What's Stopping You From Breaking Through?

Have you ever wondered why the same bad things keep happening to you?Or rather you are always successful in one area of life but a failure in another?

Is it because it's fated?Is it because we are born to be strong in certain areas and weak in others?

Or does it mean that if you fail once,you will always fail in the same area?????

If you are nodding your head in agreement,then I have good news for you............

You don't have to fail in any area..................IF YOU CHOOSE NOT TO.

YES,you read me right.I will tell you why............we'll look at the root causes of all these failures and get rid of them once and for all.

OK ready??

I will be quoting from Neville Goddard again.His writings are really great and I want to share them with you.After Neville's part,I will share some of my personal stories regarding breakthrough.Hopefully by the end,you are able to have a clear picture of what is stopping you from breaking through.

Pull up a chair,get comfortable and...........let's start.........Enter,Neville........

The importance of objectively observing your thoughts cannot be stressed enough.It is easy to slip into thought patterns that can hinder us in achieving our desires.It then becomes easy to blame others or attribute our frustrations to second causes.

Being a rather impatient person,I am anxious to get home after work and I particularly dislike waiting in lines.I began to notice that no matter what time I chose to pick up a few times at the market,I would encounter problems at the check stand such as price checks needing to be done,people writing checks who had trouble locating their identification,and various other kinds of delays.I found myself dreading these occasions,and I wanted to do something about this annoying situation.As I began to observe my thoughts,I found that,while standing in line,I would say to myself,"I always have to wait."Then I realized that those statements made over and over again had created that which I did not wish to experience.I consciously changed that statement to,"No matter when I stop at the market,I never have to wait."Of course that new statement has worked just as well as the old negative one.

As you begin to observe your thoughts,do not be discouraged if you find that your inner conversations do not match the way you feel if you have achieved your goal.You must first become aware of what you are doing with your creative power before you can begin to change it.I ask you to go down to the "potter's house" and see what he is doing.If the vessel is spoiled,then rework it into the kind of vessel that will please you.

As you begin observing your thoughts,you cannot avoid the realization that you alone are the cause of all that comes into your world.You,alone,can change it.

That which is confronting you in your world now is the result of your past thoughts,beliefs,feelings and imaginal activity.These appearances will still continue in being as long as you give them life through your conscious awareness of them.You must disregard the evidence of your senses as it pertains to any undesirable condition in your life.You must imagine and feel that you have already attained that which you want to experience rather than that which you do not want to continue in being.This may appear difficult,yet you have probably exercised this principle unconsciously to produce negative results.

Here's an account from one of the attendees of my lecture............

When I was in my early twenties,I found myself in a situation that was very unpleasant to me and I wanted to get out of it.After attending a lecture by Neville,I waited to speak to him afterwards.I briefly told him of my unhappy circumstances and hoping he would offer some advice as to how to change them.He smiled at me and said,"Don't accept it."At that time in my life I did not fully grasp what Neville has been teaching.I thought he had misunderstood my question,and I tried to clarify my problem by stating that I had already made the choiceto be in the situation I now found to be so unpleasant.Neville again smiled and said,"Don't accept it."I left his presence quite frustrated,thinking he had not understood my problem.I continued to read the two books I had by Neville.I gradually understood that regardless of the circumstances which surrounded me,I did not need to accept them as final.I began to imagine what I wanted rather than focus my thoughts on my negative surroundings.An event took place two weeks after I began my imaginal acts that was instrumental in bringing about my heart's desire five months later - that of a brand new home.Meanwhile,the situation that had been so depressing to me improved,and I spent the next five months planning what I would do in my new home.

Neville:"I'm back again."

Think about some past disappointment you may have had.Perhaps you were looking forward to attending a special event with someone.In your anticipation of it,did you think,"This is too good to be true,something will probably happend to spoil it."Something probably did happend to create the conflict or to cause you to miss it entirely.Man finds it relatively simple to disregard the promise of something good by thinking of all the reasons why he cannot achieve it.

End of Neville's part.

I'm back again.I find that what Neville mentioned is very relevant to what happended to me in the past.........that's why I always say "Beliefs make or break you"

Some of the negative beliefs I used to have were..................

"Good things never happend to me,it always happends to others but not me."
"Pretty girls will never fall for me,they are for handsome and rich guys."
"I am always struggling for money.Money is difficult to earn."
"I am always condemned by teachers or other figures of authority."
"Straight 'A's are not within my reach.I am not as smart."
"I am always taken advantage of.All the shit always come to me."
"I am a bad boy.I can never get "Very good" for my behaviour in my report card."
"All my cousins are better than me,I am a failure."

I'll tell you how these beliefs affected me.............unconsciously..........until recently.I started to change them.

When I was in primary school,I had this classmate who loves to show off.He'll always be saying that he has all the expensive toys,his dad dotes on him and etc.......and whenever I was in his presence,I always felt that he was very "lucky".I wasn't as lucky as him.

This little thought manifested many negative incidents in my life........I always saw people having lucky breaks but not me.That particularly affected me when I was in Polytechnic.I felt that I had no freedom.

My friends and classmates get to go out with their girlfriends during weekend,and there I was,trapped in a family outing.Some of them even had pretty girlfriends,but not me.

As for the one on money is difficult to earn,I had this belief when I was selling "Hello Kitty" toys back in 2000.I skipped lessons to go to MacDonald's to queue up for a few sets,hoping to sell and make some profit from it.

