to accept that.

13.When you are going to be late,call her and let her know.
Another important point.Women have very wild imagination.If you are late,they'll start thinking of all the terrible things that happended to you.Better call or get a scolding when you reach.

14.When she asks for support,say yes or no without making wrong for asking.
Just give the support.Unless it's something really bad.I normally don't say no when they ask for support.

15.Whenever her feelings have been hurt,give her some empathy and tell her "I'm sorry you feel hurt." Then be slient;let her feel your understanding of her hurt.Don't offer solutions or explainations why her hurt is not your fault.
Yes,I often overlook this.I like to justify why it's not my fault.Hahaha they can't argue over me.But sadly...I'm the one who loses in the long run:-(

16.Whenever you need to pull away,let her know you'll be back or that you need some time to think about things.
Be open and let her know what you are thinking.Of course,there are certain things that you have to censor.Don't be stupid and tell everything.You'll get yourself into trouble.Like me.I learnt a painful lesson.

17.When you've cooled off and you come back,talk about what was bothering you in a respectful,nonblaming way,so she doesn't imagine the worst.
Refer to the previous point.

18.Offer to build a fire in wintertime.

19.When she talks to you,put down the magazine or turn off the TV and give her your full attention.
Many guys make this mistake.But sometimes women talk to us at the wrong time.Especially when something interesting is on TV.Can't they choose the right timing?

20.If she usually washes the dishes occasionally offer to wash the dishes,especially if she's tired that day.

21.Notice when she's upset or tired and ask what she has to do.Then offer to help by doing a few of her "to do" items.
This is when your problem solving skills comes in.Offer help but don't be pushy.

22.When going out,ask if there is anything she wants you to pick up at the store,and remember to pick it up.

23.Let her know when you are planning to take a nap or leave.

24.Give her 4 hugs a day.
I did only 2.

25.Call her from work to ask how she is or to share something exciting or to tell her "I love you".
A busy man like me has to force himself to do it at least once a day.But trust me,it's worth the investment.

26.Tell her "I love you" at least a couple of times every day.
Hmm...I said it 3 times a day.How many times did you say?

27.Make the bed and clean up the bedroom.

28.If she washes your socks,turn your socks right side out so she doesn't have to.

29.Notice when the trash is full and offer to empty it.

30.When you are out of town,call to leave a telephone number where you can be reached and to let her know you arrived safely.
Yes,don't make her worry for nothing.Despite how busy you are,a few minutes on the phone won't kill you.

31.Wash her car.

32.Wash your car and clean up the interior before a date with her.

33.Wash before having sex or put on a cologne if she likes that.

34.Take her side when she's upset with someone.
This is very very true.I did it once in IRC and that girl got interested in me.Hahaha.Even if you don't agree with her,just agree for the sake of making her happy.

35.Offer to give her a back or neck or foot massage (or all 3).
I love massages.Usually they give massages to me.But I do offer to give back.

36.Make a point of cuddling or being affectionate sometimes without being sexual.
Don't make her feel like a sex slave.

37.Be patient when she's sharing.Don't look at your watch.
Hahaha I don't wear a watch,but I look at my cell phone clock.Don't do that.Unless she's not important to you and you want to throw a smoke bomb.

38.Don't flick the remote control to different channels when she's watching TV with you.

39.Display affection in public.
We guys may feel stupid doing that.But women love it.

40.When holding hands,don't let your hand go limp.
If you hands feel clammy(if you have sweaty palms like me),just excuse yourself and say you need to go to the gents.

41.Learn her favourite drinks so you can offer her a choice of the ones that you know she already likes.
Know thyself and thy enemy,and you shall win a 100 out of 100 battles.Always try to find out as much as you can about her likes and dislikes.So that sometimes you can launch surprise gifts.Women love men who take care of small small details.To us it's small but to them it's a big thing.

42.Suggest different restaurants for going out;don't put the burden of figuring out where to go on her.
Should be easy if you are a goumet like me.I'm very particular and fussy about food.I have many places to eat in mind.

43.Get season tickets for the theater,symphony,opera,ballet,or some type of performance she likes.

44.Create occasions when you both can dress up.
I find this lame.But they love it.Try to buy the same t-shirt and wear together.

45.Be understanding when she is late or decides to change her outfit.
Yeah,got to be patient on this.

46.Pay more attention to her than to others in public.
Hahaha don't look at the big boobs or pretty gals when you are with her.However,I have a solution if you do that...If she gets angry,answer in this way...
"I'm comparing and seeing who is as beautiful as you."Hahaha she may or may not say you are lying.But this is a good way to get yourself out of the situation.

47.Make her more important than the children.Let the children see her getting your attention first and foremost.

48.Buy her little presents-like a small box of chocolates or perfume.
To do this you must know what she likes.

49.Buy her an outfit(take a picture of your partner along with her sizes to the store and let them help you select it.).

50.Take pictures of her on special occasions.

51.Take short romantic getaways.

52.Let her see that you carry a picture of her in your wallet and update it from time to time.
Yeah,always do that.

53.When staying in a hotel,have them prepare the room with something special,like a bottle of champagne or sparkling apple juice or some flowers.

54.Write a note or make a sign on special occasions such as anniversaries or birthdays.

55.Offer to drive the car on long trips.

56.Drive slowly and safely,respecting her preferences.After all,she is sitting powerless in the front seat.

57.Notice how she is feeling and comment on it-"You look happy today" or "You look tired" - and then ask a question like "How was your day?"

58.When taking her out,study the directions in advance so that she does not have to feel responsible to navigate.

59.Take her dancing or take dancing classes together.

60.Surprise her with a love note or poem.
I did this one before.It's powerful.To be honest with you,I'm not a poet or romantic.But somehow I managed to come up with a poem.You can do it too.Doesn't have to be perfect,but must be unique.

61.Treat her in ways you did at the beginning of the relationship.

62.Offer to fix something around the house.Say "What needs to be fixed around here?I have some extra time."Don't take on more than you can do.

63.Offer to sharpen her knives in the kitchen.

64.Buy some Super Glue to fix things that are broken.

65.Offer to change light bulbs as soon as they go out.

66.Help with recycling the trash.

67.Read out loud or cut out sections of the newspaper that will interest her.

68.Write out neatly any phone messages that you may take for her..

69.Keep the bathroom floor clean and dry after taking a shower.

70.Open the door for her.
This is overlooked by many guys.We always tend to be in a rush.We want to quicky find a seat in the eating house or quickly get the movie tickets so that we have more choices.Because of all these factors,we neglect being a gentleman.I got into trouble because of this before.
And I thought the gal was making a mountain out of a molehill.But that's not true.

71.Offer to carry the groceries.
Be a gentleman.

72.Offer to carry heavy boxes for her.
Refer to previous point.

73.On trips,handle the luggage and be responsible for packing it in the car.

74.If she washes the dishes or it's her turn,offer to help scrub pots or other difficult tasks.

75.Make a "to fix" list and leave it in the kitchen.When you have extra time do something on that list for her.Don't let it get too long.

76.When she prepares a meal,compliment her cooking.
Even if the food sucks big time,you mustn't say it.Instead say this "It's nice and it can be improved by blah blah blah..." Don't say the food sucks directly.

77.When listening to her talk,use eye contact.
Many begineers make this mistake.Because they are too shy to look at a gal in the eye.My solution is this,look at her mouth(upper lips) if you are uncomfortable looking at her eyes.When you do that,to her it would still seem that you are looking into her eyes.

78.Touch her with your hand sometimes when you talk to her.
Don't be shy,just touch her arms or shoulder.

79.Show interest in what she does during the day,in the books she reads and the people she relates to.
This is knowing your enemy.Find out all you can about her likes and dislikes.I can't stress further the importance of this.

80.When listening to her,reassure her that you are interested by making little noises like ah ha,uh-huh,oh,mmhuh, and hmmmmm.
I didn't know about this.It works amazingly.They'll love to talk to you.But be careful,don't fall into the "let's just be friends" category.Be extra careful when they talk about their boyfriends or ex-boyfriends.They may be using you as a listening ear only.

81.Ask her how she is feeling.

82.If she has been sick in some way,ask for an update and ask how she is doing or feeling.
Not only that,offer to buy medicine for her.Maybe panadol.Those that you can easily get.If you can,boil some soup for her.You can easily get at those chinese medicine stores.

83.If she's tired,offer to make her some tea.
This is easy.Just do it.

84.Get ready to go to sleep together and get in bed at the same time.

85.Give her a kiss and say good-bye before you leave.

86.Laugh at her jokes and humour.
Or pretend to,if you don't find them funny.

87.Verbally say thank you when she does things for you.
Be well-mannered.

88.Notice when she gets her hair done and give a reassuring compliment.
Hahaha yes,even if it makes her look like a witch,tell her it's nice.

89.Create special time to be alone together.

90.Don't answer the phone at intimate moments or if she's sharing vulnerable feelings.
This is important.You must make her feel as if there are only the 2 of you.

91.Go bicycling together,even it's just a short ride.

92.Organize and prepare a picnic.(Remember to bring a picnic cloth.)

93.If she handles the laundry,bring the clothes to the cleaners or offer to do the wash.

94.Take her for a walk without the children.

95.Negotiate in a manner that shows her that you want her to get what she wants and you also want what you want.Be caring,but don't be a martyr.
Negotiate intelligently.But don't make her climb over you.

96.Let her know that you missed her when you went away.
Yes,say you missed her very much.She was on your mind all the time.Whether you are eating,bathing or shitting.Hahaha ok,I was a little vulgar.

97.Bring home her favourite pie or dessert.
This is easy.Just do it.

98.If she normally shops for the food,offer to do the food shopping.

99.Eat lightly on romantic occasions so that you don't become stuffed and tired later.

100.Ask her to add her thoughts to this list.

101.Leave the bathroom seat down.

Alright,there you are,the 101 ways.To be honest,I didn't use all of them.Only some of them.And my relationship improved.Do try them out for yourself.

And all the credit goes to Dr John Gray and his book.If you are interested in his book,you can purchase it from the link below.

May you have a happy & fulfilling relationship.
God bless.

How I Used The Power Of Intention To Get FREE Gifts During Stephen Pierce's UYMG Seminar

2007-03-29T08:50:00.000-07:00

Just came back from Stephen Pierce's UYMG(Unleash Your Marketing Genius) Seminar on Monday.It was a 4-day seminar.Pretty tiring but I learnt a lot of exciting stuff.I can see my breakthrough coming...

Oh well,that's not the main theme of this post.

In this post,you'll discover how I used the Power of Intention to manifest a FREE Book and T-shirt.I was pretty surprised myself how I got the free gifts.I guess the universe always has ways to fulfill our intentions.It's all about how we ask...

As you have probably figured out,I was totally exhausted going through the 4 days of intensive seminar.Everyday started at 8:30am and ended at around 9pm.During the 2nd day,I was already falling asleep during the later part of the day.

Back to the story...

Sometime during the 2nd day,John-Paul & Deborah Micek went on stage to speak.Before they started,I saw a number of copies of their books on stage.I guess they probably are going to give away some to the audience.

Somehow I was really too tired to pay attention to what they said because it was very technical.But I really wanted that book badly...

An idea came...

I remembered what Joe Vitale and Dr Robert Anthony said about the Power of Intention.I decided to do an experiment and see if I'm able to get the book.If I get it,good.If I don't get it,I'm still ok without it.

In my mind I thought "It's my intention to receive one copy of that book.".And I left it there.My mind went on to think about other issues...tiredness and how to get my opt-in page up and running.I wasn't paying much attention to what the speakers were saying.

In fact you could say that I was in a blur state of mind.I didn't know what was happening.

Then my friend Raj nudged me.He told me to stand up and shout "PUSH BUTTON EASY!" because we have already registered on Squidoo.(I think that's what the speakers wanted us to do at that moment.)

I misunderstood him.I thought he told me to shout and go up on stage and get the prize.So I stood up,started shouting "Push button easy" and ran up on stage...

Deborah Micek was pretty suprised,since she didn't ask me to go on stage to collect my prize.Anyway,I didn't know that I was supposed to wait for her to call me up.I misheard Raj.The good news is that I got my book.

She congradulated me and offered to sign my book afterwards.

When I went back,Raj and the other people sitting told me I was very bold and courageous to go up and just get the book like that.I was surprised to hear their comments.All the while I thought I was supposed to go up.

Oh well,as long as you get what you want,who cares what others say right?

That was my first success.

I decided to use the Power of Intention again.

When we arrived the first day,the crew gave us a lucky draw ticket each.I believe that there are some nice prizes to be given away.

Day 4 of the seminar came...

It's time for round 2...

I waited and waited...finally,the time for lucky draw came.I had absolutely no idea what to ask for,because I didn't know what prize they would give away.

So I just thought..."It's my intention to win something from the lucky draw...anything that can serve as a souvenir would be fine."

I was pretty nervous...wondered if the Power of Intention will work again this time...

Emily Chan(my mentor's wife) came to speak to me about my progress in the business as well as about some Feng Shui matters.I was pretty nervous as I tried to hear the names of the winners being called out.

Apparently my name wasn't called out.In my heart I was praying that the conversation would stop,so that I could concentrate on my prize.But the more you want something,the further you push it away.Ended up my name wasn't in the winners' list.

I didn't give up.I expected something else to happend...

And it did...

Alicia Pierce started to throw out the prizes.There were T-shirts and books.Suddenly everyone went crazy.At that time,the conversation between Emily and I stopped.I quickly rushed forward to the stage,hoping to grab something.

SHIT!!!

I missed it.The person in front of me got the last piece of prize.

OK,fine I thought to myself.If I wanted something,I'll go all out to get it.It's a matter of how-to that's all.I was a little disappointed,but not that bad.I recovered from my disappointment within 2 minutes.

The day proceeded on...I was very hungry because I didn't eat much of the food they provided.I didn't like Mee Siam,Noodles and Bee Hoon.Prefer sandwiches,burgers or rice.I ate only the meat and left everything aside.

By the time 9pm came,I was really hungry.

After dinner,I went back to the hostel with Raj to transfer some files to him.After sometime,Sern Yi(Raj's friend as well as my new friend) came back from dinner with Stephen Pierce.

I asked him how was the dinner he told me he enjoyed it.He was given a good reward for helping out as a crew member in the seminar.I think Stephen Pierce offered him personal coaching,which costs around USD$5000.There were other gifts as well.

Then as I was about to go,Sern Yi took out 3 crew T-shirts.He gave one to each of us.By the way,the T-shirts were also part of the lucky draw prizes.

So in the end I still got a prize.Just that it came in an unexpected way.

CONCLUSION:The Power Of Intention NEVER FAILS!!

Hope you enjoyed this post.

I'll be starting a new blog on my interest,Toilets.There will be videos and pictures on the new TOILET BLOG.Stay tuned.

Stay prosperous and God Bless You.

How To Use "The Romance Of 3 Kingdoms" To Increase Your Intelligence

2007-03-06T08:25:00.000-08:00

It's a tiring day,but I'm excited to share this with you...

Just imagine,if there was a way to make you a smarter person,would you be interested in knowing how?Recently,I discovered a secret way to increase your intelligence.Best part is that anyone can do this.

No matter how stupid you are.No matter how slow you are in thinking.I believe if you follow the steps outlined in this post,your IQ should increase.Just one condition...you need to take action that's all.

Before I begin,let me tell you a story...

Once upon a time,I was very slow in thinking.I used to get insulted by people and didn't know how to respond.Many times my enemies walked through me.You could say that I was a useless wimp back then.

I didn't understand why...why must people take advantage of those who are weaker than them?I felt pretty unfair.And at the same time,helpless.

One fine day,I got fed up.I decided to screw those people back.I think it's time that I learn to be tough.But how?How can I be tough?I didn't know...

Until recently...

I went to Hong Kong and Shen Zhen last December with my mum.My mum told me there was this bookshop in Shen Zhen that consisted of 6 levels.She wanted to go there to buy books for setting exam questions.

While I was there,I discovered a set of "Romance of 3 Kingdom Comics".It was sold at a relative low price.I decided to buy them.By the time I got to the Part 3 of the whole series,I was so intrigued by what I read that I took out some of my savings to buy the whole set of VCDs.

There was a lot to learn from the different characters in the 3 Kingdoms.I liked Cao Cao and Zhuge Liang best.Felt that they were intelligent and charismatic.

Are you ready for the SECRET WAY TO INCREASE YOUR INTELLIGENCE?

OK,revealing the newfound secret way...

It's very simple...whenever you see any fighting in the story,ask yourself this question..."What will I do if I am the commander?".Let me quote an example...let's say after seeing Cao Cao fighting in the battle of Chi Bi,ask yourself "What would I do if I was Cao Cao?"

When you start to do that,you mind works.Imagine yourself as the commander.How would you command your troops?What kind of decision will you make?If the situation in the story was bad,how can you improve it?What mistakes did the commander make?What made him make the mistake?

Most importantly,what caused him to make that decision?If you were him,will you make the same decision?

Coming to the MOST CRUCIAL part now...to effective increase your intelligence,imagine yourself as an Advisor...

During the story,before anything happends,you'll see the advisors giving advice to their Lords.See if you are able to predict what advice will be given.Assuming that you are playing the role of the advisor now.If you are faced with the same situation,what will you do?

Look at the way Zhuge Liang advised Liu Bei...if you were in the same position,could you give the same kind of advice?Don't worry if you are not able to at first.The deeper you progress into the story,you get better.

For me,I always ask myself what would I do if I was Zhuge Liang.I would pay attention to his words.Certain things he say may sound unimportant,but there are meanings behind it.

The next important question to ask is this..."How did he come to this decision?" or "Why did he use this tatic?".

If you are able to figure out all their tatics,I gurantee you that you'll become more intelligent.If you are unable to figure out,just keep thinking,somehow the answer will come.Keep observing their behaviour and those around them.Including their opponents.

After learning the different tatics,I can fight my enemies more effectively now.Now,don't get me wrong.I'm not advocating that you learn all these tatics to be offensive.Please use these tatics to defend yourself only.If you abuse them and use them for bad means,you'll be responsible for your own actions.

Remember,what you give out comes back to you.Don't use your new found intelligence to sabo others.

The following points sum up everything...

1.Imagine yourself as the character,what will you do in that situation?

2.Try to predict the tatics that they'll use.

3.Ask yourself how did the advisors derived that idea.If you were in their shoes,will you have thought of the same idea?

4.How would you improve on any bad situation you see in the story?

5.Observe the various characters in the story...Is there anyone in your life that resembles any of them?

OK,I can read your mind...you are probably asking "What if I can't understand Chinese?".Don't worry,there are sub-titles in the VCD.I highly recommend watching the VCDs instead of reading the books.Of course it'll be better if you can do both.

If you are wondering where to buy the VCDs...
If you are staying in Singapore,go to Chinatown Complex(Smith Street) above CK department store.There's this store selling VCDs.You'll find it there.It costs $80 for 58 discs.It's a great investment.

After learning all the tatics,I'm now able to beat my enemies at their own game.Before they can do anything,I already predicted their next move.I'm able to counterattack effectively.

If a normal guy like me with average intelligence can do it,so can you.Go for it!!

What's The Difference Between Being With Jesus?And Being Without Him?

2007-02-24T08:16:00.000-08:00

I don't know why am I blogging now...because I have a whole load of work to finish.Since the creative spirit is flowing,the urge is here,then just do it!

Well basically this post is more about me.If you are not interested in reading about me,you may decide to stop reading at this moment.If you are...then let's move on.

It's another Saturday night...family gathering as well.Interestingly tonight,someone seemed to be very angry with me.Why?I don't know,probably he's mad with me for overridding what he said.

But hey,I need to solve a problem.If I had been offensive then I apologise.

And you are wondering now...who is mad with me?What is the problem?And what did he say?

Patience my friend...you shall know in due time.

For the past few months,my uncle found that the money in his bank account did not balance with the amount written in the cheque book.He wanted me to investigate the matter.I went to find out the source of the problem and started a new system for him.

Using the system,we managed to track down every transaction.It seemed to be a robust system.

However,after sometime,I discovered that some transaction were not recorded.Reason be that the bank only sends the statement in the middle of the next month.Sometimes certain transactions were overlooked and that caused the accounts not to balance.

I suggested to my uncle to apply for internet banking so that we can track all the transactions at anytime.Efficency is increased and it's easier for tracking purposes.He told me that my cousin said that it was very risky to do internet banking.

Reason:Someone can hack into your account and create havoc.

My reply was simple..."I will go and figure out the whole thing.Let's see what options we have,then decide if we want to apply for internet banking."My uncle agreed.

After checking out the website and reading the FAQs,I realised that there were 2 types of accounts.First type is an Equiry account.This only allows you to access your account balance and enquiry about other account related information.

The other type is a Transaction Account.This allows you to do money transactions like borrowing money or transfeering funds.It costs $30 per month.For our purposes,we only need an enquiry account.I presented the case to my uncle.He agreed to do it.

But he added "How come your cousin doesn't know about this?".

Damn it,the next thing that will happend is that my cousin is going to get upset with me.In a way,I was overidding what he said.I'm not really concerned about what he thinks about me.I don't give a damn what people think about me.I'm paid to solve problems.

Simple as that.

Indeed,I was right about this matter.My uncle asked me where I wanted to go for dinner,I suggested a new coffee shop that sells "Bak Kut Teh"(Pork Ribs in Soup) that's near my place.They haven't been there before.

When we reached there,after eating,my uncle asked for my cousin's comment on the food.Here's the reply..."If you want my comments,I'll be brutally honest with you...It's terrible!The soup is not up to standard,so is the meat!No standard at all!"

Wow,hear the manager talk...the manager says it sucks.So it must really suck right?Hahaha,I was pretty amused with his comment and his behaviour.I didn't say anything,but continued eating.

Oh yes,forgot to tell you,he's a manager.Why?Read on to find out...

Few weeks ago,my mum told me this..."Hey you know what,your aunt says that your cousin 'heard' from someone in his office that they are going to groom him to become manager."

"Wah really?Hahaha then aunt must be REALLY PROUD.And you can probably see their heads in the air.Hahaha don't forget to say 'Good morning manager' when you see him OK?"Hahahaha
I continued to laugh.

Now I can read your mind,you probably think that I'm belittling him.You probably think that I'm an arrogant asshole who loves belittling people.Let me explain myself...

