How To Get Attached If You Are Single, Lonely & Unhappy.What Price Are You Willing To Pay For Success?
Good Morning!It's a wonderful Friday morning,praise God!
As you know,I seldom work in mornings.I'm a nocturnal creature.In case you are wondering...I slept quite early last night.The night before,I didn't sleep till 7:10A.M. and then I had to report for work at 9AM.Basically I slept for only 2 hours.
Which explains why I slept early last night.
Oh well,that's not my main topic.My main topic is about commitment and paying the price to achieve what you really want in life.This thought came to mind while I was reading earlier on.Sometimes I do wonder...when people tell me that they want something,are they really serious about it?
Or they just want something and expect things to happend without taking action.Are you one of them?If you are,then it's time to change your thinking.
Let me share a story...
I had a friend who was single for the past 26 years of his life.He was very frustrated because he couldn't seem to get attached.Tried as hard as he could(according to him),nothing seemed to turn out right.
He came to me for advice,so I advised him accordingly what to do to get attached.But after a few advices,I realised something...he thinks with his heart,not his mind.If he's emotionally attached to something,it's futile to advise him against it.Even if it's not for his highest good.
I gave up.
After a few months,he seemed to change his thinking a little bit.Good for him.Then he started to approach me to mentor him and guide him to being attached.He told me he was ready.I was thinking...fine,when the student is ready,the teacher will appear.
Since he's ready,I'm willing to commitment my time and effort to help and guide him.
I gave him assignments to do.Some baby steps to be done each week.For the first few weeks,he did fine.Then after that,things started to happend.His computer broke down and his workload was too heavy.
I can understand that.
But what I felt unacceptable was the whining and complaining.This guy loves to whine.Now,my assignment is this...go to IRC and fish there.Practice your communication skills.Try to make sure you get at least 4 phone numbers and 4 E-mails.
Simple right?
He got less than the requirements.That's also fine with me.I think it's good that he made the first attempt.After that,the comp broke down.
Now,if someone is really committed,I don't care if the computer breaks down or not,he will have some way to finish up the work.This guy sort of gave up,and his attention went elsewhere.He was faced with a lot of problems at his workplace.
People sabo him and make use of him.Well,you get the picture.I sympathise with him.But commitment is still commitment.These bastards at his workplace are not the ones who will determine whether he'll get attached or not.He's wasting his energy on the wrong thing.
Week after week,I kept following up with him.But it seems like he has lost his fighting spirit.I kept questioning him.I know I sounded very harsh.I will do everything it takes to get him back on track.
But I can't.
Because he doesn't want to.You can't force a horse to drink.You can only lead the horse to the river.He pretty much got irritated with me for questioning him.But he does not know that I'm doing it for his own good.Do you think I have nothing better to do with my time?And let people dislike me?
I sincerely want to see him getting attached,but if he doesn't want to follow my instructions,there's nothing I can do.Think about this...if you were to give someone advice.This person doesn't follow your advice and he keeps complaining and whining.How would you feel?
Let me tell you,I was damn pissed off.I hate it when my time is wasted.And I come to understand why people remain failures.It's their attitude.There's a saying "Your attitude determines your altitude".How true this is.
Oh well...mediocre people will always be mediocre.
Bottomline...are you willing to pay the price for success?Are you a doer or complainer?
Now,let me tell you what happended to me.I not trying brag about how great I am.The point I want to drive across is you need to take action if you want to succeed.
Why I feel for this guy is because I knew how it felt to be lonely.All your friends attached while you are still single and alone.
Many years ago,during my polytechnic days,I was a totally failure in getting girls.I was shy,had low self-esteem and had totally no clue how to behave in front of them.But I wanted to have a girlfriend badly.
So my journey started in 1998...I started with using Alamak chat.I was fearful to talking to gals face to face,so the chatroom is a place for me to better express myself.After a while,there was this gal who told me she was interested in me.She was from TKGS(Tanjong Katong Girls School).
Wah...girls school man!Sounds good right?
Now,I was damn innocent back then.But come to think of it,she hasn't even met me before,how can she be interested in me?Besides,we have only chatted twice online.