I went on IRC and started to promote them.I managed to get a client who was interested,he offered $180 for a pair.I was exhilarated.I found it too good to be true..............

And in the end,my beliefs came true..........the client didn't turn up.

This belief went on to recently when trying to sell books with Christopher and Kok Leong.We failed as well.I think the 3 of us had negative beliefs in us,that's why we failed.

As for I was always condemned by teachers and figures of high authority started when I was in kindergarten.There was this teacher who always condemned me.She always said how bad I was and kept making negative remarks about me.

If I my son gets this kind of treatment,I'll grill the teacher.GURANTEED.

This type of teacher destroys the future of our children.That negative belief followed me all the way till National Service.Only during my army days then I let go of this belief,because my superior was very kind to me.

I can tell you,I was condemned from Primary to Secondary to Polytechnics by different teachers.Their faces change,but the encounters are all the same.

Straight 'A's are not within my reach...........this was self-fulfilling..........I believed that because my parents always say this "Other children can do so well,why not you?They have a good future,I don't know what you'll become next time............"

That made me wonder about my future...........it was so bleak...........until I discovered my destiny..........until I knew that I WAS IN-CHARGE OF MY LIFE...............I'm responsible for everything that happended.

It was true that I was always taken advantage of..............that belief came when I was scolded for being stupid for being kind to someone.I'm a very easy-going person,I come in peace and go in peace,I never like confronting people.

But recently I have changed.I know that sometimes you got to put your foot down.You can be kind,but depends on the situation.Like what I said before,you must "Be selfish" about your future and your time.

Last time,I was always taken advantage of by the Porno King(Read The Truth About Your Enemies if you don't know who he is,it's posted only recently).He's always making me the scape goat.I was quite innocent then,and always fell into his trap.My parents kept saying I'm stupid to fall into his trap.

Of course I didn't really care because the trouble didn't really come.But what they said made me hateful towards him.I felt betrayed.

During my poly days I was made being taken advantage of.That was how the victim mentality came about.Secondary school my best friend played me out.

Now I turn from VICTIM TO VICTOR!Hey,join me,be a VICTOR,not a VICTIM!!!

I won't talk about the bad behaviour in the report card,since it's a repeat.

Let me tell you a story about "All my cousins are better than me,I am a failure."

You may get emotional.............but don't get negative OK?Never allow losers to dictate how your life should run.............NEVER.You may have bad relatives who try to run you down.But never allow that to happen to you.

When I was a kid,I was very restless and energetic.I could never sit still.I talked a lot and liked to make fun of people.But it was all harmless.I never meant to hurt or harm anyone,I was just an innocent kid.

My Doctor Uncle had a friend,this old man always joins us during Christmas.He always says that my cousin Richard is very well-behaved whereas I was very naughty and ill-mannered.I was mischievious,but I was never ill-mannered.

He made this comment:"Richard will grow up to become a big boss,whereas this fella(me) will grow up to be a playboy."

I never forgot what he said.The insult.Although I was only 8 years old.Back then my thought was this,since everyone says that I'm bad,I'll be bad.

"You know I'm bad I'm bad you know it.........." sounds familiar?I loved that song when I was a kid.As you can see,since kindergarten I was labelled as BAD.This continued until I reached secondary school.

There was another time,Dennis Trident(my aunt) wanted to go to Australia and my Doctor Uncle suggested that I go along with her.She immediately declined,saying that I shouldn't go because I was bad,that I'll give a lot of problems.

Year after year after year she always said the same thing.So maybe this is one reason why I never think of going to Australia.Because it reminds me of what she said.OKOK,I should try to change this belief............I will.Don't worry.

Another time she made this comment between my cousin and I.She said that during graduation ball,no girls will ever dance with me,they'll all dance with Richard only.

This incident happended in 1994.Dennis Trident's friend and her(friend's) daughter joined us.(The daughter is pretty).Trident made a comment that I will never find a girlfriend.She said that I was too childish.

Well,I may be childish,but I'll change.She's making a very negative remark.She kept comparing me with Richard.The sad thing was that even my parents did that..............

Imagine how I felt back then....................I felt like a failure in life...........

My parents,my grandma and all of them made such comments about me.No one ever told me that I was going to be successful in life,that I am going to make it.

EXPECT MYSELF.

All these negativity stuck with me till 2003...........until I got into the habit of doing self-development.Slowly,all these negative beliefs start dissolving............

I am not perfect now,I have not reached my destination,but I will............soon.Praise God that I am not under the influence of all these people now.I forgive them for what they did............

But what I want to tell you is this.............."You are the captain of you life...........no one can tell you how bad....or how good you are.......you have to make the choice yourself.........."

The whole world can look down on you,but you must never look down on yourself.Wherever you are,whoever you are,you can become successful and be great...........IF YOU CHOOSE TO.

Another thing is.................don't condemn anyone.Whatever you say will impact them.Encourage someone when you see them.They will remember you........even after many years.If you have nothing good to say,then don't say anything.Slience is golden.

Whatever dream,goal or ambition you have,no matter how impossible it is...........I know you can do it...........GO FOR IT,my friend!Prove the world wrong!

I shall end here.Hope I have inspired you in some way.Tomorrow,you're in for a treat!!You'll be able to know whether you have a RICH MAN'S MINDSET by going through the checklist I'm going to share.So stay tuned!!!