This family loves to show off.To them they are always the best.It seems that they have the "Midas Touch".Everything they touch will turn to gold.Anything associated to them is the best.My cousin is pretty arrogant nowdays.Could sense it when he talks.

Back to what I was saying...I could sense that he was angry with me for saying that internet banking is workable and that I was able to address my uncle's concerns.To him I was claiming credit.

Now,the next thing you might be wondering is...What has all these got to do with Jesus?

My answer...PLENTY.

Let me explain...

Now,many years back,when I wasn't a Christian,if such things happended,I would flare up and try to lash back.It's my character trait.I don't like it when people try to oppose me or challenge me.If they do that,I'll go all out to fight them till I win.

Fast forward to the present day...Praise Jesus for peace and wisdom.

My enemies were unhappy with me.They try to attack me whenever they can.But here I am,calm and collected.The best part is this...I started to sympathise with them.I never felt this way before.I never felt love towards my enemies.

Praise Jesus.He taught me how to love my enemies.The revelation is this..."When you have love and peace in your heart,no enemy can harm you in any way."

Now,why did I say wisdom?Wisdom because I knew it was not wise to go head on and lash out at someone who doesn't know what he's doing.Why peace?Peace because I was not the least disturbed by his comments.Instead,my mum was very angry.Her comments as follows..."How dare he speak in that manner.Who does he think he is?!"

Hahaha..."We must forgive the ignorant and childish."That was my reply to her.

Now,let me ask you a question...when someone judges you,who is that person?Or rather what right has he to judge you?You don't need anyone to approve of how good you are.

Similarly,who am I to judge others?Who am I to despise them?They don't need my approval to be good.

They are entitled to their opinions.So am I.

But seriously speaking,I'm too busy to bother about what people think of me.I've better things to do that to please everyone.Those who like to judge others are usually people who have nothing.That's why they want to be critical of others.

Throughout my entire life,I never liked to despise others.Because I didn't like people to despise me.(Last time,but not now.)

Now I have shalom peace and wisdom.But most importantly,I have a HEAVENLY FATHER WHO LOVES ME UNCONDITIONALLY.I think that's the most important.If you have received Jesus as Lord and Saviour,you know what I mean.But if you have not,probably now's a good time to do so...

If you would like to receive Jesus as Lord and saviour,let me pray this prayer with you...

"Lord Jesus,thank You for loving me and dying for me on the cross.Your precious blood washes me clean of every sin.You are my Lord,my Saviour and my God,now and forever.I believe that You rose from the dead and that You are alive today.God,You are my Father and I am Your child because of Jesus Christ.Thank You for filling my heart with your peace and joy.In Jesus' name,Amen."

Praise the Lord.Congrats if you have prayed the above prayer.Let me tell you,I am a changed person.Favour keeps descending on me.I'm leading a very blessed life.I hope that you will be blessed as well.Welcome to God's family.

If you are looking for a good home church to join,you might want to check out New Creation Church(If you are in Singapore) www.newcreation.org.sg .If not,whereever you are,look for Kenneth Copeland Ministries www.kcm.org .

I learnt a lot from these 2 ministries.You will be blessed too.

OK,speaking of the next entries...Next time round I'll be sharing about the lessons I've learnt from Romance of 3 Kingdoms.Another time,it's going to be about improving relationships with your spouse."Why Are Men Like RubberBands?"

Interested?Then stay tuned.

May God bless you mightily.

The 6 Secret Words In The Bible That Speeds Up Fulfillment Of Your Prayers

2007-02-19T06:19:00.000-08:00

Today's 2nd day of Lunar New Year.Have you collected your share of red packets?I believe God has given everyone of us a great harvest this year.I know I had a great harvest.Praise God.

Well,are you interested in knowing which are the 6 words?Simply read on...by the time you finish this post,you'll know the answer.Besides knowing the 6 words,you'll also discover a simple game that is an application of these 6 words.

It's guranteed that your life will change for the better.After all,that's the purpose of this blog.

Excited?

Before I go into the main topic,a few things first...Actually this message has been in my mind since December last year,it's just that I was too busy to blog.Just discovered that Christopher started a new blog.

It was pretty inspiring to be reminded that our Heavenly Father is a living God.He listens to us and answers when we talk to Him.Do visit his blog at http://chronoyuri.blogspot.com .After reading his blog,I felt inspired to share this message,despite my busy schedule.

As I'm writing this post,I discovered that he had another new post today.Pretty interesting too.Indeed,it's a year of new beginnings.I had my Nokia N80 handphone already and I believe God is going to bless me with more things.A new girlfriend for instance?

Actually I did something for fun.If you read my friendster profile,there's this Ad asking for applications to be my girlfriend.Hahaha actually it was meant to be for fun,but we'll see who applies.

I'll tell you if I receive any applications.If I don't,that's also fine.Anyway,the time has come for me to start a relationship.I have more free time now as compared to the past 2 years.But then let God choose the best one.

Praise God for my good looks and wisdom.Hahaha I know what you are thinking...I'm pretty thick-skinned to say that I'm good looking right?Well,I'm not ashamed to say,I'm indeed good looking and wise.But that's because God made me so,not myself.It's just God's glory in me that's all.Jesus alone deserves all the glory.

OK,I think we better talk about the main topic now...

I have a question...What causes unanswered prayers?

Yes?Any answers?

Let me share what I have here...

1."God will only bless those who are righteous,I've done so many wrongs,why would God answer my prayer?"

2."What I ask for is too big,how can God answer this kind of prayer?"

3."What I ask for is a selfish desire,will God answer me?"

4."I hope that God will answer my prayer."

5."What if he doesn't answer my prayer?"

6."Does God really care?"

7."I'm really fearful about this...I don't know if God can settle this problem."

8."What will other people think about me if I ask for material things?"

Now,the above 8 responses causes prayers to be unanswered.There may be more,but those are the 8 that came to my mind.Maybe you can think of more?

In short,fear and worry causes prayers to be unanswered.It's not because God doesn't want to bless you.It's not because God is angry with you for doubting Him.Neither is it because your desire is too big.

Let me explain,when we are in fear and worry,we are under the control of the devil.When we are in fear and worry,our level of faith is as weak as a candle flame.It's suspectable to be blown out any moment.

This is where spiritual warfare comes into play.It's where your faith will be tested.The devil will come and tell you 1001 reasons why your prayers cannot be answered.This is the time when you stand up to the devil with the word of God.With the 6 SECRET WORDS,you can slice the devil and make him flee 7 directions from you.

Better pay attention and learn them well...OK?

Let me share my story recently...I've been sick for the past few days,suffering from diarrhoea.It was terrible,I would wake up every half hour to go to the toilet.I kept praying in tongues for healing,but it didn't stop.I woke up at 5 am and the diarrhoea subsided at 10am.

Then thoughts started to come into my mind..."Are you sure these things work?" and "You are a sinner anyway,it's normal to be sick and not be healed.".Indeed,during those moments,the level of your faith comes into play.I refused to give up.Kept praying in tongues and keep believing that "By Jesus' stripes,I am Healed!!!!".

Praise God,things improved.For the next few days,it was better.Today,I'm fully healed!

Another case is about the issue of earning a living...

My brother asked me to help him apply for a place in NUS and NTU.You probably know that I'm a Poly graduate and I didn't want to further my studies.

My reason is simple:Why waste money on a degree that will make you an employee for the rest of your life?Might as well spend on courses that will teach you how to make money.Besides,learn from those who have already been there and done that.

All the while I had been very confident about my decision.I'm starting my Internet Business,my E-book is almost completed.At the same time I'm learning about investment.I know that going to University will not make me a millionaire.

But recently,I seem to be having doubts and fear.I fear that I'll end up like my dad,a good-for-nothing.He didn't want to work because he felt that he was too "good" for the job market.My mum is the one supporting the entire family.It's worth mentioning here that my mum is the best mum in the world.Well,to me at least.

Anyway,back to what I was saying,I was rather fearful about my future.The following thoughts came into my mind..."What if you don't make it?" "How old are you already?Yet you still can't stand on your own feet." "Look at your cousin and brother,they are already quite stable,how about you?"

So on and so forth.Well,it should be obvious that I was under attack by the devil.Being unwell and not in a good mood,I was kind of affected.But Praise God,I broke through this.

Now,I'm going to share my secret with you.Using this secret,you can overcome any doubt and fear.Your faith level will sky rocket.GURANTEED.

Just play this game.

Ready?

It's a very simple game...whenever fear or doubt creeps into your mind,just say out the 6 SECRET WORDS.Say them until you are freed from fear and doubt.You can do this ANYTIME,ANYWHERE!

You must be wondering now...What are the 6 SECRET WORDS?

OK,revealing the 6 SECERT WORDS...

LET NOT YOUR HEART BE TROUBLED.

There you are,just these 6 words.Don't look down on them,they're powerful.I tried this personally,it works wonders.It will make you feel peace in your heart.And with peace in your heart,you start to have faith.Faith will cause your fulfillment of your prayers.

Remember to claim your blessings as a Child of God.

Oh yes,here's the whole verse.

Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.(John 14:27)

Jesus not only left us with peace,but He left us and inheritence of blessings.We are join heirs with him.Don't allow the devil to steal your blessings from you.

I hope you are blessed by this.May God prosper you mightily.

What To Do When People Insult You?

2007-02-07T08:31:00.000-08:00

Today,I would like to share with you some secrets on how to handle and deflect verbal attacks...

Before I start,I want to wish you a happy new year.2007,it's the year of new beginnings.Hope that you have a wonderful year ahead.

Let's start now...

Have you ever been in this situation?...Someone that you didn't offend keeps trying to run you down with verbal attacks?You were the nice guy,you kept quiet and let the other person "slash" you verbally.

Probably you were at a loss of what to say?Or you were not sure whether you should talk back?Because that person that "attacked" you was someone of higher authority.

I don't know if you were through the same thing as me...But when I was younger,I used to experience a lot of insults from my relatives.Those 2nd aunt,third uncles....you know what I mean...especially during family gatherings.That's why I hated family gatherings.

Now,my usual approach was to keep quiet and not talk back.After all,as asians,our parents taught us that we must respect our elders.I beg to differ from that.My rule is this "RESPECT YOUR ELDERS ONLY IF THEY DESERVED TO BE RESPECTED!"

I may sound arrogant.But that's me.I believe that just by being our elders don't give them the right to be insulting towards us.Especially if we didn't do anything wrong or anything bad towards them.

You may or may not agree with me.But that's fine.

I got very tired of these nonsense.It happends everytime at gatherings.Best part is my parents join in sometimes.I used to go home feeling very hurt and frustrated.I felt helpless...

WHY?WHY MUST I KEEP GETTING "BULLIED"?CAN'T I STAND UP FOR MYSELF?

AT LAST...I got fed up with all these nonsense.I was determined to give these bastards a taste of their own medicine...

I figured out why I was at a loss when they insulted me.Few reasons...

1.I was not prepared.I didn't expect them to insult me.When it happends,my mind was blank,I was not able to respond to them.
2.Fear.Fear of being labelled as a "bad boy" with no manners.Dare not offend those idiotic elders.
3.Lack of experience.Don't know how to be sarcastic back.

Let me share with you how I overcame those 3 problems...

1.I realised that these bastards have a tendency to like to be insulting.So I prepare myself before every gathering.If they try to be funny,I'm able to talk back.

2.I overcame the fear of being labelled as an ill-mannered person.Come to think of it,if they are so respectable,why would they want to be insulting??If they are so insulting,then they are not worth my respect.Agree?It's a fair deal,if they insult me,I talk back sarcastically.If they don't want to receive any insults from me,they shouldn't insult me.

3.The most IMPORTANT point.For a guy who has been inoffensive all his life...it's tough for him to become offensive.Because it's not in his blood.After deciding to put a stop to all these nonsense,I made it a point to learn from my experience.I'll share with you exactly how I did it.
Read on....

THE 6 SECRETS TO OVERCOMING INSULTS & SARCASM FROM IRRITATING PEOPLE

Secret 1:After every insult,ask yourself this question..."If I was given a chance to repeat the whole scenario again,what will I say to that bastard?"
This is quite an important step.As you learn,you become better.By doing this step,you train your mind up,to think and to respond faster.Trust me,during the first few times,you'll get whacked.But after sometime,you'll be good at reflecting sarcasm and insults.

Secret 2:Get opinions of different people on what they would do,if they were in your shoes.
This is another way to increase your creativity.I have some friends who are really good at being sarcastic.I would give them the scenario and ask them how they'll react.They usually provide me with a lot of ideas and creative ways of "reflective insulting".

Secret 3:NEVER GET ANGRY.
This is the MOST IMPORTANT SECRET.Don't ever get angry.If you get angry,your mind will stop thinking.No matter how intelligent of creative you are,you won't be able to perform.I know it's really difficult,especially after an insult,you are boiling inside.But no matter what,keep cool and calm.Then you can think clearly and hurl back the deadliest insult.

Secret 4:Know who is your opponent.
Now,before you fire,you must know who are you firing at.You don't want to fire at someone who has authority over you,and get into trouble.But based on my experience,usually those who have authority over me don't try all these nonsense on me.
Those that are insulting are usually those who have no authority over me.But at the same time,you must know whether they have backing.
Let me give an example...for my case,Dennis Trident(if you don't know who she is,read my previous entries) has no authority over me.But she has backing of the Pharoah,who has authority over me.So I have to be careful when attacking her.

Secret 5:Have the correct attitude.
You must have the correct attitude when firing back.The main objective is to stop them from trying their nonsense on you again.You don't have to tear their faces(unless of course they ask for it).Even if you lose,don't get angry.Just let it pass and learn from your experience.

Secret 6:Know your standpoint.
Yes,it's important to know where you stand.Don't fire off without thinking.Else you make a fool out of yourself.Importantly,are you in the wrong?Or are they just being nasty?If you are in the wrong,be a gentleman and acknowledge your mistakes.Apologise if necessary.(That's how I do it).But if you are not in the wrong,STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.NEVER BACK DOWN!!
Maintain your position at all times.Your enemies will cause you to fall into guilt,thereby causing you toback down.Don't fall for that.
They'll usually tell you that you should respect your elders no matter what.To me that's nonsense.

OK,let's talk about real life cases...you'll have fun learning about these....

Case 1:
This incident happended.My good friend Christopher was insulted by this bastard from his Poly.It was thru SMS.Let's call that guy W.Here's the conversation...

W:"Hey do you know that XXX who is a gay is looking for you?"

Chris was freaking mad when he received the SMS.I helped him to reply.Here's my reply...

"WHAT?!When did you become gay?Wah,still call me your friend.Such a big thing you didn't inform me.Did you ass break?Don't worry,tell me when you go for surgery,I'll visit you.Remember to SMS me your hospital,ward and bed number ok?"

W was freaking mad when he read my reply.Here's his reply...

W:"Cheebye Wee Kok Weng,say me gay!"

I replied again...

"Hahaha aren't you gay?So how does it feel to get fucked from behind?"

He never replied again.

Case 2:This happended during a Chinese New Year celebration.I forgot which year.But this bastard kept insulting my brother and I.For a few years we kept quiet.Until that time....

Bastard:"Wah,you are damn fat man.Hahaha,so fat,not scared must take IPPT meh?"

Marco:"Yes,I'm living such a good life.I'm rich and prosperous,have plenty to eat and don't need to take any IPPT.I work in air-con,don't need to go outfield.You jealous?"

He shut up immediately.God damn it,I didn't insult him or anything.He kept provoking me.In order to spice things up,I could have added this...
"If I give you face,I call you uncle.If I don't give you face,you are nothing but a dog.I never insulted you,why must you insult me?"(directly translated from cantonese)

Well,those are just 2 examples that I thought about.There are actually more.Ask Chris,he'll tell you how sarcastic I can me.But that's not the point.I used to be very innocent and get insulted without know what to do.

If you are like me last time,I feel for you.If you feel that I'm a rude jerk,then that's your opinion.Just throw away what you read.

But I still stand on what I said.If elders don't know how to earn our respect,we don't have to respect them.Being elders don't give them the fucking right to be insulting when we do nothing wrong.

Remember,stand up for yourself if you are not in the wrong!With that,I wish you a great year ahead.Hope that you'll be able to deflect insults.Just keep learning and gain experience.

Be Blessed.

Who Is My Best Companion?

2006-12-08T23:49:00.000-08:00

Have you ever felt lonely?You probably have...

I used to feel loneliness.Until I realised that I have this companion who is ever with me.This companion always has my best interests at heart and always prevents me from falling into danger.

There are a number of instances where this companion protected me from trouble and made my many trips and outings very pleasant.I had found many good deals and enjoyed myself throughly everytime when this companion is with me.

At this time you may be wondering who is this companion...

Are you?

Well,how about giving an intelligent guess?

My wife?

My friends?

My family?

My brother?

You probably guess it's my wife.That's only half correct.True,my wife is a real blessing to me.I enjoy her company tremendously.But there are certain times when she's not around.

Well,this best companion is none other than...

My heavenly Father,the Almighty God.

Sounds pretty strange,I know.But it's the truth.He's my best companion.I wanted to share this for quite sometime.Until recently I felt the urge to share it.There are many Brothers and Sisters who have the impression that our Heavenly is a strict and stern disciplianarian(dunno if I spelt this correctly).

I used to think that way.Until one day,I came to realise that God is always looking out for our welfare.He's always wanting to bless us,always wanting to spend time with us,His children.His exceeding great love for us is limitless.

I'm sharing from personal experience because I think it's pointless to just say something without proof.One of the experiences was on the 30th June this year when I went to Kluang alone.It was a very blessed trip.There were many things which lead me to realise that God was guiding the whole trip.Refer to my entry on June 30th for more information.

The other times were during my trips to Penang.I didn't blog those because of time constraint.Let me share a few happenings there...

During my first trip,I didn't realise that the transport system in Penang was terrible.The bus services there were cock up.You never know if the buses are going to come.You can wait at the bus stop for 1 hour plus and the bus doesn't arrive.

At the end of the day,I had to take cabs to move around.I didn't realise that the cab fares there was so high.I panicked because the amount of money I brought along was quite limited.To make matters worse,the hotel collected 300 bucks deposit from me.

I ended up with around 100 bucks on hand.The cab rides cost around 25 bucks per ride.My hotel is located a distance away from the city area.I tried to walk,it took me 45 minutes to an hour.

Towards the end of the first day,I met this cab driver,Mamu at Komtar.Initially I wanted to go to Fort Cornwalls,but it was closed.Mamu recommended that I go to Batu Ferringhi.I agreed,but was considering due to the price.He told me not to worry,he'll give me a discount.

Throughout the journey,we became friends.He told me how difficult it is to make money as a cab driver.I empatised with him.At the end of the trip,he charged me a reasonable fare.I realised that I still had 300 bucks with the hotel.I told him to come and pick me up on the last day and bring me around Penang Island.

Since I had some extra cash,I can bless him with some business.He brought me to many different places on the island.I was indeed blessed.For that distance,I paid a more than fair price.

After that,whenever I went to Penang,I would call him up to pick me at Sungei Nibong bus terminus.

So what's God's role in all these happenings?I would say that I was blessed throughout the whole trip.Not only that one trip,all my 4 trips there were blessed.Even though I was alone,everything went very smoothly for me.He guided me to the places that were benefical to me.

Sometimes I worry over money,how to decide the best deal and other things like planning the different destinations to go to.Which order to go and etc...But I reality,I can just turn over everything to God.He will make sure things turn out for the highest good for me.

Let's talk about you...are you willing to let Him guide you?Not only in outings,but every area of your life.Now,I let Him guide me in every area of my life.And He has never let me down.

I'll like to leave you with this verse...

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.(Jeremiah 29:11 NIV)

Be mightily blessed.Have a great weekend!

How To Manifest A Nintendo DS And PS 2 Dragon Quest VIII(Original)

2006-12-06T19:19:00.000-08:00

Time files,it's December already.65 years ago today,the Japanese bombarded Pearl Harbour.You probably watched the movie a few years ago.The effects were good,but I didn't like the storyline.

Anyway,that's not our main topic today.

The main topic today is to share with you how I manifested a Nintendo DS(Pokemon Limited Edition) and Dragon Quest VIII(Original) for PS 2.

Sometime this month last year,I came across the book by Thomas Pauley and Penelope Pauley,the title is "I'm Rich Beyond My Wildest Dreams,I Am I Am I Am".Now,you'll probably rush out and buy this book after reading this post.Or if you already have this book,you'll take the steps listed in it seriously.

What I did was very simple,I had this ring-binded notebook.I call it my "Dreams Notebook".In it,I listed everything I wanted.From catching certain movies to owning certain electronic gadgets,books and etc...

Just list out everything that I wanted.

I remember clearly that sometime in December last year,I wanted PS2 Dragon Quest VIII Original,because it came in a special box.At that time I didn't have enough budget to buy it.But I listed it out anyway.

Sunday 3rd December 2006.I went to Funan Center with my family as my brother wanted to buy ink cartridges.As I was travelling up the escalator,there was this urge within me.This instinct that told me that I should visit the game shop at level 3,that my Dragon Quest VIII is there waiting for me.

Now,I usually buy my PS2 games at Seow Choon Games Specialist or at Sim Lim Square.Sometime in June or July,I went to Sim Lim Square to buy Kingdom Hearts 2.I saw 1 last copy of Dragon Quest VIII left in the display case,but the condition was quite bad.

I decided not to buy it.I kind of given up on this game because I can't seem to find it anymore.

Until last Sunday,there was this urge within me that prompted me to visit the game shop at Funan Center.True enough,there was 1 last copy of Dragon Quest VIII there,waiting for me.It was completely sealed up.

The price was also great.Only 75 bucks.I asked around,the usual price is $85 and above.It was a great buy.

Morale of the story:Be patient even if things seem to be slow.Don't bother trying to figure out how you are going to buy it.

Next story is about my Nintendo DS.I had this intention to have one last December.But it was not on my priority list because I had more important things to buy.

But nonetheless,I still listed it out in my "Dreams Notebook".

Sometime in October this year,I went to Seow Choon's to buy Final Fantasy XII(Limited Edition) and I saw this Pokemon Limited Edition Nintendo DS.I fell in love with it.I knew I wanted it.But then I didn't have the budget for it.

I went home and wrote in my "Dreams Notebook".

Tuesday,I received some unexpected financial blessings.I remembered that I wanted a Nintendo DS and I went down yesterday to Seow Choon's to buy it.It was the last piece left.