I asked my friend to find out for me how she looked like.His sister was from TKGS.Later I realised that she was fat,ugly and desparate.Goodness me.OK,that was once of my first encoutners.
Then later on,I came to know this gal from Cedar Girls School.I found her interesting to talk to.Seemed nice.This time I was the despo one.I told her I was interested in her even though she was attached.What the fuck man!Looking back,I sometimes wonder was I crazy?
OK,she didn't respond in a bad way.In the end we kept in contact through E-mail.
One day,she sent me her photo with her classmates.Wah,not bad siah.She's slightly above average.I started to have more interest and increased my intensity of going after her.Later I realised that she broke up with her boyfriend.
Wah,that really made my day!
I was very happy.But I didn't take any action.I didn't ask her out.NOTHING.Just continued chatting...
Then the bomb came.She asked me whether I knew this guy from my course.I said his name sounded familiar.I went to find out about him.At first I thought he was her new boyfriend.Damn it!
Later I found out that this guy was just a friend of hers.But then he told me that she had a new boyfriend,who was a senior of ours and a top student.Wah!You could imagine how I felt...
So that was how the low self esteem came about.I thought I had to be academically smart to tackle gals.It took me a few months to get over her.
After that I went into IRC...
There are numerous cases,due to the time constraint I have,I'll share only the more impactful ones.
In IRC,I met with a lot of disappointments as well.Because of poor communication skills,gals found me a boring guy to chat with.And looking back,it's true,I was a boring guy back then.That's why I stressed on communication skills.
But the thing that improved was this...this time I started to ask them out for outings and movies.I managed to get a few dates.But some of them played me out.Because I wasn't what they imagined me to look like.As you can see,that was hurting my ego.
My self-esteem took another dive.
Despite all that,I persisted.I knew that if I continued,I would succeed someday.
All this went on and on...
One day,I chatted with this gal who had a lot of common interests as me.We could chat for hours and hours.In the end she called me on the phone and we spoke for hours and hours.BUT....
She was attached.Damn it!Why must this happend to me?!FUCKING HELL!!I really cursed heaven and earth for making my life miserable.
OK,one day she told me her boyfriend quarrelled with her.Then she kind of hinted that she would consider a guy if he was willing to admit his feelings for her.I didn't want to admit my feelings,after being hurt a few times.Besides that,I felt that if she was interested in me,she should say so.Hahaha,stupid right?
But it's also true to say that I wasn't too keen on her because of her looks.She's slightly below average.Though I wouldn't mind if she came after me.So I stood my ground.And sometime later,she told me her boyfriend wanted to patch.
Being single and lonely,I was jealous about this.So I decided to run away from her.Because I was feeling so jealous and I didn't want my feelings to deepen for her."Jealousy kills" right?
She kept trying to contact me,but I kept running away from her.And that ends her story.
Now I'll share the final failure before we close.
1999 came.A friend of mine from Mechanical Engineering recommeded a friend of his to me.This friend of his was a cassanova.I knew I met my "teacher".After failing so many times,it's time to learn from an expert.
This guy did teach me a number of things,how to approach and how to handle gals.I saw him in action a few times.But his was too advanced for me back then.He approached gals that he didn't know at all.
After learning some basic tricks,I went into IRC to fish again.This time armed with skills,I felt pretty confident.I was looking for a guinea pig to try out my skills.And the target appeared...
I met this girl in IRC because I was serving MP3s back then in the MP3 channels.We exchanged ICQ numbers and chatted almost every night.I found her quite an intersting person.We shared a lot of common interests as well and loved to sing.
OK,I decided.This shall be my guinea pig.
I started to dig out information from her.What type of guys she liked and etc...In the end,I found out she was interested in this army guy.She liked him because he was more matured.Then I asked her why did she like him.She told me because one night while chatting,he told her that he wanted to count stars with her at East Coast Park.
My next question was,has she ever seen him before?She said no.Wah,this is easy target man!(I didn't know I was playing with fire.)
OK.The fun begins...
I went on to tell her I was interested in her as well.She asked me why did I fall for her.I answered there was no why...love is blind...you don't need a why to like someone.(Hahaha I was laughing to myself as I typed that in ICQ,I was sounding like a casanova).
Then I proceeded to send her a surprise Birthday Gift.I knew her birthday was coming.I bought everything,had it wrapped up and asked her for her home address.She asked me why did I want her address.I told her I had a surprise for her.
She was very happy when she received the gift.Next step was to ask her out.I managed to get a date with her.She was skeptical because she was afraid that I'll change my mind after meeting her.
I assured her that I won't mind how she looked like.(Actually I did mind.I'm a guy after all.But then if she wasn't up to standard,it was still ok because I was experimenting anyway.)When I saw her face to face,she's another average looking girl.We went to East Coast Park that night and sat at the beach talking.
I had a great time talking to her.That was when I really started to fall for her.Damn it!Now acting becomes real.But that night I didn't hold her hands.We just talked under the stars.Romantic siah.It was a great night.
I accompanied her home and I returned home feeling great.We chatted in ICQ again and she told me she felt comfortable with me.(Wah,looks like I'm on my way to success).I started to schedule for another outing.This time we went to KTV.It wasn't as good as the last date because she was down.
I wondered why.She told me that army guy was sending confusing signals to her.Damn army guy again.I was a little pissed to hear about him.Anyway,after the singing session,we went down to Tiong Bahru Market to eat Fried Ice Cream.I managed to take my favourite bus with her.It was a great combo,favourite gal on favourite bus.My 9074 D was at Bedok Interchange at the right time.
After the ice cream,we took MRT back.But this meeting didn't turn out as well as the previous one.
I decided to launch another attack.To try to tackle her before her feelings went deeper for the army guy.I talked to her for hours about how I felt about her and the benefits she would get if she becomes my gal.
Wah,after long hours of chatting in ICQ until the wee hours...Finally,she agreed to become my girlfriend.I couldn't sleep at all.I was so happy and excited.I thought I had won the game...
Far from it.
I didn't know the bomb was coming...
We continued chatting for a few days...until the 5th day...
She told me to wait for her because she was busy.I didn't know why so I waited for 2 hours.When she came back she told me she was chatting with the army guy.What the hell?
So I am a spare?!
I got really pissed and told her if she wants to stick with that guy,she shouldn't agree to be my gal.I told her if she regretted,she can back off.She told me she was trying to accept me and yet I said those things to her.She told me she wants to think about it seriously before comitting to me.
Wah,really kena BOMB.I kinda regretted what I said to her.Being attached is better than nothing right?Oh well,looking back,I felt that I did the right thing.No point being a spare type.
But anyway,she told me to wait for her to consider.(That's a nice way to reject you).I was stupid enough to wait for 6 months.OK,after waiting for 6 months,I gave up hope.
The next gal that I went after became my "real" girlfriend.I was finally attached.The rest is history.
After reading my stories,you may find that it's not that tough.I have left out a number of challenges that I went through due to the time and space here.Maybe one day I might release a book on this.
One thing that made me succeed finally was my commitment.I went into IRC to practice my skills every night.Even during my practical lessons(I'm not advocating that you do that) and always got a scolding from my lecturer.
I knew that if I kept doing it and kept practicing,I will succeeded someday.It's useless walking down Orchard Road and getting jealous of couples.Especially those pretty gals with ugly guys.(Beauty and the Beast).Pointless.Ask yourself what can you do to succeed.Don't just use eye power.Take action!
If you are really interested in getting attached,I recommend that you do the following...
1.Practice your communication skills.Practice your conversational skills.How can you make people interested in talking to you?How can you make your presence enjoyable to others?
2.You self-esteem.How do you see yourself?Are you confident?Are you able to withstand rejection?Who are you trying to please everytime?
My personal quote:"If I choose you,it's your luck.If you don't choose me,it's your loss."
3.Increase your knowledge.Read books on seduction.Neil Strauss's "The Game" is a good book to get you started.
4.Apply the knowledge you've learn.Practice,practice and practice.Until you get your desired results.
5.Commitment.Commit to keep working until you get what you want.Don't give up.Be tough and tenacious.