I had forgotten that I specified I wanted the Pokemon Limited Edition in my "Dreams Notebook".I only remembered that I wanted a Nintendo DS.Only when I went through my "Dreams Notebook" yesterday that I realised what I had written down.

Hey,this stuff really works.I GURANTEE you.I'm a living example.

If you are really keen on buying this book,you can get it at Books Kinokuniya,main store at Ngee Ann City(Takashimaya).That is if you are staying in Singapore.If not you might want to visit www.richdreams.com .

Do share with me your success stories.I look forward to hearing from you.God bless.

Attention:Brothers & Sisters In Christ!Are Your Blessings Being Robbed By The Devil?

2006-11-27T17:52:00.000-08:00

Good morning.It's a wonderful November morning.Today I would like to touch on the blessings of God.Actually came across some sermons by Pastor Joseph Prince,it's a series called "Good Things Happen To Those Who Believes That God Loves Them".

I received some revelations from theese sermons that actually set me free from bondage.Have been planning to share these insights with you,but I was busy with work.Until this morning,I felt a stirring in my spirit.By the time you finish reading this post,you should be free.

Question:Are you righteous?

My answer was no.I have done so many wrongs.Even after I became a Christian,I've done some wrongs too.Like not being forgiving and not loving those I dislike.Not loving my enemies.

You may be in my position,you feel that you are not righteous because of many things you have done in the past.Or certain things that you have done after being a Christian.

WE ARE ALL WRONG!Once we are saved we are righteous.All your sins,past present and future have been paid for by our Lord Jesus Christ.He got comdemned so that we can become righteous.He paid the price for all our sins.

If we don't believe that we are made righteous,He suffered for us in vain.It's like someone who helped you pay your debts and you refuse to believe that you debts have been paid.

Now that you know you are righteous,let's look at Proverbs 10:24(NIV)...

What the wicked dreads will overtake him;WHAT THE RIGHTEOUS DESIRE WILL BE GRANTED.

I don't know about you,but sometimes I get fearful asking God for my desires.I used to have this belief that if I pray for others,God will usually grant my request.But when I pray for myself,He won't grant my desire,because I'm not righteous.

That's a WRONG BELIEF!Because of this wrong belief,my blessings have been robbed by the devil.How about you?If you have that belief,it's time to let yourself free.

You are righteous.Your desires WILL BE GRANTED.Yes,you are FREE now.

My second point is about trusting God for our blessings.Especially in the area of finding a life partner.Now,I praise God that He has chosen a wonderful life partner for me.I'm glad that I trusted Him.

But before I knew about trusting God,I was very afraid of commiting my plans into the hands of God.Why?Because I was afraid that He was not give me what I want.For example in the area of finding a life partner,I've looked at a number of Christian couples.

Some of the wives don't look that fantastic.Or rather they are not my type.Hey I was being pretty stupid right?That's why God rebuked me,He told me this "Everyone is beautiful in someone's eyes".Yeah,that's very true.

I was very afraid that He would choose someone that's not to my liking in terms of looks.Maybe very good character,but no good looks.Now,that's nonsense.God can give you everything!You can have both looks and character.Don't believe in what you see around you.

Always remember this,you are in this world,but not of this world.

Now,let me share an interesting story from the Bible that will shine more light on this matter...

In Genesis,Abraham asked his servant to look for a wife for his son Issac.He went to well where the maidens of the town would go to draw water in the evening.This servant prayed "O Lord God of my master Abraham,please give me success this day,and show kindness to my master Abraham."(Genesis 24:12).

The phase "give me success" is actually one word,quarah in Hebrew,which means "right happening".In other words,the servant is praying "God,give me right happening today!"

The servant's prayer continues in Genesis 24:13-14...

13"Behold,here I stand by the well of water,and the daughters of the men of the city are coming out to draw water.14 Now let it be that the young woman to whom I say,'Please let down your pitcher that I may drink,'and she says,'Drink,and I will also give your camels a drink' - let her be the one you have appointed for Your Servant Issac.And by this I will know that you have shown kindess to my master."

By asking God for a woman who would give him a drink as well as his camels a drink,the servant was asking God for a woman who would go the extra mile.

Genesis 24:15-16 continues...

15 And it happended,before he had finished speaking,that behold,Rebekah,who was born to Bethuel,son of Milcah,the wife of Nahor,Abraham's brother,came out with her pitcher on her shoulder.16 Now the young woman who was very beautiful to behold,a virgin;no man had known her.And she went down to the well,filled her pitcher and came up.

Now,I used to think this way...if I prayed in this way,God will give me some ugly girl.Ugly but very nice character.I was really fearful about it.But this story proved me wrong.

The servant only asked "a right happening".And you can see,God overdelivers.He didn't specify that the girl must be "chio bu"(meaning pretty girl in hokkien).As you can see,God can put you at the right place and right time,if you allow Him to.If you ask and believe in Him.

Later on,the Bible tells us that Issac loved Rebekah.(Genesis 24:67).God knew beforehand that they would be good for each other.

In summary,a few points to note...

1.God always overdelivers.He will always give us more that what we ask for.

2.He sees further than us.If you allow Him to choose for you,you'll have the BEST CHOICE.

3.Be it your business,career or marriage,He can position you in the right time and right place.

PRAISE THE LORD!

Hope you are blessed by this revelation.Praise God for revealing this to me through Pastor Joseph Prince.So don't worry if you are single and looking for a life partner.Allow God to find the right one for you.

Alright,till the next time,be mightily blessed and prosperous.

How To Get Attached If You Are Single, Lonely & Unhappy.What Price Are You Willing To Pay For Success?

2006-11-23T16:59:00.000-08:00

Good Morning!It's a wonderful Friday morning,praise God!

As you know,I seldom work in mornings.I'm a nocturnal creature.In case you are wondering...I slept quite early last night.The night before,I didn't sleep till 7:10A.M. and then I had to report for work at 9AM.Basically I slept for only 2 hours.

Which explains why I slept early last night.

Oh well,that's not my main topic.My main topic is about commitment and paying the price to achieve what you really want in life.This thought came to mind while I was reading earlier on.Sometimes I do wonder...when people tell me that they want something,are they really serious about it?

Or they just want something and expect things to happend without taking action.Are you one of them?If you are,then it's time to change your thinking.

Let me share a story...

I had a friend who was single for the past 26 years of his life.He was very frustrated because he couldn't seem to get attached.Tried as hard as he could(according to him),nothing seemed to turn out right.

He came to me for advice,so I advised him accordingly what to do to get attached.But after a few advices,I realised something...he thinks with his heart,not his mind.If he's emotionally attached to something,it's futile to advise him against it.Even if it's not for his highest good.

I gave up.

After a few months,he seemed to change his thinking a little bit.Good for him.Then he started to approach me to mentor him and guide him to being attached.He told me he was ready.I was thinking...fine,when the student is ready,the teacher will appear.

Since he's ready,I'm willing to commitment my time and effort to help and guide him.

I gave him assignments to do.Some baby steps to be done each week.For the first few weeks,he did fine.Then after that,things started to happend.His computer broke down and his workload was too heavy.

I can understand that.

But what I felt unacceptable was the whining and complaining.This guy loves to whine.Now,my assignment is this...go to IRC and fish there.Practice your communication skills.Try to make sure you get at least 4 phone numbers and 4 E-mails.

Simple right?

He got less than the requirements.That's also fine with me.I think it's good that he made the first attempt.After that,the comp broke down.

Now,if someone is really committed,I don't care if the computer breaks down or not,he will have some way to finish up the work.This guy sort of gave up,and his attention went elsewhere.He was faced with a lot of problems at his workplace.

People sabo him and make use of him.Well,you get the picture.I sympathise with him.But commitment is still commitment.These bastards at his workplace are not the ones who will determine whether he'll get attached or not.He's wasting his energy on the wrong thing.

Week after week,I kept following up with him.But it seems like he has lost his fighting spirit.I kept questioning him.I know I sounded very harsh.I will do everything it takes to get him back on track.

But I can't.

Because he doesn't want to.You can't force a horse to drink.You can only lead the horse to the river.He pretty much got irritated with me for questioning him.But he does not know that I'm doing it for his own good.Do you think I have nothing better to do with my time?And let people dislike me?

I sincerely want to see him getting attached,but if he doesn't want to follow my instructions,there's nothing I can do.Think about this...if you were to give someone advice.This person doesn't follow your advice and he keeps complaining and whining.How would you feel?

Let me tell you,I was damn pissed off.I hate it when my time is wasted.And I come to understand why people remain failures.It's their attitude.There's a saying "Your attitude determines your altitude".How true this is.

Oh well...mediocre people will always be mediocre.

Bottomline...are you willing to pay the price for success?Are you a doer or complainer?

Now,let me tell you what happended to me.I not trying brag about how great I am.The point I want to drive across is you need to take action if you want to succeed.

Why I feel for this guy is because I knew how it felt to be lonely.All your friends attached while you are still single and alone.

Many years ago,during my polytechnic days,I was a totally failure in getting girls.I was shy,had low self-esteem and had totally no clue how to behave in front of them.But I wanted to have a girlfriend badly.

So my journey started in 1998...I started with using Alamak chat.I was fearful to talking to gals face to face,so the chatroom is a place for me to better express myself.After a while,there was this gal who told me she was interested in me.She was from TKGS(Tanjong Katong Girls School).

Wah...girls school man!Sounds good right?

Now,I was damn innocent back then.But come to think of it,she hasn't even met me before,how can she be interested in me?Besides,we have only chatted twice online.

I asked my friend to find out for me how she looked like.His sister was from TKGS.Later I realised that she was fat,ugly and desparate.Goodness me.OK,that was once of my first encoutners.

Then later on,I came to know this gal from Cedar Girls School.I found her interesting to talk to.Seemed nice.This time I was the despo one.I told her I was interested in her even though she was attached.What the fuck man!Looking back,I sometimes wonder was I crazy?

OK,she didn't respond in a bad way.In the end we kept in contact through E-mail.

One day,she sent me her photo with her classmates.Wah,not bad siah.She's slightly above average.I started to have more interest and increased my intensity of going after her.Later I realised that she broke up with her boyfriend.

Wah,that really made my day!

I was very happy.But I didn't take any action.I didn't ask her out.NOTHING.Just continued chatting...

Then the bomb came.She asked me whether I knew this guy from my course.I said his name sounded familiar.I went to find out about him.At first I thought he was her new boyfriend.Damn it!

Later I found out that this guy was just a friend of hers.But then he told me that she had a new boyfriend,who was a senior of ours and a top student.Wah!You could imagine how I felt...

So that was how the low self esteem came about.I thought I had to be academically smart to tackle gals.It took me a few months to get over her.

After that I went into IRC...

There are numerous cases,due to the time constraint I have,I'll share only the more impactful ones.

In IRC,I met with a lot of disappointments as well.Because of poor communication skills,gals found me a boring guy to chat with.And looking back,it's true,I was a boring guy back then.That's why I stressed on communication skills.

But the thing that improved was this...this time I started to ask them out for outings and movies.I managed to get a few dates.But some of them played me out.Because I wasn't what they imagined me to look like.As you can see,that was hurting my ego.

My self-esteem took another dive.

Despite all that,I persisted.I knew that if I continued,I would succeed someday.

All this went on and on...

One day,I chatted with this gal who had a lot of common interests as me.We could chat for hours and hours.In the end she called me on the phone and we spoke for hours and hours.BUT....

She was attached.Damn it!Why must this happend to me?!FUCKING HELL!!I really cursed heaven and earth for making my life miserable.

OK,one day she told me her boyfriend quarrelled with her.Then she kind of hinted that she would consider a guy if he was willing to admit his feelings for her.I didn't want to admit my feelings,after being hurt a few times.Besides that,I felt that if she was interested in me,she should say so.Hahaha,stupid right?

But it's also true to say that I wasn't too keen on her because of her looks.She's slightly below average.Though I wouldn't mind if she came after me.So I stood my ground.And sometime later,she told me her boyfriend wanted to patch.

Being single and lonely,I was jealous about this.So I decided to run away from her.Because I was feeling so jealous and I didn't want my feelings to deepen for her."Jealousy kills" right?

She kept trying to contact me,but I kept running away from her.And that ends her story.

Now I'll share the final failure before we close.

1999 came.A friend of mine from Mechanical Engineering recommeded a friend of his to me.This friend of his was a cassanova.I knew I met my "teacher".After failing so many times,it's time to learn from an expert.

This guy did teach me a number of things,how to approach and how to handle gals.I saw him in action a few times.But his was too advanced for me back then.He approached gals that he didn't know at all.

After learning some basic tricks,I went into IRC to fish again.This time armed with skills,I felt pretty confident.I was looking for a guinea pig to try out my skills.And the target appeared...

I met this girl in IRC because I was serving MP3s back then in the MP3 channels.We exchanged ICQ numbers and chatted almost every night.I found her quite an intersting person.We shared a lot of common interests as well and loved to sing.

OK,I decided.This shall be my guinea pig.

I started to dig out information from her.What type of guys she liked and etc...In the end,I found out she was interested in this army guy.She liked him because he was more matured.Then I asked her why did she like him.She told me because one night while chatting,he told her that he wanted to count stars with her at East Coast Park.

My next question was,has she ever seen him before?She said no.Wah,this is easy target man!(I didn't know I was playing with fire.)

OK.The fun begins...

I went on to tell her I was interested in her as well.She asked me why did I fall for her.I answered there was no why...love is blind...you don't need a why to like someone.(Hahaha I was laughing to myself as I typed that in ICQ,I was sounding like a casanova).

Then I proceeded to send her a surprise Birthday Gift.I knew her birthday was coming.I bought everything,had it wrapped up and asked her for her home address.She asked me why did I want her address.I told her I had a surprise for her.

She was very happy when she received the gift.Next step was to ask her out.I managed to get a date with her.She was skeptical because she was afraid that I'll change my mind after meeting her.

I assured her that I won't mind how she looked like.(Actually I did mind.I'm a guy after all.But then if she wasn't up to standard,it was still ok because I was experimenting anyway.)When I saw her face to face,she's another average looking girl.We went to East Coast Park that night and sat at the beach talking.

I had a great time talking to her.That was when I really started to fall for her.Damn it!Now acting becomes real.But that night I didn't hold her hands.We just talked under the stars.Romantic siah.It was a great night.

I accompanied her home and I returned home feeling great.We chatted in ICQ again and she told me she felt comfortable with me.(Wah,looks like I'm on my way to success).I started to schedule for another outing.This time we went to KTV.It wasn't as good as the last date because she was down.

I wondered why.She told me that army guy was sending confusing signals to her.Damn army guy again.I was a little pissed to hear about him.Anyway,after the singing session,we went down to Tiong Bahru Market to eat Fried Ice Cream.I managed to take my favourite bus with her.It was a great combo,favourite gal on favourite bus.My 9074 D was at Bedok Interchange at the right time.

After the ice cream,we took MRT back.But this meeting didn't turn out as well as the previous one.

I decided to launch another attack.To try to tackle her before her feelings went deeper for the army guy.I talked to her for hours about how I felt about her and the benefits she would get if she becomes my gal.

Wah,after long hours of chatting in ICQ until the wee hours...Finally,she agreed to become my girlfriend.I couldn't sleep at all.I was so happy and excited.I thought I had won the game...

Far from it.

I didn't know the bomb was coming...

We continued chatting for a few days...until the 5th day...

She told me to wait for her because she was busy.I didn't know why so I waited for 2 hours.When she came back she told me she was chatting with the army guy.What the hell?

So I am a spare?!

I got really pissed and told her if she wants to stick with that guy,she shouldn't agree to be my gal.I told her if she regretted,she can back off.She told me she was trying to accept me and yet I said those things to her.She told me she wants to think about it seriously before comitting to me.

Wah,really kena BOMB.I kinda regretted what I said to her.Being attached is better than nothing right?Oh well,looking back,I felt that I did the right thing.No point being a spare type.

But anyway,she told me to wait for her to consider.(That's a nice way to reject you).I was stupid enough to wait for 6 months.OK,after waiting for 6 months,I gave up hope.

The next gal that I went after became my "real" girlfriend.I was finally attached.The rest is history.

After reading my stories,you may find that it's not that tough.I have left out a number of challenges that I went through due to the time and space here.Maybe one day I might release a book on this.

One thing that made me succeed finally was my commitment.I went into IRC to practice my skills every night.Even during my practical lessons(I'm not advocating that you do that) and always got a scolding from my lecturer.

I knew that if I kept doing it and kept practicing,I will succeeded someday.It's useless walking down Orchard Road and getting jealous of couples.Especially those pretty gals with ugly guys.(Beauty and the Beast).Pointless.Ask yourself what can you do to succeed.Don't just use eye power.Take action!

If you are really interested in getting attached,I recommend that you do the following...

1.Practice your communication skills.Practice your conversational skills.How can you make people interested in talking to you?How can you make your presence enjoyable to others?

2.You self-esteem.How do you see yourself?Are you confident?Are you able to withstand rejection?Who are you trying to please everytime?

My personal quote:"If I choose you,it's your luck.If you don't choose me,it's your loss."

3.Increase your knowledge.Read books on seduction.Neil Strauss's "The Game" is a good book to get you started.

4.Apply the knowledge you've learn.Practice,practice and practice.Until you get your desired results.

5.Commitment.Commit to keep working until you get what you want.Don't give up.Be tough and tenacious.

OK,I'm going to close.Hope this inspires you.I've enjoyed sharing.God Bless.:)

Using Birth Dates To Determine Pretty Gals...

2006-11-15T14:04:00.000-08:00

How have you been?November is here...As promised,I'll make an effort to blog every month,despite my busy and hectic schedule.

This time round I want to share something interesting with you.I discovered this by accident.You probably know...I like to analyse birthdates.Especially those of pretty gals.Recently,I have been doing a lot of research in this area...

By being able to work in a clinic,I am able to analyse a lot of birth dates because I have access to all the information.Well,recently,there was this gal who came to see the doctor.Actually saw her once before.She kind captivated me.

I always thought she looked familiar,but somehow can't recall who she looked like.After going to KTV and singing "Bei Feng Chui Guo De Xia Tian",I realised that she looked like Jin Sha.

I had a great difficulty finding out Jin Sha's exact birthdate.Recently,Christopher wanted to use her as a model for attracting his future wife.(To put it simply,he wanted his future wife to look like Jin Sha and he's using the law of attraction to get what he wanted).

Needless to say,Christopher knows quite a lot about Jin Sha.I asked him for Jin Sha's exact birthdate.He told me he needed to go and find out then let me know.He forgot about it when he got home and I was pretty impatient.

I decided to go online and try my luck.

But I ended up with only the month and day.Her birthday falls on 14th March.But I don't know the year.

Now back to that gal who came to the clinic and looked like her...I know that gal's exact birthdate is 14th September 1987.Using the X-Ray numbers formula,her primary number is 1+4 = 5.

Her secondary number is 1+4+9+1+9+8+7 = 39. 3+9 = 12.Reducing to a single digit number, 1+2 = 3. Her secondary number is 3.

Now,since Jin Sha and her looked alike,therefore their combination should be the same.Since both of them are born on the 14th.

So for this case,Jin Sha's Secondary Number should be 3 as well.

Let's look at the information we have...

14th March 198X.

We know she's born in the 1980s,but don't know which year.

By adding up what we have...

1+4+3+1+9+8+X = A number that reduces to 3 as a single digit.

26+X = A number that reduces to 3 as a single digit.

The nearest number that reduces to 3 as a single digit is 30.

Therefore X = 30-26.

X = 4.

In conclusion,Jin Sha's exact Birthdate should be 14th March 1984.

I was pretty excited about this....wondered if my theory really worked.I called up Christopher to ask him again for the exact date.

He told me he'll sms me once he find it.I received his sms the next day.It was exactly as what I said.

Now,I didn't know X-Ray Numbers was this POWERFUL!Before I discovered this,I used it only to analyse character and personality.

So the bottomline is this,if you want to look for a gal that looks like any movie star,what you need to do is to find out the movie star's primary and secondary number.And try to find a gal with that combination.Although you may not strike 100%,but the looks should be quite smiliar.

Do try it!

Anyway,I'll be releasing an E-Book on this subject in the future.I'll probably name it "X-Ray Numbers VS Pretty Gals".

Meanwhile,I'm working on the "X-Ray Numbers Romance" E-Book.It's a guide for singles.Basically it teaches you how to handle the different categories of people.With this book,you can read anyone like an X-Ray Machine.Anytime,anywhere.

If you use this on your dates,you'll be able to have substantial success in romance.As the saying goes,"Know thyself and know thy enemy,you'll win every single battle you fight!".

This E-Book will only be launched sometime next year.I'm still working on it.

I have just completed a FREE E-Report,it's titled "The Secrets Of Determining Your Lover".Once everything is edited and uploaded,I will list out the URL and you can download it.

This report reveals a very simple formula for you to determine your lover.Who is compatible with you and who is not.You can use this to choose your partner.

There's another secret formula which determines your soul mate.Couples who meet this criteria will never separate.Even if they break up,somehow they'll still end up back together.If you are single and looking for a stable relationship,this is the type of guy/gal you need to look for.Everything is revealed in the E-Report...

Interested to know more?Stay tuned.

I got to go back and work.Hope you enjoyed reading.God bless.

What To Do......When You Are Overwhelmed With Negativity Over Your Enemies?

2006-10-03T14:57:00.000-07:00

I discovered something today...........and I want to share it with you.

If you have felt very negative and bitter towards your enemies,then this post is specially dedicated to you.

Before I begin.....I believe you know this.....if you harbour hatred and bitterness,you are hurting yourself.And if you are a Christian like me,you are actually blocking God's blessings for you.

But then when you are in the situation,it's very difficult to cool down and just forgive them like that..........Right?

Well,it was very tough for me.Let's assume you are like me.

So what can you do to release this hatred and bitterness?

Simple...........

Just ask yourself what are your goals in life......what's the lifestyle you want to lead?What is the "perfect life" for you?

Then go to places where "your perfect life" lies.For instance,if you have a dream car,go to the car showroom and look at that car.If you have a dream house,go to your dream house or to the area where you desire to stay in.

Once you are there,start visualising in your mind how would your life be like once you "reach there".

When you start doing that,you start feeling "prosperous".You mood starts to become better.All of a sudden,you enemies seem so small and so distant.....

You know that they are not so important after all.They are not so worthy of your attention after all.Your goals and dreams are more important.

You agree with me?Well,if you don't know,then try it out.

Christopher and I did this today and it worked for the both of us.You might want to try it.

As you may have realised,we have been under attack by our enemies recently.He's in a worse situation than me.He sees his enemies daily,whereas I only see my enemies on weekends.

Well,hopefully I don't have to see them at all.

What Christopher and I did was to go for our "Prosperity Tour".We went to our dream houses,visualised our future and then went to Gelato Ice Cream.

It helped tremendously.It gave me more strength and excitement to work.All of a sudden,my enemies seem to far and distant.

That's why.......it's already 6:04 AM now and I'm still in front of my computer.I'm so excited about my future.

I want to work as much as I possibly can.

You can too.I'm sure you have a dream and goal worth pursuing.One that will make you excited.If you don't have one,then find one.After all you only have one life.

LIVE WITH PASSION!

Came to realise that my wife was suspended from work.I was suprised because her superior seemed to like her.Her superior said before that she had a bright future.I was shocked when I knew that she was suspended.

Then the reason came out......she lost her temper with her assistants.She kept changing assistants because they couldn't work with her due to her temper.Well,recently she has been going through some stress,that's why she's more tempremental.

And so am I.But thank God we didn't lose our temper with each other.Praise God we are a loving couple.

But she did something which I don't quite agree with.There were a few occasions,she refused to show up at work because of her mood.Her superior was super pissed with her because of this matter.I feel that she shouldn't work based on her mood.Oh well,I'll speak to her about this when she's in a better mood.

Interesting thing,I lost my temper with my enemies and didn't turn up for Sunday outing.The pharoah(my boss) got pissed with me too.Oh well,I guess that's why God made us a couple.There are many coincidences in our lives.

Oh well,I've come to the end of my posts.Hope you've enjoyed reading.I'll see you soon.I got to go back to work.

Meanwhile,stay blessed and prosperous!

"There Is Nothing Expensive Or Cheap....It's A Matter Of Whether It's Value For Money" - Marco The Great

2006-10-03T14:37:00.000-07:00

Recently,I've been bombarded by my enemies.You probably know who they are.......the usual 3......if you don't,read my previous posts about them.Anyway,I'll introduce them for the benefit of those who don't know.

They are:Porno King(King of Pornography),Dennis Trident and Zero.

These 3 always like to backstab.Well,there's a saying...."You can choose your friends,but you can't choose your relatives."

So I got to tolerate these 3 buggers because they are my relatives(expect the last one).

Anyway,the culprit this time is Zero.He kept commenting that I'm spending a lot of money on expensive stuff.I didn't know all these until the Pharoah(my source and provider) told me.Then I was being compared with my cousin Richard.It seems that Richard is a very prudent spender,unlike me......

Well....is that true?

Read on.....

Why is Richard a prudent spender?Because he knows how to say that things are "expensive".Oh,so expensive is the keyword to use,to show everyone that you are a prudent spender?

Is that the case?

Well,people can comment that a cup of Gelato Ice Cream that costs $4.90 expensive.....but when they purchase Japanese Imported CDs from HMV which costs $50 and above,they don't say anything.....

Interesting right?

Is $4.90 more expensive than $50?

Think about it.....

I think a 3 year old can tell me the answer.

Well,I hate it when people tell me the things that I buy or eat are expensive.Especially if I'm not spending their money.Who the hell are they to teach me how to spend?!

Oh well,as you can see,I was very pissed with Zero for backstabbing me.

But anyway,God revealed something to me..........

He told me that no matter how old I am,or where I am,as long as I'm leading a richly blessed life,there will be someone who will be jealous of me.And these people will always try to badmouth me and try to bring me down.

Well,that's a good revelation.

Another case.......when I went to Penang,I stayed in Bayview Georgetown Hotel.It's reasonably priced and provides good service.The Porn King purposely went to travel agents and tried to ask about the price of the hotel.

Then he went in front of the Pharoah and claimed that I stayed in a very expensive hotel.Based on some stupid untrue facts that he gathered from the travel agents.(God knows if they are actually true.)

And I was questioned about it.

Damn,when will all these stop?I don't think they will.

So my point is this......nothing is expensive or cheap.Question is whether it's worth spending or not.I can sell you something useless for 1 dollar.If you have no use for it,it's still expensive.

If you spend 80 bucks on Shangri-La hotel's buffet,you feel satisfied with the food and service,it's not expensive.It's worth the money.

Never never say anything is expensive.NEVER.Trust me.

When you say it,you are indirectly telling yourself that you can't afford it.I'm changing this habit.Because when you say something is expensive,you shut your mind off how you can afford it.

The word "expensive" is ONLY for BROKE PEOPLE!And for people who decide to be BROKE forever.

Now I know why Porno King and Zero and broke for life........you should know why.

Next post......

How You Can Pray More Effectively......PROVEN Technique!

2006-10-03T13:57:00.000-07:00

It has been a long time.......how's everything?Hope you have been prosperous.I've been very very busy with work.But all these are worth it.In life,if you want something,you must pay the full price.

You are hearing from me again today because there's an important message for me to share.It has been in my heart for a quite sometime.Let me finish the main point of this post,after which them I'll update you with what happended ok?

If you are a Christian,then this post should prove to be quite beneficial to you.Probably you are one of those who needed this.God has been urging me to share this here.....

Have you ever wondered which is the best way to pray?

Many people like to say "You better pray hard.".Do you pray hard?Or do you pray soft?You may be wondering what is "pray soft".Frankly,I don't know either.

Do you know what is "pray hard"?If you do,then "pray soft" is the direct opposite.

Well,my interpretation of "pray hard" is to pray loudly and to pray profusely.To keep praying and praying...in a frenzy way,till God responds.Question is...........does this work?

Does "praying hard" work?If it doesn't,then what's the effective way to pray?

Here's the secret..........

When you pray,you need to have a FOUNDATION for your prayer.When you have a foundation for your prayer,your FAITH increases.And when your faith increases,your prayer gets answered.

I'm sure you know that God responds to FAITH.

And what can you do to have a FOUNDATION for your prayer?

SIMPLE.......

Before you pray,go into the word of God(check your Bible) for verses that pertain to your situation.Read through and meditate on those verses,then start to pray,holding onto the promises as you pray.

Let me quote an example......

I just found out that my friend Christopher is facing a lot of challenges at his workplace.He keeps getting sabotaged by those collegues of his.He felt really negative.

I was prompted to pray for him.In his situation,he is surrounded by enemies.He needs protection from the Lord in this instance.

Psalm 91 is about protection.Before I prayed for him,I went through Psalm 91 and meditated through it.I clamied all the promises stated in there in the name of Jesus.

Then I started to pray for Christopher.

Afterwhich,if anything happends,I'll still be able to STAND IN FAITH.Because I've already laid a FOUNDATION in my prayer.I've already claimed the promises in Psalm 91.

Let's talk about your situation......let's say you are in a financial crisis now and you want to pray for a financial blessing.....

You can go through Psalm 23.There's a verse that says "The Lord is my shepherd,I shall NOT want.".Meditate on that verse,then start praying.

Usually,after you pray,how fast the situation improves will depend on how much FAITH you have.In certain cases,there are more challenges that come before the blessings.

The main key is how do you fight on despite the negative circumstances?

You have to use your FAITH.

Yes,it's easier said than done.I've been through it too.I know how you feel.But once you have a FOUNDATION in your prayer,no matter what the devil throws at you,you are not affected that much.

When the challenges come,you can just remind yourself of the verse you meditated on.And there you are,your FAITH allows you to BELIEVE THAT THE BLESSING IS ON ITS WAY.

This is a PROVEN way to have your prayers answered.Of course there are also many other ways.I read this from Kenneth E Hagin.(I love his books).

In order to use this technique effectively,you need to immerse yourself in the word of God.You have to know the Bible well.Which are the promises you can claim.There are many of them.

Hope this helps.God bless you.

OK,now about me..........are you wondering what happended to me these 2 months?Well,I've been very busy with planning and setting up my internet marketing business.I went for a course in Penang and learnt quite a lot.

I'm still in the setting up stage.Hopefully I can launch my product and site in December.

Recently I've actually came across quite a lot of things that I want to share.I'll share them in subsequent posts.A lot happended.Some will actually benefit you.Others are just for entertainment purposes.

Use my experience to benefit yourself.You can avoid hard knocks.

I'm planning to write once per month.Currently,my schedule only permits that.I'll consolidate everything and then post everything at one shot on a single day,but multiple posts.

Now for my next post........

How Picking Up 1 Cent Coins On The Street Can Lead You To Riches.....

2006-08-11T08:58:00.000-07:00

I'm back again.How have you been during the past week?Hope you are had a blessed week.Today is Friday,so do enjoy yourself..........

I've been very busy as usual.And finally........I wrote my own book.Haha didn't expect me to be an author eh?You'll know when the time comes.........what my book is about.Stay tuned ok?

OK,time for tonight's topic............

Can picking up 1 cent coins on the street lead you to riches?

YES IT CAN!

Nope,I am not kidding.I'm perfectly serious about this..............

Let me explain why..........

It's all a matter of accepting.If you accept something given to you and be grateful about it,the Universe or God will give you more of it.If you have tried it before,you know what I mean.It may not be money you are grateful for.Probably some other things.

At the end of the day,whatever you are grateful for will multiply.

So coming back to the money on the street.The "1 cent" in the heading was meant to catch your attention.The fact is.........it applies that whatever small amounts you see on the street on in the park.As long as the person who dropped the coin is not around,trying to look for his coin,you are free to pick it up and keep it.

It may be a dollar,50 cents,20 cents ,10 cents,5 cents or 1 cent.Just pick it up and declare this out aloud,"I'm a money magnet,thank you thank you thank you!"

Once you do this,you will be able to attract more money into your life.GURANTEED!

Let me share something related with you...........

Poor people are lousy receivers,rich people are good receivers.If you notice,there are certain people out there,when you give them a compliment,they try to "deflect" it.Or if you try to bless them with a gift or some money,they won't accept it.

Then later they complain that they are poor,they are not blessed...........does that sound familiar?

I came across many of such people.And the sad thing is...........I was one of them once upon a time.If you happend to be like that..........don't worry,there's a cure.

The first thing you can do is to accept compliments.If someone tells you your shirt looks good,just reply,"Why,thank you." Don't have to pay them a compliment back.This is to program your mind to receive.

Now,you may be wondering,if you keep receiving,will you seem greedy?And will the person giving you be losing out?

The answer is NO for both questions.

Firstly,when you receive,you are doing the giving party a favour.By giving,the other party is blessed.If you don't receive,you are depriving him of his blessings.And let me tell you this,I hate it when people don't accept my gifts to them.So next time if I give you a gift,you know what to do ok?

Next,if you receive,you should also give.You may not give to the same person,but you should definitely give.Give to someone who is in need.Don't give to people who are greedy.(That's my policy)If you feel that you should not judge anyone and just give freely,by all means do it.

I admit here that I am not that nice.I hate people who take advantage and those cheapskates.Can never tolerate them.You may be the nice guy who can tolerate these people.Give to them,you will be mightily blessed.I'm still trying to overcome giving to these people.

Well,it feels good to give.Especially when you know that the other person is blessed because of you.And when you do that,you are indirectly telling yourself that you are super-blessed.And that will cause more blessings to come into your life.

Now,this is what I experience personally.You are welcome to follow what I do.

My philsophy is this "I afford can give because God's blessings are overflowing in me.I live in a world of abundance.If I run out of anything,God will fill it back for me."

Well,that's my topic for tonight.Next,I'll share about personal stuff........those who are interested can stay behind.If not you can start to leave my blog........

I have some thoughts that I think I should put them down.For my own reference as well as for you,if you happend to be thinking about the same thing...........

National Day has just passed.............our country is 41 this year.And.......this year,for the first time,I feel super-blessed being a Singaporean.Yes.........first time in the 26 years of my life I felt this way.Well,I may not feel proud,but I do feel blessed being a Singaporean.

Why?

I don't feel proud because I don't like the way certain Singaporeans behave.They are very inconsiderate in public places.Some of them are very selfish,for their own convience,they cause inconvienence to others.

If you drive and travel by plane on Economic Class,you'll know what I mean.They are good at obstructing the way.Sometimes when I'm overseas and someone asks where I am from,I answer Singapore and they seem to look at me in another way.(Not so good way).

Do Singaporeans really have a bad reputation in other countries?For being "kiasu",inconsiderate,blur?Well,I don't know.

Let me tell you why I feel blessed.........

I feel blessed because we are safe here.There are no natural disasters,the country is safe to be in.The police force here is efficent.You can walk alone in the wee hours and don't have to worry about being mugged.Our government is good,there is no corruption.

I didn't feel this way previously because I didn't know what it was like in other countries.Recently,I started to make it a point to pray for those who needed prayer in Daily Guide Posts.com.I realised that there are many people staying in other countries who live in fear everyday.

They don't know when their houses will be blown away by the typhoon,or burnt down by forest fire.Some of them don't know where their next meal is coming from.Of course there are others who are fearful because of the dangerous place they are staying in.

When I came back from Penang,there was this middle-aged gentleman sitting across me on the coach.He was from Jakarta and he told me that they live in constant fear everyday.He was a rich businessman who went to Penang to have an operation.He told me the prices were reasonable and the doctors are good.

When I asked about Jakarta,he told me that at night,no one dares to go out.The crime rate is very high and the robbers there are violent.You can get killed anytime.The law enforcement there is not strict.You can kill someone and get away with it.

Try that here and you see what happends.

So I really feel blessed to be staying in Singapore.If you are a fellow Singaporean who is unhappy,don't complain.You are really blessed.

Next is about family relationships..............

I received a call from my business partner,Benedict last night.He needed to speak to me urgently.He mentioned that he was at a loss..............should he quit school and go full time into the business or continue but fail the subjects?

I take my hat off him.It is not his fault that he ended up there,but yet he is still considering about the money his parents will be wasting if he fails...........Personally I feel that if they force him to go there,they can't complain if he fails.

Let me share the whole story here...........I'm sure Ben wouldn't mind me sharing.......

He's a Junior College student who continued his studies in NTU(university) because his parents wanted him to have a degree.He studied Bio-sciences in NTU,because his mum wanted him to.He had no interest in the subject and struggled with the course.

Finally he couldn't take it and quit.Then his mum compelled him to study Physiotherapy in Australia.He agreed to go even though it wasn't what he was really interested in.............

He wanted to study about business.He wants to become a successful businessman.But his parents didn't see it in the same way.Simple reason.......because they believe you got to "Study hard,get a good job.........."

They are operating in a different mindset as us.I got shot by his dad at the Airport for introducing Ben to the Neways opportunity.He spoke with contempt.I nearly fired back,but I didn't want to because after all he was Ben's dad.

Ben told me yesterday that he had no motivation in going for lessons.His whole heart and soul is in our business.See,I told you I was super-blessed.I have a commited partner.*smiles*

Back to the story..........through the teleconversation,we explored the different scenarios that will happen if he came back to Singapore or if he remained in Australia.At the end we decided that it was better for him to remain in Australia.

Because if he came back,his parents will make him work and they will definitely screw him hard for not completing the course.But is it his fault?NO,definitely not!In the first place,they should have let him studied what he wanted to.Encourage him to pursue his goals.

Coming back to me...........I'm also in a similar situation as him.But praise God,at least I have a supportive mum.My dad condemns me.He always compares me with my brother.My brother has good grades and has a great future in store for him.His course director and lecturers hold him in high esteem.

What about me?A condemned poly student,who did poorly in school.And had no desire to go for a degree.Doomed.No future at all.Right?

WRONG!My future is in my own hands.I create my own destiny.

But there is a price for all this.........you have to be able to withstand the condemnation.Not only that,you have to be strong so that you won't crumble down when those negative remarks reach you.

Let me tell you,not only my dad condemns me,the bitch Dennis Trident and her daughter also looks down on me.She'll openly say nice things about my cousin Richard in front of me.When her friends come,she'll introduce Richard and treat me transparent.

Not only that,she's always finding trouble for me.Why?Because she feels that I'm living on the Pharoah and it will affect the amount of money she's going to inherit.She and my dad have been trying to psycho the Pharoah not to sponsor me for any trips.

What will you do if you were me??

Hahaha I don't give a damn about them.Seriously.To me they are just low class animals.Not worth my attention.Sorry if I sound offensive.But that's my personality.I don't mince words when I insult people I dislike.

That's one of the prices you pay to be go "your way".The whole world will tell you what is "good for you".But at the end of the day,it's "good for them" and not "good for you".People are selfish,for their own interest,they can "kill and destroy" another person's future.

Let me tell you this............NO ONE DECIDES YOUR FUTURE.YOU DECIDE YOURSELF.

No amount of condemnation can stop you from achieving your dreams and goals.Only yourself.

These bastards can condemn me all they want.But at the end of the day,I will still emerge victorious.I know my destination in life.

What's yours?

If you don't have one,find one.If you have one,go all out for it!

You have to find one..................or live in mediocrity for the rest of your life.

Remember,you are not here to please anyone.You can't please everyone in this world.Someone will hate you somehow.

Many people make this mistake.They want to be Mr Nice Guy and please everyone.End of the day,they suffer.Like me..............I suffered because I tried to please everyone.If you ask Ben,he went through the same shit too.

People don't appreciate you.They treat you like a sucker!You become like a ball,they can kick you anywhere.Of course I'm not telling you to be aggresive and offensive.You can be a nice guy in other areas of your life,but when it comes to your future,DON'T COMPROMISE!!!

One of the worse scenarios is being condemned by your own parents.I really feel sorry for you,if you are facing this situation.But don't give up!Keep going for your goals and dreams!You only have ONE LIFE.Are you going to live in vain??

I am not.To hell with all these bastards.What do they know?They want you to do what they want you to do for their own interests.

For Ben's and my case,just because we don't want to study what our parents want us to study,in their eyes,we are failures.

But in reality,we know we are not.WE ARE CHAMPIONS!!

Parents,don't condemn your children.Sometimes you may have their highest interests at heart,but do listen to them.Find out what they really want.If they have a goal or dream,support them wholeheartedly and encourage them.They will appreciate it.

You know..............sometimes when you keep being a good boy or nice guy,at your own expense..............one day.........hatred will consume you and you will rebel.Not only rebel,you might do crazy things which will harm yourself.

That happended to me before.I felt victimized and started to go crazy.I did a lot of things that I shouldn't have done.Things that harmed others and myself.I just wanted revenge back then.I hated the whole world!I always "Why me?".I got really hateful especially when I saw others having what I did not have.

Haiz.........that was my past.But praise God!I have been forgiven for all my sins and I am a different person now.Trust me,you won't want to know me a few years back.

Oh well,the lesson is to learn to say NO when you need to.Don't try to be Mr Nice Guy everytime.You'll hurt yourself.Say YES only when you really can.I'm not saying you shouldn't help anyone,but exercise prudency.

Long post isn't it?Just wanted to let go of some emotions and thoughts......if you are being condemned,don't get upset.Because by getting upset,you can't change people's thoughts about you.I'll urge you to fight on for your dreams.

Your dreams are worth it.Leave the nay sayers behind.Charge on my friend!Be courageous!

Thank you for reading.God bless you!

The Most Popular Article Of All Time

2006-08-04T14:07:00.000-07:00

I'm back for a short while.Just came across this article which I believe will be helpful to you.I didn't know that 3 simple words can actually change one's life for the better.........want to know what are they?

Read on........by the time you finish,you'll know.Enjoy the article by Dr Joe Vitale.

I'll be blogging again once I get my work done.See you then.

The World's Most Unusual Therapist

by Dr. Joe Vitale www.mrfire.com

Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.

When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane?

It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.

However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more.

I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does. The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility.

His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.

Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.

"After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely," he told me. "Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed."

I was in awe.

"Not only that," he went on, "but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed."

This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: "What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?"

"I was simply healing the part of me that created them," he said.

I didn't understand.

Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life - simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.

Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life.

This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy--anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.

I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho 'oponopono means loving yourself. If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone--even a mentally ill criminal--you do it by healing you.

I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?

"I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again," he explained.

That's it?

That's it.

Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, your improve your world. Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message. This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, "I'm sorry" and "I love you," I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.

Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying "I love you," I somehow healed within me what was creating him.

I later attended a ho 'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive. He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.

"What about the books that are already sold and out there?" I asked.

"They aren't out there," he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom.
"They are still in you."

In short, there is no out there.

It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves. Suffice it to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you.

"When you look, do it with love."

This article is from the forthcoming book "No Limits" by joe Vitale and Dr. Len

The 7-DAY Exercise That Will Change Your Life

2006-08-03T12:22:00.000-07:00

I'm back again,nice to see you again..........hope everything has been well for you.

It seems that this is quite a challenging period for many of us.A few of my friends have been writing me E-mails,sharing the challenges they are going through.Well,I am also going through some challenges.You can read about my stories later..........I will share with you a 7-Day Exercise that can change your life.

Are you ready for it?First of all,are you really commited to changing your life for the better?Are you willing to do anything it takes to improve your life?

You are?

Great,then let's begin...........

Do you have a rich man's mindset or a poor man's mindset?

You don't know?

Well then,let me reveal the 3 symptoms of a poor man's mindset........

1.Blame.......a poor man's mindset is always blaming people and circumstances.It's always easy to point fingers and not look at themselves.Let's see......there are many things to blame......

How many things can they blame?Government,employer,family,parents,economy,manager,up-line,down-line,cross-line,God,spouse,children and etc.......hahaha you fill in the blanks.

The only thing that they don't blame is........................?

THEMSELVES.

2.Justifying...........a typical answer when you ask someone with a poor man's mindset "Why are you not aiming to be rich?" will be "Money is not that important."

Does that sound very familiar?

When you share your goals with some of your friends,when trying to bring you down,is that a typical reply?

Listen up,my friend:Money is extremely important in the areas in which it works,and extremely unimportant in the areas which it doesn't.And although love may make the world go round,it sure doesn't pay for the building of any hospitals,churches,or homes.It also doesn't feed anybody.

Hey,want to have some fun?

Next time if someone tells you that money is not important,put your hand on your forehead and look up as though you are getting a message from the heavens,then exclaim "You're broke!"