OK,I'm going to close.Hope this inspires you.I've enjoyed sharing.God Bless.:)
As you know,I seldom work in mornings.I'm a nocturnal creature.In case you are wondering...I slept quite early last night.The night before,I didn't sleep till 7:10A.M. and then I had to report for work at 9AM.Basically I slept for only 2 hours.
Which explains why I slept early last night.
Oh well,that's not my main topic.My main topic is about commitment and paying the price to achieve what you really want in life.This thought came to mind while I was reading earlier on.Sometimes I do wonder...when people tell me that they want something,are they really serious about it?
Or they just want something and expect things to happend without taking action.Are you one of them?If you are,then it's time to change your thinking.
Let me share a story...
I had a friend who was single for the past 26 years of his life.He was very frustrated because he couldn't seem to get attached.Tried as hard as he could(according to him),nothing seemed to turn out right.
He came to me for advice,so I advised him accordingly what to do to get attached.But after a few advices,I realised something...he thinks with his heart,not his mind.If he's emotionally attached to something,it's futile to advise him against it.Even if it's not for his highest good.
I gave up.
After a few months,he seemed to change his thinking a little bit.Good for him.Then he started to approach me to mentor him and guide him to being attached.He told me he was ready.I was thinking...fine,when the student is ready,the teacher will appear.
Since he's ready,I'm willing to commitment my time and effort to help and guide him.
I gave him assignments to do.Some baby steps to be done each week.For the first few weeks,he did fine.Then after that,things started to happend.His computer broke down and his workload was too heavy.
I can understand that.
But what I felt unacceptable was the whining and complaining.This guy loves to whine.Now,my assignment is this...go to IRC and fish there.Practice your communication skills.Try to make sure you get at least 4 phone numbers and 4 E-mails.
Simple right?
He got less than the requirements.That's also fine with me.I think it's good that he made the first attempt.After that,the comp broke down.
Now,if someone is really committed,I don't care if the computer breaks down or not,he will have some way to finish up the work.This guy sort of gave up,and his attention went elsewhere.He was faced with a lot of problems at his workplace.
People sabo him and make use of him.Well,you get the picture.I sympathise with him.But commitment is still commitment.These bastards at his workplace are not the ones who will determine whether he'll get attached or not.He's wasting his energy on the wrong thing.
Week after week,I kept following up with him.But it seems like he has lost his fighting spirit.I kept questioning him.I know I sounded very harsh.I will do everything it takes to get him back on track.
But I can't.
Because he doesn't want to.You can't force a horse to drink.You can only lead the horse to the river.He pretty much got irritated with me for questioning him.But he does not know that I'm doing it for his own good.Do you think I have nothing better to do with my time?And let people dislike me?
I sincerely want to see him getting attached,but if he doesn't want to follow my instructions,there's nothing I can do.Think about this...if you were to give someone advice.This person doesn't follow your advice and he keeps complaining and whining.How would you feel?
Let me tell you,I was damn pissed off.I hate it when my time is wasted.And I come to understand why people remain failures.It's their attitude.There's a saying "Your attitude determines your altitude".How true this is.
Oh well...mediocre people will always be mediocre.
Bottomline...are you willing to pay the price for success?Are you a doer or complainer?
Now,let me tell you what happended to me.I not trying brag about how great I am.The point I want to drive across is you need to take action if you want to succeed.
Why I feel for this guy is because I knew how it felt to be lonely.All your friends attached while you are still single and alone.
Many years ago,during my polytechnic days,I was a totally failure in getting girls.I was shy,had low self-esteem and had totally no clue how to behave in front of them.But I wanted to have a girlfriend badly.
So my journey started in 1998...I started with using Alamak chat.I was fearful to talking to gals face to face,so the chatroom is a place for me to better express myself.After a while,there was this gal who told me she was interested in me.She was from TKGS(Tanjong Katong Girls School).
Wah...girls school man!Sounds good right?
Now,I was damn innocent back then.But come to think of it,she hasn't even met me before,how can she be interested in me?Besides,we have only chatted twice online.
I asked my friend to find out for me how she looked like.His sister was from TKGS.Later I realised that she was fat,ugly and desparate.Goodness me.OK,that was once of my first encoutners.
Then later on,I came to know this gal from Cedar Girls School.I found her interesting to talk to.Seemed nice.This time I was the despo one.I told her I was interested in her even though she was attached.What the fuck man!Looking back,I sometimes wonder was I crazy?
OK,she didn't respond in a bad way.In the end we kept in contact through E-mail.
One day,she sent me her photo with her classmates.Wah,not bad siah.She's slightly above average.I started to have more interest and increased my intensity of going after her.Later I realised that she broke up with her boyfriend.
Wah,that really made my day!
I was very happy.But I didn't take any action.I didn't ask her out.NOTHING.Just continued chatting...
Then the bomb came.She asked me whether I knew this guy from my course.I said his name sounded familiar.I went to find out about him.At first I thought he was her new boyfriend.Damn it!
Later I found out that this guy was just a friend of hers.But then he told me that she had a new boyfriend,who was a senior of ours and a top student.Wah!You could imagine how I felt...
So that was how the low self esteem came about.I thought I had to be academically smart to tackle gals.It took me a few months to get over her.
After that I went into IRC...
There are numerous cases,due to the time constraint I have,I'll share only the more impactful ones.
In IRC,I met with a lot of disappointments as well.Because of poor communication skills,gals found me a boring guy to chat with.And looking back,it's true,I was a boring guy back then.That's why I stressed on communication skills.
But the thing that improved was this...this time I started to ask them out for outings and movies.I managed to get a few dates.But some of them played me out.Because I wasn't what they imagined me to look like.As you can see,that was hurting my ego.
My self-esteem took another dive.
Despite all that,I persisted.I knew that if I continued,I would succeed someday.
All this went on and on...
One day,I chatted with this gal who had a lot of common interests as me.We could chat for hours and hours.In the end she called me on the phone and we spoke for hours and hours.BUT....
She was attached.Damn it!Why must this happend to me?!FUCKING HELL!!I really cursed heaven and earth for making my life miserable.
OK,one day she told me her boyfriend quarrelled with her.Then she kind of hinted that she would consider a guy if he was willing to admit his feelings for her.I didn't want to admit my feelings,after being hurt a few times.Besides that,I felt that if she was interested in me,she should say so.Hahaha,stupid right?
But it's also true to say that I wasn't too keen on her because of her looks.She's slightly below average.Though I wouldn't mind if she came after me.So I stood my ground.And sometime later,she told me her boyfriend wanted to patch.
Being single and lonely,I was jealous about this.So I decided to run away from her.Because I was feeling so jealous and I didn't want my feelings to deepen for her."Jealousy kills" right?
She kept trying to contact me,but I kept running away from her.And that ends her story.
Now I'll share the final failure before we close.
1999 came.A friend of mine from Mechanical Engineering recommeded a friend of his to me.This friend of his was a cassanova.I knew I met my "teacher".After failing so many times,it's time to learn from an expert.
This guy did teach me a number of things,how to approach and how to handle gals.I saw him in action a few times.But his was too advanced for me back then.He approached gals that he didn't know at all.
After learning some basic tricks,I went into IRC to fish again.This time armed with skills,I felt pretty confident.I was looking for a guinea pig to try out my skills.And the target appeared...
I met this girl in IRC because I was serving MP3s back then in the MP3 channels.We exchanged ICQ numbers and chatted almost every night.I found her quite an intersting person.We shared a lot of common interests as well and loved to sing.
OK,I decided.This shall be my guinea pig.
I started to dig out information from her.What type of guys she liked and etc...In the end,I found out she was interested in this army guy.She liked him because he was more matured.Then I asked her why did she like him.She told me because one night while chatting,he told her that he wanted to count stars with her at East Coast Park.
My next question was,has she ever seen him before?She said no.Wah,this is easy target man!(I didn't know I was playing with fire.)
OK.The fun begins...
I went on to tell her I was interested in her as well.She asked me why did I fall for her.I answered there was no why...love is blind...you don't need a why to like someone.(Hahaha I was laughing to myself as I typed that in ICQ,I was sounding like a casanova).