To which,that person will undoubtedly respond "How did you know?"Then you stretch out your palm and you reply "What else do you want to know?That'll be fifty bucks,please!"

Hahaha see what happends after that.

You are welcome to post comments on what happended after you did that.

To put it bluntly,anyone who says money isn't important doesn't have any!

3.Complaining.........This is the ABSOLUTE WORST POSSIBLE thing people could do to their HEALTH or WEALTH.

Why?

Simple,because like attracts like.Whatever you focus your attention or energy on expands.You have a choice in attracting good or bad into your life.

Have you noticed this........complainers usually have a tough life?It seems that everything that can possibly go wrong does go wrong for them.Their justification will be "Of course I complain - look at how crappy my life is."

And now you can explain to them why is their life crappy.Oh yes,do yourself a BIG BIG FAVOUR by getting away from them.Because negative energy is infectious.

Let me share a personal story with you..............many years ago,I was also a complainer.I always complained about how crappy life was.How lonely I was..........all good things only happend to others and never happend to me.............I was condemned in life and etc............

I have 2 friends who share this hobby.We always got together and start complaining.Then we'll see who is the worst off.The one who has the most serious complain will feel good,because he feels good as a victim.

It always starts off with one person.The next person will say "If that is bad,wait till you hear what happend to me............." and the story goes on and on.

Speaking from personal experience,my life was indeed crappy back then.Thank God I discovered the law of attraction and I stopped complaining.Instead,I always give thanks for the good life I'm living.

As a result,I have a lot more blessings now than my complaining period.My life has changed for the better as well.

Of course I still complain occasionally nowdays,although not as bad a those days,I want to kick this habit totally.

Yes,I do get away from negative people.I can't stand them,they are like poison,they spread mind virus.I don't like gossipers too.When I work at the clinic,I come across a lot of such people.I usually don't talk to them or get out of the clinic,pretending to be going for breaks.

But the point I want to stress is that when you are surrounded by complainers,you become negative as well.The victim mentality sets in and destroys your future.Trust me on this.I've been through it.

Are you a victim or a victor?

You choose.

I am a victor.Though my name is not victor.*smile*

OK,are you ready for the 7-Day exercise that will change your life?

I am trying this myself,still trying to perfect it............it's a challenge.Are you ready to take it?

Yes?

OK here you go............

For the next 7 days,I challenge you not to complain at all.Not just out aloud,but in your head as well.But you have to do it for the full 7 days.Why?Because for the first few days,you may still have some "residual crap" coming to you from before.Unfortunately,crap doesn't travel at the speed of light,you know,it travels at the speed of crap,so it might take a while to clear out.

I have tried this..........and I failed for the first few days.I'm still striving not to complain.You might do better than me.

Please post your comments if you have done it successfully.I look forward to you living a better life.

This post is actually for my friends.My friends who are going through a challenging period.Don't worry,I won't tell you to shut up and get away from me.I just want to encourage you and get you through this tough period.

I treasure our friendship and I hope this post will change your life for the better.

OK,now it's about myself...........plenty happended during this period.

Hmm..........hope this doesn't sound like complaining.But anyway,it's the truth.

I nearly got into a car accident on Sunday.All thanks to Dennis Trident.Well,a leopard never changes its spots.I always give people chances,but I think she's just incorrigible.Can't blame me for disliking her.

After lunch on Sunday,the Pharoah suggested that we have a drive to NUH.Because Trident is going for some medical appointment this week,so he wanted to make sure she was familiar with the location.

Actually it's crap,it's because he wanted to go there himself.So no choice,I had to drive.From city area to NUH(National University Hospital),the fastest way is to go by AYE(Ayer Rajah Expressway),exit from South Buona Vista Road.

When I reached the Lower Delta Road exit,suddenly Trident commanded me to exit.I was driving on the extremely right lane,had to cut across 3 lanes to the exit.It was really dangerous.Anyway I did it because I didn't know where exactly they wanted to go.

There were many cars approaching from behind at a high.It was very dangerous.After the exit I asked her where exactly she wanted to go.She said NUH.I said fine,direct me how to get there.She said AYE.

But before I exited,I said that AYE was the fastest way there.What the hell is she trying to do?I don't know.Anyway,I got to navigate through heavy traffic and do a U-turn to go back.

She's just God damn irritating.

When we were leaving from there,she commanded me to turn right and the Pharoah commanded me to turn left.Where the fuck do they want me to go?I was really irritated.In the end we got "lost" in the maze of roads there.Then there was a part where I did see a car approaching from the other side.Nearly got into accident.

Finally we got to South Buona Vista Road and managed to see AYE.She started her nonsense again.Trying to direct me where to go.She thinks she knows it all.But she should just shut up and enjoy the ride.

I made it a point,if she's on board,I won't drive.I will not tolerate her nonsense.She really tests my patience.It's a matter of time I'll tear her face in front of everybody.

Her nonsense didn't just stop there.My cousin Richard wanted to go to Great World City,he has to reach there at around 3pm.I tried to think of the fastest way to go because he was slightly late.

That bitch started her nonsense again,tried to tell me where to go.The most irritating thing is you have to justify why you want to go by your route.I can simply say that my route is the fastest.But it's terrible.I don't want to start a debate.As it is we are rushing for time.

I appreciate my cousin Richard for asking her to shut up and let me drive.Hahaha,he knew I was on the verge of exploding anytime.She should thank him instead.I know she won't like it if I explode.

Finally...........when she got off the car,there was peace.The Pharoah didn't say much.He is ok.It's only when the bitch(Trident) is around,life difficult.

Just out of curiosity,why did God let her live so long?A loser like her shouldn't stay in this world.Next is............I hope I don't see her in Heaven.She's one of the people I don't wish to see ever again.Whether on earth or in heaven.

Oh well,that's about her.

About me............I have been working overnight this period.There is so much to learn and so much to apply.But the good thing is I enjoy my work.Today my work load is not that heavy,that's why I am able to blog.

Another reason for blogging is to hope to encourage my friends who are going through a challenging period.

Hmm............I've been facing challenges too.You know something?

There is a price to pay for not following the herd.Or rather following the masses.

When you do that,people alienate you.Including your family members.But let me ask you this...........who are the rich and successful people?The masses or the minority?I'm sure you'll agree it's the minority.

You probably know why I have a few friends.Most people can't accept my way of thinking.That's why I only have a friends.They are people who are like-minded.But let me tell you something,if you want to be rich and successful,don't follow the herd.

If you follow the majority........you will be like them............unsuccessful and leading lives of mediocrity.

I know this statement will offend many people.But it's the brutal truth.I don't despise anyone.But being mediocre is not my cup of tea.

I am condemned in my family,because I don't have a university degree.Unlike my brother,who has a bright future.He has done well in school,they are sending him overseas for industrial attachment.He has good results,unlike me who got all the Cs and Ds back in polytechnic days.

Well,nothing against my brother,I know he'll have a bright future.I know I'll have a bright future too.But I got to overcome the condemnation that I'm facing now.Hahaha may God give me the strength to overcome all these.

Other people may condemn you.That's ok,but if your own parent condemns you,that's another story.Well,I'm not complaining or blaming anyone.I just want to try to break free from these negative influences.

I felt pretty down yesterday night.When I was on the last bus home,God actually spoke to me.He encouraged me to have faith and confidence in myself.After all,I don't need anyone's permission to succeed.If He's with me,who can be against me?

Praise God,He's always there for me............me on the other hand only pray and worship when I'm in some kind of trouble.I'm ashamed of myself.Actually last night I didn't pray or anything,He just spoke to me through my spirit.

It was really encouraging.God spoke about jealousy and how it came about.I shall share it with you...............

How do jealous people come about?The seed of jealousy is unhappiness.You can't be jealous if you are already happy.People must be unhappy first in order to be jealous.

The next stage is when they see others having what they desire to have and don't have,this is where jealousy starts.When that happends,a vicious cycle begins...........

The more jealous they get,the further the object of their desires goes away from them.The more they can't get what they want,the more jealous they get.This cycle will never end...........

Unless these people wake up and stop being jealous.

How do you counter jealousy?

Simple,by being happy and grateful for all your blessings.From my personal experience,after being grateful for all my blessings,more blessings came to me.

I believe God wanted me to share this with you.Hope you are blessed.

Don't fall into the trap of jealousy.It will kill you.When people get jealous,they get sick easily.All the cancer and other funny illnesses go to them.

OK,that's all for tonight.I hope to be blogging again soon.It will depend on my work load.I will do my best to blog often.In the meantime,try the exercise and be blessed.

All The Best.

Which Are The 3 Influences That Makes You STAY BROKE In Life?Part 3

2006-07-26T14:08:00.000-07:00

Hi and welcome back to Part 3................I have been quite busy and sick these few days.There's a flu virus going around in Singapore.Many people caught it.My nose went "running" the whole of Monday and yesterday.

Oh well..........Praise God that I've recovered.I'm back again!You haven't been hearing about my personal happenings recently.Reason is that I've decided to provide more value-added content for you.After all,why would you want to read about my life?You are more interested in improving your own life right?

Which is the reason why you are reading this blog right now..............My role is to provide good quality content that can help you reach the life or level you desire to reach.But if there's any lesson I have learnt that I feel is important,I'll share it with you.Other than that,you will mostly hear about the good stuff from other authors.

Hopefully all these will help you more faster towards your destination in life.:)

Alright,let's start with the final influence that will make you stay broke................it is............

SPECIFIC INCIDENTS

What did you experience when you were young around money,wealth and rich people?These experiences are extremely important because they shape the beliefs - or rather,the illusions - you now live by.

Let's look at an example of Josey,who is an operating-room nurse who attended the Millionaire Mind Intensive Seminar............

Josey had an excellent income,but somehow she always spent all her money.When we dug a little deeper,she revealed that when she was eleven years old,she remembers being at a Chinese Restaurant with her parents and younger sister.Her mom and dad were having yet another bitter arguement about money.

Her dad was standing up,screaming and slamming his fist on the table.She remembers him turning red,then blue,then falling to the floor from a heart attack.She was on the swim team at school and had CPR training,which she administred,but to no avail.Her father died in her arms.

And so,from that day forth,Josey's mind linked money with pain.It's no wonder then that as an adult,she subconsciously got rid of all her money in an effort to get rid of her pain.It's also interesting to note that she became a nurse.Why?Is it possible that she was still trying to save her dad?

After the seminar,Josey changed her beliefs and is on the way to financial freedom.She is now a financial-planner,still helping people.But this time one-on-one,to understand how their past programming runs every aspect of their financial lives.

The next example involves the author's wife..........when she was 8 years old,she would ask her mum for a quarter when the ice cream truck came down the street.Her mom would reply,"Sorry,dear,I don't have any money.Go ask Dad,Dad's got all the money."
The author's wife would then go ask her Dad.He would give her the money,she got her cone and was happy.

Week after week,the same incident would repeat itself.So what did she learn about money?

First,that men have got all the money .Once they got married,she expected money from him.

Second,she learned that women don't have money.If her mom(the deity) didn't have money,obviously this is the way she should be.To validate that way of being,she would subconsciously get rid of all her money.She was quite precise about it too.Whatever amount of money she was given,she'll spend every single cent.

It was expected that this caused problems in their marriage.It nearly cost their marriage.Thank goodness they both learned how to revise each other's money blueprints and most importantly,create a third money blueprint specifically for the relationship.

OK,let's see how you can improve your situation....................

Here's an exercise you can do with your partner.Sit down and discuss the history each of you brings to your thoughts about money - what you heard when you were young,what was modelled in your family,and any emotional incidents that occured.

Also,find out what money really means to your partner.Is it pleasure or freedom or security or status?This will assist you in identifying each other's current money blueprint and help you discover why you might be disagreeing in this arena.

Next,discuss what you want today not as individuals,but as a partnership.Decide and agree upon your goals and attitude with regard to money and success.Then create a list of these attitudes and actions you both agree to live by and write them down.

Post them on the wall,and if ever there's an issue,gently,very gently,remind each other what you decided together when you were both objective,unemotional and outside the grip of your old money blue prints.

AWARENESS:Consider a specific emotional incident you experienced around money when you were young.

UNDERSTANDING:Write down how this incident may have affected your current financial life.

DISASSOCIATION:Can you see this way of being is only what you learned and isn't you?Can you see you have a choice in the present moment to be different?

DECLARATION:Place your hand on your heart and say...

"I release my nonsupportive money experiences from the past and create a new and rich future."

Touch your head and say...

"I have a millionaire mind!"

At last,you have the 3 influences that are stopping you from becoming rich.Do the exercises and you'll be able to breakfree from the poverty mindset.You probably have heard of this............."Prosperity is a mindset,so is poverty".Don't get trapped in the poverty cycle.

One last lesson before I close............I think I've learnt another valuable lesson today..........how to work with people with different points of view.Sometimes you may feel that being in partnership is very easy.It may sound fun and easy,but trust me,it's not.

Before you are in partnership,you may be the best of friends.............but once you start working together.........it's another story.You will start noticing the other party's flaws and vice versa.There will be a lot of differences in opinions.

Whether or not your partnership will workout,it depends on whether you can accept each other's flaws and views.And another crucial element is trust.Without the 2 ingredients mentioned above,you can call off the partnership.

Why all of a sudden you hear about this you may wonder..........well,there were some issues between my business partner and me.We had a misunderstanding between us.It's all because of Starhub's fault!My e-mail didn't get through and my partner's SMS didn't get through..........

He thought I was playing punk with him.I had to clear up the misunderstanding.Apparently he doesn't trust me.But I don't blame him cause he was cheated many times.

Why I said he didn't trust me?There were a few incidents that showed this.It was also partly my fault cause I didn't communicate well.This is one area that I need to improve on.

He had the idea I was idle all day,leaving him to do the websites.Just because I went to the course in Penang,I can slack and let him do the other stuff.If I was really slacking,I will be blogging EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Until he knew that I went without sleep a few nights ago then he realised that I was not slacking.Is trust important?

Misunderstanding was one issue.The next issue was a difference in working style.He wants to work superfast,whereas I believe in working at a more comfortable pace so that I can come up with more quality work.I'm a person who needs to think and plan before I execute.I tend to feel very uncomfortable rushing through something without plan.

The first problem we had was about writing sales letters.I foresaw this problem the first we spoke about writing sale copy for another product.He wanted the sales copy in 2 days.I knew that it was an impossible feat.I can come up with a sales letter in 2 days.But what's the point if it's crap?

Indeed,I reread my sales letters,they were really crap.That time I didn't argue with him.Let him have his way first.I decided to ask Patric Chan how long did he take to write a sales letter when I was in Penang.Patric said the minimum time he took was 2 months.That shows why his websites are selling like mad.

I lost my cool today when the same problem arose,though this time the deadline was next Tuesday.My partner's solution was to copy from top selling sales letters and put everything in.I admit I was very sacastic about it.I told him to try it.He said that we would compete and see whose sales letter is better.I took up his challenge.After all I took Joe Vitale's course on Hypnotic Writing.

But if you ask me personally,I don't give a damn.I don't care whether I win or lose.Simply said,you need more time to write a good salesletter.With such a short time span,whatever that comes out will be rubbish.Anyway,we'll see about it............

I had this idea of giving away FREE E-books for people who come to the website to vote.So stay tuned on this.

I'm well-aware of his situation,he wants to break through so that he can come back to Singapore.That's why he wants to work fast.But you can't just rush through everything.I'm very confident of saying that sales copy can't be rushed because I've heard from the experts.

The next issue we argued about was about learning technical stuff.He mentioned that we need to know about database management and web designing.Personally,I haven't heard from Patric Chan,or Joe Vitale or Michael Glaspie and other internet marketing experts that you need to know all these to make a lot of money from your website.

He told me about this database expert who was making millions from residual income.I don't know anything,so I'm not going to say he's wrong.But the issue here is different views.He and I have different "education backgrounds" about the internet.

I realised that many people tell me that I need a programmer and web designer in my team.I was puzzled because I don't need those flashy sites.I just need a site with good sales copy.Flashy sites won't make you money.It'll only earn you "wow,what a cool site!".That's all.

Oh boy............it's not easy to deal with people...........I'm trying my best to accept his views as well.If you know me,I'm a person who insists my way if I know it's the right way,if I'm not sure,I'll shut up.At the same time,I hate quarrels and confrontations.It's tough.

But then............expect all these to happend.If you can survive through all these,your friendship and partnership will be stronger than ever.Meaning if you can accept each others' shortcomings.

I think it's the same for romance and relationships..............when you first meet,both are perfect in each other's eyes.Hahaha you'll hear "Oh.......she's so perfect." and "He's soooooo sweet."Hahaha few months later you hear something obscenely different..............

I went through it before.........

Don't be overly excited about the other person.Let time tell what kind of character he or she is..........then judge for yourself.I've learnt it the hard way.Last time got played out by a few bitches.I'm very careful nowdays about people.

Hahaha okok,it has been a long post.I just had to get it off my chest.I was rather frustrated just now.I don't hold anything against my partner,he's just inexperienced in certain areas that's all.He's a nice guy,always ready to help his friends.It's just a difference in opinion between us.

Thank you for reading my long post.I'm not exactly sure when will my next post be.I promise to blog as soon as I possibly can.There will be more life-improving content coming in for sure.So in the meantime,take care and God bless you.

Which Are The 3 Influences That Makes You STAY BROKE In Life?Part 2

2006-07-24T03:04:00.000-07:00

Before I begin,I apologise for my late post.You were supposed to hear from me last night..........but I didn't sleep the night before doing business stuff.I fell asleep while waiting for my mum to finish using the computer.

You'll hear from where I left off..............

The 2nd influence is..................

MODELLING

What did you see when you were young?

What were your parents and guardians like in the arena of money when you were growing up?
Did one or both of them manage their money well or did they mismanage it?
Were they spenders or savers?
Were they shrewd investors or were they non-investors?
Were they risk-takers or conservative?

Whatever you see from young,creates what you are today.As you know the saying "Monkey see,monkey do."

There's this story about a woman who prepares a ham for dinner by cutting off both ends.Her bewildered husband asks why she cut off the ends.She replies,"That's how my mum cooked it."Well,it just so happended that her mum was coming for dinner tonight.So they asked her why she cut off the ends of the ham.Mom replies,"That's how my mum cooked it."

So they decided to call grandma on the phone and ask why she cut off the ends of the ham.Her answer?"Because my pan was too small!"

The point is that generally speaking,we tend to be identical to one or a combination of our parents in the arena of money.

Here's a story about another participant from the seminar.............

This elderly went up to the stage sobbing............the author asked him what was wrong.He said "I'm 63 years old and I've been reading books and going to seminars since they were invented.I've seen every speaker and tried everything they taught.I've tried stocks,real estate,and been in over a dozen different businesses.I went back to University and got an MBA.I've got more knowledge than 10 average men,yet I never made it financially.I'd always get a good start but end up empty-handed,and in all those years I never knew why.I thought I must just be plain old stupid.......until today.

"Finally,after listening to you and doing the processes,it all makes sense.There's nothing wrong with me.I just had my dad's money blueprint stuck in my head and that's been my nemesis.My dad went through the heart of the Depression era.Everyday he would try getting jobs or selling things and come home empty-handed.I wish I would have understood modelling and money patterns forty years ago.What a waste of time,all that learning and knowledge has been."He began to cry even harder.

The author replied,"No way is your knowledge a waste of time!It has just been latent,waiting in a 'mind' bank,waiting for the opportunity to come out.Now that you have formulated a 'success blueprint',everything that you have learnt will become usable and you will skyrocket to success."

And indeed,he has accumulated more wealth in the last 18 months than in the past 18 years combined.

This phase should sound very familiar to you."Save for a rainy day."So should you save for a rainy day?

NO,absolutely not.If you save for a rainy day,you will get rainy days!

But don't get me wrong.You should still save.Instead of saving for a rainy day,focus on saving for a JOYOUS DAY or save for your FINANCIAL FREEDOM!

It was mentioned earlier that you either model your parents' behaviour over money or you become the exact opposite.Why would that happend?Does anger and rebellion ring a bell?In short,it depends on how pissed off you are towards them.

When our buttons are pushed,we freak out and what comes out sounds like "I hate you.I'll never be like you.When I grow up,I'm gonna be rich.Then I'll get whatever I want whether you like it or not."

Hey,that sounds so much like me.Did you make that comment before?Sometimes you get so pissed off that you wish there and then you were rich,just to opposite your parents or relatives who run you down.Ever had that happening?

What is your motivitation for becoming rich and successful?This is important...........because if you want to "prove" people wrong or just to rebel...............you'll find out what will happen by reading on..............

Many people who come from poor families become angry and rebellious about it.They either go out and get rich or at least have the motivation to do so.Whether such people get rich or work their bums off trying to become successful,they are usually not happy.Why?

Because their root of motivation for money is anger and resentment.Consequently,money and anger become linked in their minds,and the more money such individuals have or strive for,the angrier they get.

Eventually,the higher self says,"I'm tired of being angry and stressed out.I just want to be peaceful and happy."So they ask the same mind that created the link what to do about this situation.To which their mind answers,"If you want to get rid of your anger,you're going to have to get rid of your money."So they do.They get rid of their money subconsciously.

The result is overspending,wrong investment decisions.In short,they lose all their money.If they don't get rid of the anger,this cycle will keep repeating.They will never be happy no matter how much money they have or don't have.

If your motivation for acquiring money or success comes from a nonsupportive root such as fear,anger,or the need to "prove" yourself,your money will never bring you happiness.

Let's touch a little bit on fear.Do you sometimes have these thoughts in your mind?

"What if I lose what I have made?" or "Everyone's going to want what I have." or "I'm going to get creamed in taxes."

All these thoughts are stopping you from making good money and living happily.How can you get out of this cycle?Simple.............

By unlinking your money motivation from anger,fear,and the need to prove yourself,you can install new links for earning your money through purpose,contribution and joy.That way,you'll never have to get rid of your money to be happy.

OK,it's time for exercises again................

AWARENESS:Consider the ways of being and habits your parents had about money and wealth.Write down how you may be identical or opposite to either of them.

UNDERSTANDING:Write down the effect this modelling has on your life.

DISASSOCIATION:Can you see this way of being is only what you learnt and isn't you?Can you see you have a choice in the present moment to be different?

DECLARATION:Place your hand over your heart and say...

"What I modelled around money was their way.I choose my way."

Touch your head and say...

"I have a millionaire's mind!"