Then I proceeded to send her a surprise Birthday Gift.I knew her birthday was coming.I bought everything,had it wrapped up and asked her for her home address.She asked me why did I want her address.I told her I had a surprise for her.
She was very happy when she received the gift.Next step was to ask her out.I managed to get a date with her.She was skeptical because she was afraid that I'll change my mind after meeting her.
I assured her that I won't mind how she looked like.(Actually I did mind.I'm a guy after all.But then if she wasn't up to standard,it was still ok because I was experimenting anyway.)When I saw her face to face,she's another average looking girl.We went to East Coast Park that night and sat at the beach talking.
I had a great time talking to her.That was when I really started to fall for her.Damn it!Now acting becomes real.But that night I didn't hold her hands.We just talked under the stars.Romantic siah.It was a great night.
I accompanied her home and I returned home feeling great.We chatted in ICQ again and she told me she felt comfortable with me.(Wah,looks like I'm on my way to success).I started to schedule for another outing.This time we went to KTV.It wasn't as good as the last date because she was down.
I wondered why.She told me that army guy was sending confusing signals to her.Damn army guy again.I was a little pissed to hear about him.Anyway,after the singing session,we went down to Tiong Bahru Market to eat Fried Ice Cream.I managed to take my favourite bus with her.It was a great combo,favourite gal on favourite bus.My 9074 D was at Bedok Interchange at the right time.
After the ice cream,we took MRT back.But this meeting didn't turn out as well as the previous one.
I decided to launch another attack.To try to tackle her before her feelings went deeper for the army guy.I talked to her for hours about how I felt about her and the benefits she would get if she becomes my gal.
Wah,after long hours of chatting in ICQ until the wee hours...Finally,she agreed to become my girlfriend.I couldn't sleep at all.I was so happy and excited.I thought I had won the game...
Far from it.
I didn't know the bomb was coming...
We continued chatting for a few days...until the 5th day...
She told me to wait for her because she was busy.I didn't know why so I waited for 2 hours.When she came back she told me she was chatting with the army guy.What the hell?
So I am a spare?!
I got really pissed and told her if she wants to stick with that guy,she shouldn't agree to be my gal.I told her if she regretted,she can back off.She told me she was trying to accept me and yet I said those things to her.She told me she wants to think about it seriously before comitting to me.
Wah,really kena BOMB.I kinda regretted what I said to her.Being attached is better than nothing right?Oh well,looking back,I felt that I did the right thing.No point being a spare type.
But anyway,she told me to wait for her to consider.(That's a nice way to reject you).I was stupid enough to wait for 6 months.OK,after waiting for 6 months,I gave up hope.
The next gal that I went after became my "real" girlfriend.I was finally attached.The rest is history.
After reading my stories,you may find that it's not that tough.I have left out a number of challenges that I went through due to the time and space here.Maybe one day I might release a book on this.
One thing that made me succeed finally was my commitment.I went into IRC to practice my skills every night.Even during my practical lessons(I'm not advocating that you do that) and always got a scolding from my lecturer.
I knew that if I kept doing it and kept practicing,I will succeeded someday.It's useless walking down Orchard Road and getting jealous of couples.Especially those pretty gals with ugly guys.(Beauty and the Beast).Pointless.Ask yourself what can you do to succeed.Don't just use eye power.Take action!
If you are really interested in getting attached,I recommend that you do the following...
1.Practice your communication skills.Practice your conversational skills.How can you make people interested in talking to you?How can you make your presence enjoyable to others?
2.You self-esteem.How do you see yourself?Are you confident?Are you able to withstand rejection?Who are you trying to please everytime?
My personal quote:"If I choose you,it's your luck.If you don't choose me,it's your loss."
3.Increase your knowledge.Read books on seduction.Neil Strauss's "The Game" is a good book to get you started.
4.Apply the knowledge you've learn.Practice,practice and practice.Until you get your desired results.
5.Commitment.Commit to keep working until you get what you want.Don't give up.Be tough and tenacious.
OK,I'm going to close.Hope this inspires you.I've enjoyed sharing.God Bless.:)
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