We have come to an end for today's part.Stay tuned for part 3.I'm not feeling well today,go to go and eat dinner now and rest.Besides,I have plenty to do for my business.Have fun with changing your blueprint!

Which Are The 3 Influences That Makes You STAY BROKE In Life?Part 1

2006-07-22T13:52:00.000-07:00

Welcome back again!I was wondering what to share with you tonight.There were many things which I felt were very good to share.Among all the good stuff,I think what you will be hearing in the preceding paragraphs are the BEST among the lot of information I wanted to share.

You'll probably hear about the other stuff in the next few days.

Let's begin...............

I'm picking out points from T.Harv Eker's book,"Secrets Of The Millionaire Mind".You probably know,this is the book that showed me who I really am when I was down-trodden.I'm excited for you,because what you will be reading about will bring you closer to becoming a rich man.

What determines the amount of money you'll have?

Education?Your job?Your wealth luck?Your rich relatives?The number of lottery tickets you buy?

Answer is..............ALL OF THE ABOVE may play a part,but they DO NOT determine how much money you'll have.

Your MONEY BLUEPRINT or MONEY THERMOSTAT will determine how much money you'll have.You can also say that your money blueprint is the beliefs you have towards money.Certain beliefs are in your sub-conscious mind,you have no idea that they exist.

Don't worry,you will be taught how to change your MONEY BLUEPRINT by the end of this post.Just keep reading on.

Next,let's talk about the 3 influences that makes you stay broke in life.............if you are not wealthy,these 3 things may be obstructing your path towards being a rich man.

They are............

First:Verbal Programming(What did you hear when you were young?)

Second:Modelling(What did you see when you were young?)

Third:Specific Incidents(What did you experience when you were young?)

Let's go through each of them in detail.............

VERBAL PROGRAMMING

What did you hear when you were young?Does the following sound familiar?

1.Money is the root of all evil.

2.Save your money for a rainy day.

3.Rich people are greedy.

4.Rich people are criminals.

5.Filthy rich.

6.You have to work hard to make money.

7.Money doesn't grow on trees.

8.You can't be rich and spiritual.

9.Money doesn't buy happiness.

10.Money talks.

11.The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.

12.That's not for people like us.

13.Not everyone can be rich.

14.There's never enough.

15.We can't afford it.

I believe you have heard more than 5 of those statements above.These statements get programmed into your sub-conscious mind and cause you to "repel" money.Next,you'll hear about a story of how Stephen,a participant of the Millionaire Mind Seminar went from being broke to a millionaire.

Stephen was earning over $800,000 per year and had been doing so for the past 9 years.Yet he was still barely scrapping by.Somehow he managed to spend his money,lend it,or lose it all by making poor investment decisions.Whatever his reason,his networth was exactly zero.

Stephen shared that when he was growing up,his mum used to always say,"Rich people are greedy.They make their money off the sweat of the poor.You should have just enough to get by.After that you're a pig."

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what was going on inside Stephen's sub-conscious mind.No wonder he was broke.He was verbally conditioned by his mother to believe that rich people are greedy.Therefore,his mind linked up rich with greedy,which of course is bad.Since he didn't want to be bad,subconsciously he couldn't be rich.

Stephen loved his mum and didn't want her to disapprove of him.Obviously,based on her beliefs,if he were to get rich,she wouldn't approve.Therefore,the only thing for him to do is to get rid of any extra money beyond just getting by,otherwise he'd be a pig!

Now,you would think that in choosing between being rich and being approved of by Mom or anyone else for that matter,most people would take being rich.Not a chance!The mind just doesn't work that way.Sure,riches would seem to be the logical choice.But when the sub-conscious mind must choose between deeply rooted emotions and logic,emotions will always win.

Let's go back to our story.In less than 10 minutes,using some extremely effective experiential techniques,Stephen's Blueprint changed dramatically.In two years,he went from being broke to becoming a millionaire.

The next story is about the author himself.When he was young,his father would sit down at the dinner table with the newspaper,check the stock pages,slam his fists on the table and shout,"Those stinkin stocks!"

He then spend the next half hour ranting about how stupid the whole system is and how you have a better chance of making money playing slot machines in Las Vegas.

After many years after growing up,the author was unable to make any money from stocks.This programming caused his results.He was programmed to pick the wrong stock at the wrong time sub-consciously.

After he reconditioned his mind,he started to make money from stocks.

Now,it's time to show you how to change your money blueprint for this part............

AWARENESS:Write down all the statements you heard about money,wealth and rich people when you were young.

UNDERSTANDING:Write down how you believe these statements have affected your financial life so far.

DISASSOCIATION:Can you see that these thoughts represent only what you learned and are not part of your anatomy and not who you are?Can you see that you have a choice in the present moment to be different?

DECLARATION:Place your hand over your heart and say...
"What I heard about money isn't necessarily true.I choose to adopt new ways of thinking that support my happiness and success."
Touch your head and say...
"I have a millionaire's mind."

Alright,that's all for tonight.Stay tuned for the other parts.Right now,concentrate on doing the exercise.See you tomorrow night for part 2.

TRUE Personal Ghost Encounter Part 2 & A Message From GOD Today

2006-07-21T13:20:00.000-07:00

Hi,I am back again.Did you miss me?

It was a tiring trip to Penang.But in life,you have to fight for your future.Success always comes with a price.Pay it and you won't regret for the rest of your life.I had to get out of my comfort zone and travel all alone to Penang to attend a course which will help me in my new career.

Got into debt for the whole thing.I needed the money for expenses and the course.You'll read about how God cancelled the debt for me.Praise Him.He's always blessing me in many ways.Of course,my enemies were very jealous..............but I remember in the bible,there's a verse that says that God will prepare a table with food for you.You will sit there and watch your enemies and they will see you eat as they try to attack you.But they can't touch you.It happended to me.

Since you are hearing about this..............I'll just complete this part of the story,before continuing with the TRUE Ghost Encounter Part 2.I know you are dying to hear about the next part,but let's just hear about God's goodness first.I want to give Him the Glory.

You probably know.............I borrowed 2000 plus dollars from my mum to go for this course.I told her I'll pay her back in monthly installments.If I make the money back,I'll increase the amount I'm paying her.She agreed.Praise God for my mum.If not for her,I would still be struggling.

I told the Pharoah about it,he told me that he couldn't sponsor me for the trip as he was fighting a war.My enemies are questioning him about sponsoring me for all the trips.As you have seen in June's posts.I was fine with it.After all,it's my own future.When you are building your future,you do you best to depend on yourself.But if God sends someone to help you,accept it.

I was back on Tuesday morning and had to work on Wednesday morning.It was really tiring,had to rest for a while before continuing with my usual work.Wednesday morning,the Pharoah asked me how much I spent in total for my trip............I told him the full amount.

He said that this is the last time he would help me,because many people are complaning about me going on trips so frequently.They said that I'm leading a retiree's life.The fact is I am not.It's just that they are ignorant of what I am doing.

I am fine with that,after all,I don't want losers to spread their negativity to me.Besides,I'm not leading a retiree's life,I'm leading a super-blessed life.PRAISE GOD!!As a son of God,I am really blessed.Before and after the trip,I am blessed all the way!

My enemies made a lot of comments,saying that I don't know the value of money..........my future is doomed.(HAHAHAHAHAHA you believe so?)And all sort of negative things you can think about.The Pharoah told me he was in a very difficult position.He told me that I must not tell anyone that he blessed me with the money for the entire trip.

Then he asked me "Am I really helping you or harming you?" I told him not to worry,this is the biggest favour he can do for me.And I am really grateful.Not only that,I know that God will bless him too,although he's not a believer.

Oh well,the moral of the story is this........when you are under God's protection,your enemies can't touch you.They can rant and rave all they like,but they can't affect you.Like it or not,you are still blessed.Which makes them really frustrated.Hahahaha

I'll tell you what God said to me today.This is something important and I think you can benefit from it.............

You probably know my character..........I hate it when people treat me unfairly.I always treat others fairly.When I knew that those bastards back-stabbed me............the first reaction was to get even with them.I had this nice drama script planned out,just to spite them and be sacarstic to them.

For the past 2 days,I've been working out how to get back at them................BUT................Today..........

God spoke to me.He said that I am degrading myself to their level if I got even with them.....not only that,I am allowing STRIFE in my life,which gives Saturn a chance to get a hold on me......

God showed me this analogy of a leper(a person with leprosy).If a leper punched you.........would you punch back?Chances are you won't.Because you don't want to be afflicted.Similarly with these bastards.............if I start to get even with them,I'm inviting strife into my life.........and I am going down to their level of being negative and jealous...........and then the vicious cycle starts..........

What a great analogy!

God said this "If I am with you,who can be against you?".Which is perfectly true.Try as they did to sabotage me,those bastards didn't succeed.Since I've already got my debt cancelled,why should I try to get back at them?Their plan has already failed,that's already bad enough for them.Why "dirty" my hands?

So if someone tries to bring you down,what will you do.............................?

Get angry?Try to plot revenge?Work harder to prove them wrong?

NONE OF THE ABOVE!!!!!

The answer is try to live happily and be prosperous.The better you are in life,the more jealous and angry they get.Don't have to whack them back.Why degrade yourself?????

Right?

So in this case,God has prepared a table for me to eat............I am sitting there,relaxed.........looking at my enemies as they try,in a futile attempt to "harm" me.Praise God.I hope this testimonial will inspire and lead you to believe God and rely on Him more for your life.Our heavenly Father always wants to bless us.As His children,we must understand His heart towards us,and not buy what the Devil says.

The devil is a deceiver.But use God's word against him,he'll flee from you in 7 directions.

Time for Ghost story.............this happended in the same year as the previous story.........

2001 July................After passing my driving test,I was waiting for my enlistment for National Service.My youngest aunt called me up for lunch,she wanted to hear about my ghost encounter at Mandai Crematorium.I agreed to go..............

We met at Tampines Mall Ponderosa for lunch.It was a wonderful meal,I had steak,as I related the encounter to her..........then I asked her if she had ever been to the Old Changi Hospital......She said no,and asked if I wanted to go that day.

I said I didn't mind.But it was only the two of us,will we encounter anything?She was apprehensive.But later she told me that she had a Buddha pendant with her.I was quite happy to go because I wanted to find out if there was any old toilets there.

We took bus 29 from Tampines Interchange to Hendon Road.A few nights ago,I went with the Pharoah and the other bastards,we went up a hill and saw the hospital there.But it was all pitch dark.I decided to go up the hill again that day.

We reached the Old Changi Hospital at 4:20pm.It was very quiet as usual,as that place is abandoned.We walked up the slope............the old building loomed nearer and nearer...........and finally,we hit the entrance.

It looked like an old mansion.I wondered if we were at the right place.My aunt suggested that we go in and explore.A musty smell greeted us as we walked into the building.The paint on the walls were falling off,and there were debris all over the floor.It wasn't a good sight.

I asked my aunt again if we were at the right place......................then suddenly.............as if someone heard us...............a strong smell of medicine greeted us.After a few seconds,the smell "disappeared".

Sensing something wrong,we ventured deeper into the building until we reached another corridor.There were windows along that corridor and on the right side there was a ward.When we almost reached the end of the corridor,my aunt told me to look out,her daughter saw a little girl at the end of the corridor waving at her when she was there.

I went to that spot but didn't see anything.Anyway,we turned back to go outside of the building.As we were leaving,the strong medicine smell came again.And same the previous encounter,the smell "disappeared" after a few seconds.I was pretty curious about what happended,I walked back again...........and I discovered that....................

The smell only came when I was standing in-between the frame of the door leading to the other corridor.I walked over the frame and didn't smell anything.I walked back to the other side,still no smell.Only when I stood in the middle then the smell came.It was pretty strange.

After that,we decided to leave the place and try to find the other entrance to the hospital.We walked down the slope once again and walked along the road leading to Changi Village.On the way we found a staircase leading up to the hospital.We decided to venture upwards.

This time we ended up at the canteen of the hospital.There was nothing much there,only an abadoned stall and some old Coca Cola Stickers on the wall.We got through the canteen and reached another part of the hospital.

There were 2 parts to the hospital,one has 5 stories while the other had only 2 stories.We have been to the 5th storey just now and we decided to go to the shorter building.There was a door leading into the building.It was very dark inside.We went in..............that place seemed like a specialist clinic in the active days.

The whole place was quite stuffy.There was no ventilation in there...............THEN.................IT CAME.....................

Suddenly,there was a cold wind blowing around us.It made my hair stand and send a shiver down my spine.My aunt whispered that we were not alone...........we had better leave.As she was talking,she took out her pendant..................

The wind subsided.Everything seemed calm once again.We quickly left the place and walked down to the main road.I went back and told the Pharoah about this.He became excited and wanted to go and explore the place.

The next time,9 of us went...........and to his disappointment,there was nothing.

If you want to encounter those "things",you must minimise the number of people in your group.Too many humans around,they won't come out.

OK,that concludes my ghostly encounters.Actually there are more.But I think we should move on to Prosperity stuff.This is only for entertainment purposes.

Tomorrow,you will hear about something very important about money.I'm sure you'll love it.So stay tuned.God bless you and have a wonderful night!

TRUE Personal Ghost Encounter Part 1..........My 1st Encounter With A Ghost.

2006-07-12T10:12:00.000-07:00

Do you believe in ghosts?Have you ever seen or encountered?

Maybe yes,maybe no.............I had seen and experience these "things" a few times.You will hear my story about Mandai Crematorium for tonight.If there's more time,you'll hear about the others as well.If not,you'll hear the next parts when I return next Tuesday.

Before I begin,if you are faint-hearted,please stop reading............I don't want to be responsible for your sleepless night.*smile*

By the way,speaking of these things,I watched "Re-cycle" today.It was quite a nice show,though it wasn't that scary."The Eye" was really scary."Re-cycle" is more about storyline that horror.The storyline is good.Worth a watch.

Pull up a chair and relax...............hug someone tight if you need too...........Let's begin............

This incident happended to me 5 years ago............in May 2001.If I didn't remember the date wrongly,it's 16th May 2001.

A few days before 16th May 2001.........

I was on bus 138,just took it to the zoo and back to Ang Mo Kio interchange.On the way,I discovered Mandai Crematorium.

At that time,I didn't know Mandai Crematorium existed.I thought there was only Mount Vernon and Bright Hill.I was very excited about all these places,because I love to explore old,unrenovated toilets.You probably know this hobby of mine.

Why choose these places?Because the toilets of these places are usually not renovated.Reason is simple,because not many people go to these places.I was hoping to find nice toilets there.

From the bus,I tried to view the Crematorium.I couldn't,for it was too far it.If I wanted to go in,I would have to alight and walk in.I knew I would have to go back to Mandai Crematorium someday.Made my way back to Ang Mo Kio Interchange and kept wondering what kind of toilets I would find there............

Saturday came..........I asked the Pharoah if he wanted to explore a new place that I have discovered.He said yes.We drove to Mandai Crematorium.It was 8:40 PM at night.Unfortunately the gates were locked.I was rather disappointed.

When we approached the place,it looked really eerie.Darkness covered everything beyond the gate.I felt excited.............that place sure looks haunted.I made a firm decision to explore it.

16th May 2001 came............I did not particularly choose that day.It so happended that after my driving lessons at Bukit Batok Driving Center,I tried to ask Alex(one of my friends) out for dinner.He declined because he just got attached and wanted to be with his girlfriend.

Sometimes in life,you got to fend for yourself.If you depend too much on people,you'll be disappointed.Well,it's ok.I'm used to going out alone anyway.I decided..............it's the day I'll explore Mandai Crematorium.................

I was very excited.I took a train down from Bukit Gombak to Ang Mo Kio.Through the whole journey,I couldn't wait to reach Mandai.................

Before I continue,back then,Mandai Crematorium was not like what it is today.No new buildings,only the few old blocks.It was very eerie even during daytime.

I reached the bus stop at 1615 hrs...............Crossed the road and walked in...........the whole place was very quiet.After a while,I reached the gates...............there was a very unwelcoming feeling.I felt uncomfortable...........But I told myself,I won't leave this place until I see my toilets.........

I proceeded on beyond the gate............the grey,gloomy old blocks appeared nearer and nearer..........as I walked,a chill came from the bottom of my spine..............but I continued walking.

Finally,I reached the main building.There was a location map in the open.The first thing I went to find is the toilet.I saw it,it is at the block at my left side,where the main office is.I walked towards the block,pass the office.There was someone working there,which lessened my fear.

I walked into the toilet.................it was very eerie.There were more than 10 cubicles in there.They were lined up in a straight row,from the entrance to the other end.It was a very big toilet.All the tiles were gray in color and the doors were made of wood.The whole place felt gloomy and eerie.Behind the sinks were the urinals.Many hidden corners inside.

I checked out the brands of the sitting and squatting toilets and made my way out.I wasn't in the mood to pee there.It was too eerie.Imagine if you were peeing halfway and suddenly something appears..........

I found out that the squatting ones were Johore Pipe Company and the sitting ones were American Standard.All were not renovated.Johore Pipe Company was in trend during the 80s to early 90s.After satisfying my curiousity,I made my way out.

Before I left the place,I tried to find out where they cremate the bodies..............I went back to the map and checked the location of the furnances.They were at the building just in front of me.It had the height of a 2 storied building,but there was only 1 floor.It had a very high ceiling.From far,it looked like a prison cell.There were many vertical wooden bars covering it.But it's actually a big hall.

I was wondering why was it designed in this way?I couldn't even see the furnance.It looked like some kind of prison.................My eyes were scanning the whole area for the furnance............

THEN SUDDENLY......................I saw something................

It was standing at one of the corners of the hall.Beside the corner,there was a door.I got shocked.What the hell was that?A very cold chill came up my spine.................

I tried to keep calm,turned my body slowly and once I faced the outside,I started to run.......until I reached the bus stop.I was really shocked............

It was 1637 hrs in the afternoon..........the sun wasn't that bright.

What did I see?I'll describe it to you.

This thing has an oval shaped body and an oval shaped head.It has no hands or legs.No nose,no mouth,no ears,only a pair of eyes.The eyes look just like human eyes,just that they are red in color and vertical.Imagine the human eyes being rotated 90 degrees clockwise........

The body and head were white in color.Light could pass through it.The pair of eyes were glaring at me.Luckily I was wearing sunglasses,that's why there was no direct eye contact between us.The glare made all my hair stand.I was so shocked that I ran all the way till I reached the bus stop.

I called up Alex.Asked him what was the thing I saw.At first I didn't believe it was something "dirty",because those things came out at night,not in the day time.Alex told me that after 3pm,those things start to get active.If they are very strong,they can come out during daytime.

I can never forget that glare for as long as I live.It's really scary.I couldn't sleep that night.The thing keep appearing in my mind.The next day I went to temple to pray and felt better.

OK,you'll hear the next story if there's time tomorrow.If not,see you after I come back.God bless.

What's Your Attitude Towards Life & Death?Be Nice To Your Family While You Can...........

2006-07-11T10:12:00.000-07:00

You may be wondering..........why a happy person like me talking about such a serious topic?

I'll tell you why...............just read Christopher's post and it was a really emotional post.It really makes me think about being grateful for and cherishing the people around us...........our family members and friends.............

It so happended that today was also my Granny's 13th Death Anniversary.Kind of had a lot of thoughts coming to mind after reading Christopher's post about his Ah Kong(Grandfather's demise).

Have you ever wondered............why do people cry during funerals,burial ceremonials and before cremation?

I've always wondered why............why do they cry?

13 years ago I didn't cry...........I saw everyone cry,but I didn't cry............I kind of accepted my granny's death as a natural occurance..........

Am I a cold person?Nope,I have emotions too.............but why cry when you know that it's inevitable that all of us have to leave this world someday?I feel that it's futile.Since the day you are born,you will surely die.

Tell you about my granny.............actually feel quite sorry for her at the end...........the period just before she got a stroke.............Before I start,let me give you a background of her...........

She was the 2nd wife of my grandfather.My grandfather had 4 wives.He was a playboy in his younger days.Because of the 3rd wife,my grandma was forced to leave the house,leaving my dad,Dennis Trident,the Pharoah and Porno King behind.

Years later,then she tried to find them back.Without her around,the 4 of them were bullied by the 3rd and 1st wife.They were treated like 3rd class citizens.Not enough pocket money to spend,no one to care for them and living in fear everyday.........fearing that the 3rd wife will backstab them in front of my grandfather and get them into trouble.

When they reunited with her,she tried to work hard to give them more pocket money,and to celebrate Christmas with them yearly,with presents.She did her best to keep the 4 of them happy.

Let's fast foward to the 1990s.........

She always looked forward to go out with the whole family during the weekends,but the Pharoah was always very impatient with her,telling her to walk faster and putting pressure on her just because she was slow.

Dennis Trident was even better.............she made my granny sign credit card for the jewellery she bought.When the Pharoah questioned them about the bill,she pushed all the blame to my granny.In the later years,my grandfather's 4th wife(remarried) somehow got "reunited" with us through some links.

The 4th wife gave jewellery to Dennis Trident as gifts.As a result,Dennis Trident stopped going out with my granny.Instead she kept going out with the 4th wife(she's quite a nice person anyway) and my granny was very upset.

Hey,what to do when you have children like that?

Porno King as usual,heck care about everything.

Though my dad is sometimes wrong in his attitude,one thing that I look up to him is that he's final.Among all the 4,he treats my granny the best.Whenever the Pharoah throws temper at my granny,he's the one to speak up for her and fight for benefits for her.He is the one who remembers what she has done for them when they were kids.

May 3rd 1993 Morning..............the Pharoah called up to say that my granny can't get out of bed.She felt numb.We rushed to her house..........on the way the Pharoah seemed to be impatient,he said "Damn,I hope she gets a stroke,so old already still don't die."My dad scolded him for that comment.

We rushed her to hospital.She was warded for a few weeks,then she got better and went home.Dennis Trident tried to find a maid to take care of her.There was this 52 year old lady from Malaysia who came to fill the position.I didn't like her very much,I found her very "fake".She's always sucking up to the Pharoah.

I heard from my dad that my granny was being scolded by the Pharoah for requesting for the fan to be switched off because she felt cold.Pharoah said that the maid was hot,so she should allow the maid to switch on the fan.

The best thing was this,after sucking up to Pharoah,every Sunday,she was entitled to go with us to Johore Bahru,just because she said that she knew the area well and could be our guide.What nonsense!She's meant to take care of my granny,what the hell is doing outside with us at Johore Bahru?What about my granny?

So you can see,there's no fairness here in this family...........

I think they sent my granny for physiotherapy.She went to a nursing home to stay for a while then she went back home.Granny felt very lonely,she tried to call up her children to talk to them.But none of them seemed interested in entertaining her.Their reason was that she didn't want to put in effort in exercising,so they want to make her realise that if she don't put in effort in the exercises,they will not talk to her.It was meant for her own good.

Few days later............she had a 2nd stroke............this time she had to go into ICA(Intermediate Care Area).I knew somehow this time she won't survive.She couldn't even talk..........only can open her eyes and look at us............

This went on till Sunday 11th July 1993.............finally she was able to be released from all these pain.

As usual..........the bunch of clowns cried till they drop...........why bother crying?Why bother crying about something which is inevitable?Why can't we treat a person well when he/she is alive?Why can't we be more accomodating towards old people,who are slower in walking?

They cried from hospital to sending off to Mount Vernon..............Goodness me..........so many tears to shed.........I wouldn't waste my energy and strength crying.............

Question to ask myself is this............when this person is alive,have I done my job as a (whatever relationship)?If I had done everything I can,there's nothing to cry about.We'll see each other again in Heaven............it's as simple as that.

You want to know why people cry so hard sometimes?It's because of selfishness.............why selfishness?Because they felt that they had mistreated the late person.They don't feel good.Now that the person is gone,they feel very bad.But what's the use?

If they want to,they might try commiting suicide and join the deceased in the other world,and start treating the person well..................OK,I know I sound bad...........but it's a fact.We should cherish our loved ones...........especially our immediately family............our parents,brothers and sisters.

Though God promised that with a long good life,he'll satisfy us.But why wait till everything is too late?We should start thinking that it would be better for them to mistreat us than we mistreat them.At least our consciousness is clear.

Friends,death is something that no one can escape.It's part of life.What we should do is to live our lives well............live a fulfilled life.Be a blessing to others.Whatever you do,humans may not know,but God knows.Of course we are not trying to claim credit from God.But if we can do good for others,why not?

I personally hate attending funerals and ceremonies..............I hate to see people crying.It irks me............and affects my mood very much.I've decided on this................

During my funeral,no one is to cry.Even when they send me off,no one is to cry.I want the laughter that I brought to this world to continue after I have left.It would be good to have pop music during the funeral,especially those techno ones that make people dance.

I shall be looking down from Heaven and smiling at everyone.

Oh well,back to the crying case.............I'm not saying everyone is like what I mentioned.Of course there are some people who can't bear the demise of their loved ones.My heart goes out to all of them.I pray that God will bless humans with the wisdom of looking beyond death.

That God will take away all the hurt and sorrow that these people are suffering through.I know it's impossible to take away all the hurt and sorrow from this world.But at least...........do the best.

If everyone treats each other well,we would be living in a better world right?Start today by speaking kind words to those around you.Start to appreciate your family members,while they are still with you.Be grateful to God for your family and friends.You'll be happier my friend.*smile*

That's my sharing for tonight.This is also a tribute to my granny.I do miss her at times though.But I know that certain things happended for her highest good.

Since Christopher spoke about Mandai Crematorium,I'll share about my personal TRUE GHOST ENCOUNTERS tomorrow night.It's going to be interesting...........Stay tuned.

More On Emotional Freedom And "What's Stopping You From Being Rich?"

2006-07-10T11:55:00.000-07:00

Greetings,you may be thinking that you are reading the wrong blog.............

Fret not,it's the same old blog,just that the title has been changed.If you notice,the previous title was not very captivating.

I hope to reach a larger audience.Not to satisfy my ego,but to benefit more people.Wouldn't this world be a better place,if everyone knew how to have what they want,without having to backstab and compete?

Although this may only make a minor difference,I hope you are blessed by reading this blog.

Before you read about today's topic,there were some additional points for yesterday's post that came to mind.

First,it's another application of being emotional free............you will hear about 2 characters in my family that I apply this thinking on...........

One of them is Porno King's wife.She's quite a nice person,interesting and funny to talk to.Can be very entertaining.............

But she's always the best.To her,she has the MIDAS TOUCH.Everything that is related to her is THE BEST.Whenever you give her a gift,she'll have a lot of negative comments to make about the gift.............it's not trendy enough,too big,too small,too sweet,too bitter............you name it...........

Well,my mum got very upset with her.My mum always gave her gifts out of goodwill.Sometimes bought nice food for her to try.Instead of being grateful,she always had negative comments like "it's not as good what I bought at................."

I advised my mum not to get affected by her comments,after all,she just wants to prove that she's the best.The simplest way out is to not buy anything for her or give her anything.If you really want to give,just give,be grateful that you can give and ignore her comments.

I gave her a can of kaya I bought during my visit to Segamat.She told me that it was too sweet and she claimed that the Pharoah made the same comment.Well,fine,I've done my job of blessing her already.She can say whatever she wants.

The 2nd option is more difficult to execute,but it will bring you more blessings.

Another person that likes to be the BEST is my aunt's(mum's eldest sister) husband.He has this hobby of running others down.Whatever he suggests is the best.This is one of the few flaws of his character.He's actually a generous and straightforward person.Not those "fakers".

Makes a good friend if you can accept his bragging and running you down.

Anyway,he likes to ask me to recommend good places for food then say "Ai yah,I know that place,it sucks,I know of a better place,it's at.................."I made the mistake of recommending to him the places I feel are good when we met last time.

Now I'll just learn to shut up and let him be smart.In life,there are certain times you need to be quiet and emotionally detached to what is being said.

If you take what these 2 chaps say seriously,you'll feel upset and hurt.One of my quotes:"Let the "smart" be "smart".You don't need them to tell you how smart you are."

One last thing before you read about today's topic..............If you have read yesterday's post,you might want to learn about EFT(Emotionally Freedom Techniques) which is mentioned in one of the previous posts.It's posted on 27th June.It works very well,I tested it myself.

It's 5:23 AM now............actually finished the above at 2 AM.Was wondering what good information to share with you.............until I finished listening to Paul Zane Pilzer and something came to mind....................

So what's stopping you from being rich?Religion?Family?Friends?Beliefs?Enviroment?Circumstances?

Or maybe the question should be what's stopping you from wanting to become rich?

Well,what is your reason?

Mine used to be "don't know how to become rich","no point being rich,rich people are evil and unhappy","I have no money luck","I'm destined to be average,not rich.Only enough to survive","I am poor but happy","I have to be unscrupulous to become rich.I don't want to be unscrupulous."

Are yours similar to those reasons that used to be mine?

Let me share a story with you.............about the evolving of my prosperity conscious............

Frankly,when I first started out,I was anti-prosperity.Looking back,I had a lot of negative beliefs about money.This story begins during the age of 7..............when I started to handle money...............

When I started school,my parents started to give me pocket money..........but I remember very vividly on the first day of school,I didn't receive any money.Probably my dad forgot to give me my pocket money..........

During recess time,my friend John and I went to the school canteen.Back then,during the old St.Michael's School canteen at Essex Road,there were only 3 stalls,if I didn't remember wrongly.........

There was the Fishball Stall,the Malay Stall and the Drink Stall.I made my way to the Fishball Stall with John.Had nothing in my pocket..........I remember suggesting to John to buy a stick of 3 Fishballs for 50 cents.

The lady at the stall asked me what I wanted to buy.Being innocent,I answered that I had no money.She told me "If you have no money,get lost!".It was quite hurting to a 7 year old kid.

I didn't tell my parents about this incident,but I was envious of other kids who had pocket money to spend.Thank God,the next day I received my first allowance.It was only 60 cents.But better than nothing right?

I was very happy,went to buy Fishballs during recess time.But I had only 10 cents left.That was when the lack mentality of money started.The scarcity mentality towards money.

I realise this now............Since young,I loved to buy the best item that's avaliable.I loved to be extravagant.OK,Lillian Too's Astrology Book said that men born in Monkey year are all like that.She is right for my case.

The difference between now and then was this..........back then,I felt it was bad to spurge on things.I felt that in life,there's always scarcity.I always have to live in lack.Everything wasn't enough.

Though the circumstances were like that,I tried to think of ways and means to make more money.Ways and means of getting whatever I wanted.I'm ashamed to admit............that I used to steal from my classmates during recess time.When I saw something they had that I wanted,I would steal from them.

That was really bad.When you covert after what others have,you are indirectly telling yourself that you are poor.That you don't have and you desparately need it,thereby pushing it away from you.

Stealing is very bad.I could have got into trouble if I was caught back then.

Well,the good thing that happended was this,I did use the correct way to make money.I started to sell sweets to my schoolmates on the school bus.I remember when my school moved to Gentle Road,there was an Indian Store beside my school that sold sweets,ice cream and toys.I used to frequent the store to buy sweets to sell on the bus.

I managed to turn 60 cents into 2 dollars,which was a lot back then,for a 7 year old kid.Hey,I was rich...........I went to the Ice Cream Man and bought my favourite Magnolia Space Cone,which caused 80 cents.I only get to eat that if my mum comes to school to fetch me.

Now,I was able to afford it on my own.I was so proud of myself.BUT.......................my happiness came to an abrupt end when I reached home.I told my parents what I did and they scolded me for making money off my school mates.I was "demoralised" by what they said,but I ignored it.

I continued to "do business" on the school bus..............until one day.............someone complained about me doing business on the bus.Damn it,I was called to see the teacher.It was my chinese teacher,Madam Chio.

She said "This is a school,you come to school to learn,not to do business.One more time I catch you doing that,you'll get into trouble."

I had no choice but to promise that I won't do business again.I felt really bad that day,as if I was the greatest sinner on Earth.But come to think of it,was I really that bad??

Last time I thought I was bad to make money off my school mates,but now my perception changed over the years.........I am providing them with a service.I'm getting the sweets for them,if they buy from me,they don't have to rush to the store after school and risk missing the bus.The risk is on me.

I am fulfilling their needs..............serving them.

If you are thinking that "Speaking about money hurts feelings"(A chinese saying).I agree,but it depends on what circumstances.We are looking at a business situation now.

Oh well,that's just one incident...............another incident was also from childhood...........I remember there was one time,the Pharoah gave me 10 bucks to buy food.I went and spent nearly everything.When I went back,he commented that I'm very good at spending money.

Well,I was at fault.As a kid,I didn't know how to "automatic".From then on,I was labelled as a spendthrift.The funny thing was this...............I started to hate money.

Yes,you heard me right,I started to hate money.Because it was wrong to spend and money gave me a "bad name".Sounds silly right?It's the truth.I don't think like normal people.

Because of that,my cousin Richard was elected as the Treasurer.Whenever we go out on weekends,he would be in-charge of paying the bills and expenses.Now the tradition still remains.My dad used to scold me for being stupid,for bringing myself a bad name by overspending.That made it worse...........I started to hate money more..........

Although I hated money back then.............I was jealous of my cousin.......that he had access to so much money,whereas I had nothing.And back then,my granny(Dad's mother) always commented that he was a good boy and I wasn't.My parents made the same comments too.

And I started to hate Richard as well.I did many things to make life unpleasant for him.Calling him names,picking fights and etc...............

OK,since they are not going to let me have money,I'm going to get money with using own means.I went to school...............and started to extort money from classmates.Oh my God.........I was really a bad boy.Well,those who said I was bad were right.I don't disagree with them.

I would extort money from a few classmates,one of them was Rui Yang and another was Benny.Bless them,they were really nice people.Whenever I asked them for money,they would give me.There was once Benny treated me during recess time.The 2 of them were from wealthy families.

Both their fathers were rich businessmen.Looking back,I really can't understand why I did all that....................when I came to know how to think,I was really ashamed of myself.

But back then,I was proud of being able to "get" money just to opposite those people.If they didn't want me to have money,I don't care,I was still going to get money anyway.No one can stop me.

OK,my character is still the same,if I decide I want something,nothing can stop me.But for now,I won't use underhand methods to get what I want.I believe in law of cause and effect.

So that was primary school days................secondary school days came............as usual,there was "not enough" again.I used to borrow money from my friends................

I had a hell lot of debts back then..........speak of prosperity consciousness...........I think mine was negative back then.

It was very difficult to survive,with only 2 bucks per day.I used to buy Dragon Ball Cards and Street Fighter Stickers to complete the sticker book.The worst thing that happended was this..............one day,a classmate asked if I wanted to buy his complete set of Dragon Ball Cards and Coloured Comic Books.

He wanted to sell everything at $180.I agreed to buy,I didn't bother back then if I was in debt.I told him I'll return by installments.He agreed.But one day,he told me to pay up everything.He told his gangster friends to threaten me,if I didn't pay up,I would get beaten up.

They even called up my home,to get the money from my parents.............I got a scolding when I returned home.But my dad gave me the money to pay them.The matter was settled...........but I lost ALL my Dragon Ball Cards And Comics.They were stolen from my bag when it was left in the school hall.Damn.

All this led me to believe that I had no "money luck".It was my destiny that I always lost money................

There was one occasion,I borrowed from my friend Melvin to buy CDs at Popular Book Store.I remembered it was Aaron Kwok's "Xin Ge"(Love Dove) album in 1996.The debts were reaching neck level.I had to think of a way out................

The answer came................."Magic The Gathering Cards".

I started to use my daily allowance to buy multiple packs of Magic Cards,hoping to get a Rare card from the pack and sell them for a fortune.I didn't manage to get "Jester's Cap",but I did get a few other good ones.

I made quite a lot from Magic cards to sustain my lifestyle.

Polytechnic days came.............I stopped my borrowing habits.Starting to grow older..........started to become more matured in thinking.

Although I stopped borrowing,money was still slipping out from my hands.............what was happening?

I realised it.........only recently..............I always bought junk.I used to buy things which were not that essential.I bought it because I was in a bad mood that day.Especially CDs.I have a lot of CDs which I seldom listen.Those we bought during moody days.

Terrible.

Year 2000 came.......there was this craze over MacDonald's Hello Kitty soft toys.I realised a business opportunity.I told Daniel to queue up for the toys with me.

We skipped lessons one day and went to queue.We started at 6am and got the toys at 4pm in the afternoon.By right we should have went back to school to sell them,but we were too tired.We went home instead.

I tried to promote online that night.Managed to get a buyer who wanted to pay $180 per pair.Wow,that was really good money.We agreed to meet the next day to trade.

We waited at Jurong East MRT Station for an hour,but he didn't turn up..............I started to get angry with fate,God,the universe or whatever you call it.Damn,everyone gets profits,but why am I always losing out?Why is it so unfair?

In the end I managed to sell all 4 pairs,2 of them at $80,1 of them at $40,the last one at $20(thanks to Daniel,he wanted to tackle this gal so he sold it to her at $20).I didn't say anything,because he queued for the Kittys too.

This belief came to mind.........."Whatever good things I have no share,only the bad things come to me............"

And it was true.(It wasn't true actually,but my belief made it true).

2001 came..............it was my final year in Polytechnic.I went to Noel Gifts for industrial attachment.The pay was quite low due to the fact that we were on attachment.Guess what?

My first pay was delayed.I was really pissed.And the belief set in again..........."I am always paid late.....if not,I'll lose my pay."

2003..............this was the turning point of my life............this was the year I found out that it was God's will for me to be rich and abundant.(I wasn't a Christian back then).

Although I knew it,I still didn't fully believe it....................

That year was also the year I began to tithe.I learnt the benefits of tithing 3 years ago.Now I am abundant.I don't lack anything.My money is always enough.If I finish,more will come.

And I found that my money wasn't lost so easily..........I didn't lose money because of paying through the nose for something I wanted.There were no more "sudden catastrophes" that made me lose money.My finances became more stable.

But then I still didn't want to be rich..........I had the belief that rich people are unhappy and bad.They are proud and arrogant,thinking that money can solve all problems.

I remember clearly,when I joined the Neways MLM Business,one of the leaders asked me,"Marco,how much do you want to earn per month?" I was baffled.I didn't know how much I wanted per month.

When they told me I could be a millionaire,I didn't believe it.I was thinking,what's the use?If I became a millionaire,I would lose my friends,because they would be jealous of me.My family might label me as "the unhappy,proud rich man".

Right now if you ask me,it's my birthright to be rich and successful.It's my birthright to enjoy life and to have all the finest things life can offer.Material and spiritual things.Because I am a child of the Richest God.

I don't care what's your religion.It is also your birthright to become rich and successful.Question is...............do you believe it?

I learnt this before I became a Christian,so I'm telling you that your religion don't matter.You are born to be rich and successful.Period.

After attending Bob Proctor's "You Were Born Rich" program,my life started to change..........I started to see possibilities that I didn't see before.........I knew from then on that I can be whatever I choose to become...............

I set my goal of becoming a millionaire by the age of 35.But then come to think of it now,it seems to be too long.I should be able to reach the millionaire status by the age of 30.

Dear friend,let me tell you this............3 years ago,I didn't know how was I going to become a millionaire.I had no clue at all.I only knew that I wanted to be a rich man.That's all.

Only 2 years ago,then I started to see this path showing up.........the path changed this year.........but every step I take is bringing me closer to my goal day by day...........

It is OK to be fearful when you aim.I was fearful too...........back then.What if it doesn't work?You'll hear all the "what ifs" coming up..........but don't bother about it,just go ahead to your destination.You may not know how you are going to reach it.But you will.If you decide to.

Interesting...........when your consciousness level changes,you lose friends.Hey,it should be SHOCKING!!!!!!

OKOK,don't get so shocked.It's true that you'll lose friends.But the fact is,you don't need these friends anyway.They are not for your highest good.I'm a person who treasures friendship.I hate to lose friends.

But right now,I am only concerned when I lose good friends.I don't give a damn about those people who try to run me down when I share my goals and dreams.I cut off contact with a few people who told me I wasn't able to make it.You don't have to bother with people like that.Let them go.They are not qualified to be your friend.

They drag you down with them.............so be very careful when choosing friends.Another important thing is to only share your dreams with the right people.Those who will encourage you and not those who get jealous of you and run you down.

There are 4 people whom I trust and share my goals and dreams with.............one of them is my brother,the other 3 are Benedict,Christopher and Kok Leong.The 4 of them are people who think big and they are encouraging.

Of course they share their dreams with me as well and I'm glad to be able to encourage them.I would love to see them succeed.

Back in 2003,someone told me that I am not cut out to be a businessman.............he told me I would fail and get out of MLM.He was really afraid that I would prospect him.He wanted me to become a lecturer like him,get a fixed salary and be happy with that.

Well,I did get out of MLM,but I'm still a businessman,and I'm on my way to become a millionaire.

The other person said that I will fail in MLM.He was right and wrong.I decided to get out because MLM takes too long.My current business is the vehicle to financial freedom.

But anyway,these 2 people were only out to suck my energy and take advantage of me.Without them around,I feel so much lighter.

Now if you ask me,it's good to be generous to others.This is from me personally..............Do you know that it's a privilege to bless others?If you can volunteer for God to bless others through you........my friend,you'll be super-blessed.

By blessing others I mean without expecting any return.By lending a helping hand when asked to.But also exercise wisdom when doing so.Don't let people take you for a sucker.Be wise in that.

Alright then,the time is now 7:10 AM.I didn't know I can spend so much time blogging.Hope today's post helps you journey toward living a better life.

If you are new here,you might want to read the previous posts.Some of them are very empowering.................

I got to go now.See you again later.God bless.

What Is Emotional Freedom?Are You Emotionally Free?

2006-07-09T11:48:00.000-07:00

Welcome again to my personal post.Today you won't be hearing from any renowned author,only from me.It's a personal post.If you are going through a tough period,this post is for you.

I have been thinking of what to write today............an idea came to mind because of what happended to me..............the urge became stronger when I read Christopher's blog.

My poor friend is really going through a tough period.Blow after blow after blow came to him.The main reason why you are reading about this topic is that I want to use this post to encourage Christopher,hoping that he will become stronger to fight the battles ahead.

First of all,let's look at what is emotional freedom..........do you know what is it?

This is my personal definition,it may be different from your definition.I personally define emotional freedom as being detached from things.Being detached from outcomes of issues,from insults,from the desire to control and dictate others and whatever that can cause you emotional turbulence.

Humans are programmed to be emotionally bondaged.Whether you like it or not..............it's due to your brought up.What teachers taught you when you went to school and how your parents reacted towards your certain behaviours.

You are programmed to want to gain praise and get away from insults.You are programmed to want to win,to be the best.All these are to satisfy your ego.But when you dig deeper,you'll find that it's futile.

Let's look at an example........If you are quarreling with someone,your natural reaction is to want to win the arguement,so that you feel good about it.But at the end of the day,if you win,what did you achieve?Nothing actually.You don't get to live longer,neither do you get paid more(unless you are a lawyer).In fact,the only gain is you gained another enemy and you gained more drainage of your energy.

You agree?

That is just one aspect of being emotionally bondaged.You are being too attached to the incident.It affects you and blocks your energy for accomplishing other more important stuff.Does this sound familiar?"I got no mood to do it.........."

This happends to many people.They get upset with others for playing them out,not honouring their word,for undeserved insults and you name it...........

There are many unhappy people in this world.Why?

Because they choose to be unhappy.Why?

Because they are trying to feed their ego.......which is always "hungry".

So question now is how to you detach from the situation?

Let's be very clear here.I'm referring to small incidents like quarrels and insults and being sabotaged.These are the small things that are causing people emotional turbulence and it's not worth it.

My favourite quote:"Stop trying to gain approval from losers/fools whose opinions don't matter."

Now,get this clear in your mind,you can't possibly please everyone that comes into your life.There are bound to be someone who doesn't agree with your points of view,working style,lifestyle etc.............

Are you going to please them just because of their comments?

This reminds me of a story about a Farmer,His Son and Their Donkey...............

Once upon a time,this farmer wanted to sell a donkey at the city.He brought his son along and travelled a long way to the city.

Initially,both of them rode the donkey(it's the natural thing to do).On the way,they passed by a young lady,who commented that it was very cruel of them to both ride on the donkey.

Upon hearing that,the farmer disembarked and let his son ride,while he walked alongside..........After a while,they passed by an old man,who commented that the son is very unfilal,he should let his father ride while he walk alongside.

The farmer told his son to get off and rode on the donkey..................this time,they passed by an old lady,who said that the son should ride on the donkey because he was still young.The farmer got down and the both of them walked alongside with the donkey.

When almost reaching the city,they passed by a young man,who said that they were fools not to ride the donkey.

So what would you do?

You see,many people are like the farmer,who is trying to please everybody.The question is,what good does it do to you?

This incident happended to Christopher,Benedict and myself.We had friends who would jeer at us when they knew we were aiming for high goals.I cut off contact with each and everyone of them.I don't know about Christopher and Ben.You got to ask them............

They are nice people,maybe they won't do it.For me I am tired of hearing negative comments from losers.I don't tolerate this kind of nonsense.

My question to you is who are you living for?If you please them by not aiming high,are they going to gain?Or rather are you going to gain?

Answer is everyone loses.They lose because they are losers.Losers always stick with losers.Make a quality decision to choose your friends wisely TODAY!

Ok,let's talk about being emotionally free from outcomes of situations.Sometimes you may find that things are happening well,then suddenly something comes along and cocks up everything.........

Ever had that happended to you?Want to know why?Don't get shocked ok???

YOU ARE THE CULPRIT!!Yes,you are the one who caused all that.

Not only you,but I am also guilty of sabotaging myself.........This happends because we accept what circumstances throw to us.............

Let's look at an example...............this is a LIVE example...........it happended to me many years ago...........

As you know,I used to play IRC to tackle girls.And there were many happenings.............now when I first started out,I made a lot of mistakes and had to learn from my failures.

However,that is a very "humanly" way of looking at this thing.In a spiritual way,I could have prevented all those "bad encounters" from happening...............how?

Simple.Just don't accept the circumstances and believe for the best.

I failed the first few times,was played out by some bitches............so I had this concept in mind.........it is very difficult for me to tackle a girl successfully.I accepted that it was difficult.

And it became a vicious cycle.The more I thought it was difficult,the more difficult it became.........

Whenever I make an appointment to meet up with any of the girls,there's always this fear that they will not turn up.Even if they turn up,I would fear that I am not good looking enough.And all this beliefs and fears caused my failure back then.

You see,when you fear,you start to "appear" desparate.And women can tell that easily.Once she knows and "labels" you as a despo.You are in trouble.She will come and climb over your head.You will find yourself doing a lot of things to please her...........at your own expense.......but achieving nothing at all in the end.

Trust me on this.............I've been there,done that.

Let's look at the other side of the coin...............if you detach yourself from the outcome,what will happend.............

When you detach yourself from the fears mentioned above,you don't give a damn whether they find you good-looking or not.Neither do you care if they turn up or not.If they don't,you are ok with it.It's their loss anyway.You start appearing cool and calm.

It gives you charisma and doesn't give you any emotional turbulence,which sometimes can affect you from a few days to a week.You'll keep wondering............are you really that pathetic?

Emotional turbulence kills.Especially jealousy.The most foolish thing to do is to feel jealous of other people's successes,pretty wives,gfs and etc.........when you do that,you are repelling that which you want.So never let jealousy get in your mind.

I was once jealous of people who are attached.What was the result?I was stubbornly single for 3 years...............until I let go of that jealousy.This is just one way of applying this concept.It applies to money,wealth,cars and other things as well.

Remember:Jealousy repels that which you want.

Let me just share with you a tip on meeting girls from IRC............what are the things to look out for...............so that you won't get cheated or played out.

Before that,I'll be releasing an E-book in the near future on this topic.Stay tuned.If you place your order early,you can get some bonuses.

OK,first thing to do is to make sure you are really talking to a girl.Make her call you on the phone and chat.Then you will know that it's not a guy impersonating.

Next,don't immediately ask for a date.Get to know her more first.If you can,make her yearn for you.I'll show you how to do this in my E-book.

Once she yearns for you,she'll try to ask you out.Try to make her ask you out.If you ask her out,you are at the mercy of her if she plays you out.It shows that you are desparate too.Unless you are confirmed that she is interested in you.

When meeting up,always set the appointment at a place convienent for you.So that if you get stood up,you can still save time doing things that you need to do.Secondly,this also takes off the pressure of "What if she don't come,what will I do?".

First meeting,never give treats.Go dutch always.Don't be a provider,be a lover.Then keep evaluating her.Give her the impression that if she doesn't impress you,she won't be considered.Be daring enough to state your real opinions.Don't be wimpy.

Also be on the lookout if she's out to get money from you,to suck you dry.Only pay her if she's a prostitude.Where your return on investment is certain.I've come across many bitches who try to give you false hope and suck your wallet dry!

Last but not least,don't be fearful of what she thinks about you.Always have the mindset that she's expandable.Unless she is your girlfriend.If not,always leave options open.Don't allow her to hold a rein over you emotionally.

OK,time for an application of emotionally freedom.This concerns money,it may be difficult for you to release,if you are in the situation.

This happended today.As mentioned in my last post,the Pharoah agreed to sponsor my trip to Penang this week.Today he changed his mind...............

I admit that I was partly at fault,though I did my best.Usually Sunday mornings we need to go to his clinic to help out.Sometimes we woke up late,went there and got grilled.This morning I made it a point to wake up early,but sad to say,no everyone was ready............

We reached there late and as usual got codemning looks from all of them,in particular the Pharoah.Well,I don't blame him because if I was in his position,I would be freaking mad too.So that was how I lost my sponsorship..................

Now to the main point of the story.............If it was a few years ago,I would have panicked.......because I was "losing" money.I would be very fearful about it.............and it would affect me the whole day................

Guess what happended today??The Pharoah purposely called up my cousin Richard in front of me,to ask him if he had changed enough Hong Kong Dollars.What is he trying to prove???

Make me jealous?I would...........if it was a few years ago.But now.........................?

Felt like telling him to go fly a kite.It is OK if he doesn't sponsor me.I could borrow the money from my mum first.After all I know that after the workshop,I'll be able to make the money back and return her.

AND ONE MORE IMPORTANT THING:"The Lord is my Shepherd,I shall NOT WANT."

Remember this verse when you are in a tight situation.God is always there to provide.God is your provider,not humans.Bear this in mind!

Hahahaha despite the Pharoah's efforts to irritate me and cause emotional turbulence,I'm still smiling away.Because I know God loves me.He will provide for me.

Speaking of the more "difficult to release" turbulences,they are probably lost of a loved one,you know that your friend is going through a shitty period but you are at a loss how to help him,or losing things which you really treasure.

The place that we should aim for is complete emotional freedom.No matter what happends,you are still able to get through it.

It is possible..............but whether you want to train yourself to do it.

My advice,start small.............start to detach yourself from opinions of losers first,then detach yourself from the need to win in arguements.Bit by bit.............as your thinking matures,you'll be able to see things which the majority of people don't see...............

You'll start having the wisdom to "see through" this world.It is a journey............but if you decide to move........you will somehow reach the destination.

One final thought before I go.........................

Victor or victim?It's your choice..........

You are a victim because you choose to be one.Similiarly,you are a victor because you chose to be one.It's all in your own hands.No one can affect you or run you down,if you don't give them the permission to.

Last but not least,Praise God for giving me the inspiration to write this post.You are not hearing from me,but from God himself.I believe God knows that someone else,not only Christopher needs this message.Thank you for reading.See you tomorrow!

It's Storytime!!Find Out How These 6 People Got Manifested Seemingly Impossible Things.Part 2

2006-07-07T09:34:00.000-07:00

Hi,I am back again.Praise God,I recovered from my flu and I feel great now!!

1 Good News And 1 Bad News................

Which one do you want to hear first?

OK,I'll tell you the bad news first..................BAD NEWS is.............I've been banned by Google Adsense.............because of itchy hands and being greedy.

Before I go into detail,thank you for taking time to click on the Ads and for reading my blog......yes,thank you for your support.

I actually planned to use the money from the Ads to advertise the internet business that Benedict are in the process of setting up.......we planned to get 20 bucks per day from the Ads and use it for advertising on Google..............

I admit that it was my mistake,I shouldn't have clicked on the Ads myself.Oh well,in life you always got to learn your lesson.Either the hard way or the easy way.I've learnt mine the hard way............

But it is ok...........I stumbled upon this website, http://www.dailyguideposts.com/prayer/pray_for_others.asp ,there are a lot of people there who need prayers.Some of them are in very bad situations.If you are a fellow Christian Brother or Sister,please visit the site and pray for them.Thank you taking time off to pray for them.

I'm making it a point to visit the site everyday,to pray for those fellow Brothers and Sisters who needs God intervention.Please join me in this.Let's make this world a better place by doing whatever that's within our ability.

Time for the good news............the good news is that even though I have been banned,you will still have your daily dose of inspiration.Though I felt a little at loss,but I will not stop blogging,so that you will continue to get inspired to live a better life.

I'll go on with the remaining 3 stories,then you will hear about the lessons I learnt from the Adsense incident.They are priceless lessons to me.Hopefully you will benefit from them.

Alright,once again,sit back and relax...........it's storytime again.............

How A Young Man Used His Imagination To Come In First In A Competition.......

This story concerns a young man(referred to as E.P.) who was a wonderful athlete and was good at many different sports.During this particular time in his life,he became interested in paddling outrigger canoes.He joined a team and was soon competing in local races.In his second year of pursuing this sport,he was on a team that competed in the 50-mile race from Molokai to Honolulu.

The Hawaiian outrigger teams usually took first place and were considered "unbeatable".E.P.'s team came in 7th and that was considered quite remarkable considering the great number of teams that competed from all over the world along with the Hawaiian participants.

After this race,E.P. began imagining that his team had won the race.He spent the next year forming a new team,practicing,and building his own outrigger canoe.He was convinced that if he imagined himself winning the race,his team would come in first.

He,next year,his team and at least a dozen others flew to Hawaii from Southern California to compete in the annual race.There were several teams with much more experience who were considered likely to place in the top ten,although the Hawaiians were still considered the favourites.

At the end of the race,E.P.'s team came in first,ahead of the Hawaiians and all the other teams.E.P. now holds a paddle engraved with the words "World Champion" which was given to him upon his team taking first place.

After winning this coverted title,this young man went on to coach other teams.He also began manufacturing paddles for outrigger canoes.His paddles are known throughout the world and used by outrigger teams who are among the top teams in the world.

E.P. now makes his home in Hawaii and enjoys coaching teams,manufacturing paddles,fishing and sailing his own boat.He also uses his boat as an escort craft for the annual outrigger races.

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How A Divorcee Attracted "The House" She Wanted And A Husband......

Mrs J.K. was living in her twin sister's home after having been divorced.Mrs J.K. had three children,a son and a girl and boy twins.Her sister and her husband had three boys.Needless to say,this was a crowded household.

Mrs J.K. was very desirous of getting married and living in her own home.She had been dating a man but decided that she did not wish to continue the relationship and broke it off.Many of her friends attempted to "fix" Mrs J.K. up with eligible men they knew,but she was not interested in going on blind dates.Several of her friends commented that if she wished to meet an eligible man,she would need to get out and go places.

The twins believed in the creative power of imagination,and they had a friend who also knew the power of imagining.The three women determined that they would imagine a ring on Mrs J.K.'s finger,which would imply she was married.They did this for several weeks.During this time,Mrs J.K. also imagined herself living in her own home.However,when she attempted to do so,she found herself imagining a home exactly like her sister's.

One day,Mrs J.K. received a call from a friend who asked her to come to her home and help her wallpaper her kitchen.Mrs J.K. agreed to help her friend who lived a few blocks away in the same tract of homes.While she was there,a male neighbour came to visit her friend.

The friend introduced Mrs J.K. to her neighbour.He later called Mrs J.K. and they began to date.Five months later,Mrs J.K. married this man.

The interesting part of this story is that all of these people lived in the same tract of houses.There were only four homes in the tract of 1200 that had the same floor plan.Yes,this woman's husband owned one of the homes that had the same floor plan as Mrs J.K.'s twin sister.Even though Mrs J.K. imagined herself living in her own home,she had only been able to imagine herself living in a house identical to her sister's.

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How Mrs L.M. Manifested A Handkerchief As A Gift.........

This is a story about the friend,Mrs L.M.,who had introduced Mrs J.K. to her new husband.During their friendship,Mrs J.K. tried to explain the principle of imagination to her friend who was very doubtful that "it" would work.

One day,Mrs J.K. asked her friend to come to one of Neville's lectures.Mrs L.M. agreed to attend but was not at all convinced that imagining she had what she wanted would result in obtaining it.But,she decided to imagine a very simple thing - the receipt of a handkerchief.She imagined that someone had given her one and then dropped the whole idea.

Much to her surprise,she received a handkerchief in the mail from a mother of a friend who came to her house for lunch while she was in town for a visit.This woman sent Mrs L.M. a handkerchief with a thank you note.

Mrs L.M. was not only surprised when she received the gift,she became very frightened as she thought there was something supernatural about it.

Mrs L.M. had attempted to disaprove that imagination produces the thing desired.When she received the handkerchief she had imagined,she interpreted it to be some sort of Black Magic and didn't want to know more about this teaching.

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Have you gained something from the three stories?Hopefully you did...........If you are in a bad situation now,don't fret..........use your imagination to get yourself out of the situation.

It takes practice,but if you keep doing it,you will succeed.

Right,let's talk about the lessons learnt from the Banning Of Adsense.........

1.Greed always causes you to lose everything........I was happy with a few dollars per day.Actually never thought of using the money for Advertising back then.Until my website came up.I told my partner about this,he agreed to help with the clicking.

I had this idea that it would be harmless if I clicked only once on each Ad.Just to see what they are selling.......well,you'll never know,if I get interested in the products they have there,they are still earning........

The money coming each day grew..........and I started to get greedy,instead of clicking to see the Ads,I was clicking for the money.........OK,the rest of it is history.

2.I Did Not Fully Believe That I Would Get The Money............Now,I know this sounds contradicting...........how can I not fully believe that I would get the money?Everything is written in the account..........I'll tell you the truth........

I was fearful of losing the money.........I was afraid that something will come along and make me lose everything.........That was one of the reasons why I lost everything.Besides the point that it was wrong of me to click the Ads myself.

3.I Did Not Educate Myself On Adsense.......what can be done and what can't be done..........I didn't find out.I might have survived if I went to an Internet Cafe to click........Hahaha joking,I don't have the time to do that.I have lots of stuff to do here.

But anyway,I heard that you can use the search engine.You can use to search engine to click on Ads listed I think.I found out too late.But never mind,you can benefit from my mistakes.*smiles*

Remember to educate yourself in that field,before trying to attempt any "stunts".If not you'll burn yourself.

4.In A Business Sense,This A Good Time To Learn How To Cope With Losses.........Although I may have lost a few hundred US dollars,I did feel lousy this afternoon..........but after a while,I decided to get up and continue fighting on for my dream.......

Don't allow obstacles and losses to stop you.No matter what happends,just let yourself "let go" a while,get over it,and FIGHT ON!!

I am starting on my next phase of work after this.............I'm feeling very energised when I think about my dreams..........the life I will have.............the blessings that will come........and what I can do for others...........it energises me.........

Do you have a dream that gets you excited??I urge to aim for something great..........something that will make you excited when you wake up...........

Come on friend,aim for the stars!!You can do it!!

I'll see you tomorrow again..........God bless you!

It's Storytime!!Find Out How These 6 People Got Manifested Seemingly Impossible Things.Part 1

2006-07-06T09:09:00.000-07:00

It's time for stories.........I had a challenging day today.........worked my ass off and received a shocking message.I have yet to look into the matter in detail,so I am not going to comment on anything.

Alright,you will be hearing 6 stories tonight.Probably you are in the same situation,hopefully you will take the same action as them to get yourself out of the tight situation,or into your desired situation.

You are hearing from Neville Goddard again.His writings are very inspiring.Sit back and relax........

How A Family Got Their Dream House

This story concerns a woman(who will be referred to as Mrs. A.B).She knew that "imagination creates reality" and taught this principle to her three children,ages 12,10 and 6.She had practiced this principle for years to obtain the things she desired.

Although her husband had also heard this teaching,he had not put it into practice and actually was quite skeptical about results.

One Sunday afternoon,this family went off for a drive and came upon a new tract of homes for sale.As this was a lovely rural area,they stopped to look at all the new models.They all loved the area,and the homes were large and beautiful with all sorts of modern amenities.

On the way home,they talked about how wonderful it would be to own a new home in this tract.They already owned a home;however,they had borrowed money on it and had very little equity that could be derived from its sale.The husband said that although he would like to buy the home,it was not possible as they could not raise the money required for down payment.Even if they sold their present home,the real estate agent's comission would equal the little equity they would realize.

Mrs A.B. told her husband that the only way they could obtain the down payment would be sell their home on their own,thereby keeping the comission for themselves.The husband was very pessimistic about this but told his wife to go ahead and place an ad in the paper although he knew "it wouldn't do any good."He was sure that there was no chance of selling the house in this way.The wife placed a small ad in the newspaper advertising their house for sale.

A few nights later when the husband had gone to bed early,she and her children drove to the tract of new homes.She felt that if she could walk through the new house and capture the feeling of actually living there,she would obtain her "dream home".It was dark when they got there,but they found one of the houses unlocked.She and the three children walked through the house.The children decided on which bedroom each would occupy if they actually lived there.The mother instructed the children to actually sleep in the new house in their imagination that night,and she intended to do the same.For the next few days,they imagined living in their new home and taking walks in the woods that were adjacent to the tract.

That same week,a man answered the ad in the paper.He did not seem very enthusiastic about buying the house but returned later that day with his wife.He told Mrs A.B. that they had decided to buy the house for the price she was asking.When Mrs A.B. expressed concern as to how they would go about placing the home in escrow,he told her that he was a real estate agent and would go through the company he worked for.

This family received the exact amount of money necessary for the downpayment on their new home.The escrow was very short,and the family moved into their new home a month later.

Mrs A.B. knew that if she imagined herself sleeping in her new home,she would eventually sleep there in the flesh.Her children also learned how to obtain their heart's desire through the use of imagination.

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How A Divorcee Got A New Car

Mrs C.D. had recently been divorced and needed to work to support her children as her husband refused to pay child support.Although her lawyer suggested taking him to court for non-payment,the woman did not wish to do this.As part of the divorce settlement,she was awarded a very old and not very reliable car.

One Friday night as she was driving home from work,it was raining very hard and most intersections were flooded.She was about a mile from her home when she stopped at a Stop sign.A truck coming toward her from the opposite direction went through the intersection,spraying a great deal of water as he drove past.

The engine of the woman's car died and she was unable to start it again.She removed her shoes before stepping out of the car as the water was more than ankle deep.She raised the hood and began to dry off the distributor cap with her handkerchief.She was crying at this point and her tears mingled with the rain.She finally got her car started and managed to get home to her children.

She realized it was necessary to have a dependable car if she was to work and support her children.She had no money for a down payment on a newer car and she did not earn enough to make car payments.

She went to work the following Monday and a co-worker asked her to go to lunch.The co-worker had just purchased a new Pontiac Tempest and insisted that Mrs C.D. drive her car back to the office.Although Mrs C.D. protested that she did not wish to drive someone's new car,she did get behind the wheel and drove back to work.

While she was driving the new car,she captured the feeling that this was her car and she felt the thrill of owning it.For the rest of the week,while she drove back and forth to work in her old car,Mrs C.D.imagined that she was driving a brand new car of her own.

The next Friday,Mrs C.D.'s ex-husband called and asked if she would like to have a new car.This was the first time since their divorce several months earlier that he had offered to do anything for her,including paying child support.

The ex-husband was now working for a new car dealership and told her that,as a salesman,he was eligible to buy a certain make of car for no money down and with very low montly payments.He said he was willing to make the monthly payments in lieu of child support and asked her to come to the dealership to pick out the color she wanted.It just so happended that the make of the car was a Pontiac Tempest,the same make and model as the car she had driven that belonged to her co-worker.

Mrs C.D. was able to obtain,through her use of imagination,what she could never have obtained through her own efforts at that time.Her ex-husband,who had offered her no monetary support for months,was the avenue chosen to provide her with the car she needed.

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How Mrs E.F. Got Realised Her Dream Of Living Near The Ocean

This is the story of Mrs E.F,who had a desire to live near the ocean and used her imagination to fulfill her desire.She did not wish to sell her present home but wanted to lease it for a year before making a decision to move to the beach permanently.

Mrs E.F. told two of her friends about her wish.One friend,who had used the principle of imagination,told Mrs E.F. that she would imagine visiting her at the beach in her new home.

One week later,Mrs E.F. travelled to Hawaii for a scheduled vacation.While there,she received a call from a friend who lived in San Diego.This friend told Mrs E.F. that a perfect little house had just come on the market as a year-round rental and she thought this house would be perfect for Mrs E.F.Her friend also said that this was a very desirable rental and Mr E.F. would need to make a decision immediately as the rental would very likely not be avaliable when she returned from Hawaii.

Mrs E.F. told her friend to tell the owners that she would take it,trusting her friend's recommendation.Upon Mrs E.F.'s return from Hawaii,she told her grown daughter that she had decided to rent a house at the beach in San Diego.Her daughter called her later that day and said that the mother of a friend of hers wanted to lease a house.

The woman came by the next day,said she loved the house,and would lease it for a year.Mrs E.F. gave notice at work and was able to move within a month.Since she was a nurse,she had no trouble finding a wonderful job at a nearby hospital.Mrs E.F. has since boughta house near the ocean and has spent 17 happy years living at the beach.

Mrs E.F. imagined that she was living at the beach,and her friend imagined that she was visiting her there.They did this for a week.It is interesting that while she was on vacation in Hawaii,events moved swiftly to bring about her desire.She did nothing to find a new home nor did she do anything to rent her present home. Imagination was able to draw the necessary people into her life so that her wish could be fulfilled.

"What should be done after we have imagined our wish fulfilled?Nothing."You think you can do something,you want to do something,but actually you can do nothing to bring it about.God,our own wonderful human imagination,knows what things are necessary to bring about our desires.It is only necessary to go to the end,to live in the end."My ways are past finding out.""My ways are higher than your ways."If we trust our imagination,it will "accomplish all that we ask of it."Imagination can do all things - have faith in it,and nothing shall be impossible for you.

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I got to stop here for today.I'm suffering from flu and backache.I'll continue with the other 3 people tomorrow.Hope you have gained something from these 3 stories.

God bless you and have a blessed day.