Sunday, July 02, 2006

Secrets To Lose A Girl..............FAST!!Part 2

Tonight I'll continue from where I left off last night................

Now we move on to January 1999...............

I was starting to get acquainted with IRC.I upgraded from Alamak chat to IRC.........As you might know,Polytechnic timetables have a lot of breaks,sometimes even up to 4 hours.

Back then,my best friend Daniel stayed in Commonwealth Drive,which was very near my school.At that time his grandma was sick and had to stay in an old folk's home because there was no one at home to take care of her.Daniel had the whole house to himself.

During break times,I would go to his house to play IRC.

One fateful day,I was chatting with this girl from Pioneer Secondary School.She was in sec 4 back then.I was 3 years older than her.She was quite fun to talk to,I enjoyed conversations with her.I jokingly told her that since we had so much to say,she might as well call me on my handphone.

I was suprised that she took me seriously and called me within a minute.My Motorola StarTAC 90 was ringing loudly.I answered and asked her who she was.She said I told her to call me,so she called me.Hey she's obedient isn't it?

We spoke on the phone and she asked me how I looked like...................
Oh my God,not that question again.I was really bad at answering that question back then.If someone were to ask me that again today,I'll have a good answer waiting for them...........

What I said was that I was super-ugly.I'll scare her with my looks.But do you know why I said that back then?Coz I had this impression that girls all go for looks.I had to "downplay" my looks a bit,so as to lower their expectations before meeting me,then as least when they see that I'm average looking,they are more receptive.

WRONG!!By doing that,I was showing that I have no self-confidence.I was unable to lead.Women are always looking for men who can lead them,not to be lead by them.Most of them,though there are some who want to lead and climb over men's heads.

One more thing,the myth about women only go for looks and money is NONSENSE.Don't buy that.That's just what men believe,because we are more look-conscious when we look for a partner.

If you notice when you walk down Orchard Road,you'll almost always see "Beauties and Beasts" instead of "Handsomes and Uglies".Why is that so?

Reason is men and women think differently.Women are seeking a feeling,while men must see looks before the have feelings.If you can give a woman the feeling she's seeking (i.e. being loved,protected,appreciated,taken seriously,adventure,unpredictability,fun),no matter what looks you have,you may even look like an extinct dinosaur,you still stand a chance.That is if you are a guy.If you can master the 30 second rule,you can get whatever girl you want.

On the other hand,men go for looks first.If a man finds a woman unattractive,it is quite unlikely that he'll consider her.Unless he's trapped by the situation or his belief system stops him from going for the type of women he truly desires.Of course this is just a general statement,there may be exceptional cases.

Sorry for diverting.Back to the story...........

We were talking on the phone.She asked me to describe myself.I found it difficult.But at that time I was trying to imitate Daniel Chan(Chen Xiao Dong) who is my idol.I brought his photo to the barber shop and asked the barber to cut his style.

I said that I had Daniel Chan's hairstyle.That seemed to have caught her interest.I found out that her idol was also Daniel Chan.Oh great,we had a common topic to talk about.We compared our favourite songs for a while and went on to talk about past relationships.

She told me that she had an ex-boyfriend before.I asked why did they breakup.(Always check the property before taking over.)According to her it was because he stayed too far away from her.It sounded lame to me,but I decided to meet her up to see how she looked like anyway.

This time I made the initiative of asking her out.We decided to meet up for a movie.It was a coincidence that we both thought of watching the same movie,"You've Got Mail" by Tom Hanks.Initially we were supposed to meet at Plaza Singapura,but last minute she called to say that her friends wanted to meet her.

They insisted that she went out with them that day.I was told to go all the way up to Jurong Point in 30 minutes time.I hailed a cab and headed up there............

We met at MacDonalds...........At last I was able to see how she looked like...............
Well,nothing spectacular.She was below average.But somehow I was attracted to her...........There were 4 friends with her.

One of them looked good.I was quite impressed with their behaviour.They were quite nice and inoffensive.I usually recommend guys not to go out with a group of girls if they are alone.Unless there are more guys than girls,if not they'll get whacked.

We went to the cinema.They arranged the seats such that I sat with her.I enjoyed the show tremendously.It was the first time I ever sat side by side with a girl during a movie.

After the movie,we walked Jurong Point.Her friends decided to "disappear" and leave me with her.They gave her all their textbooks and ran away.She looked at me and commented "See lah,they gave me all their books and ran away."

I responded "Well,it's good that you you can make use of this chance to exercise your strength."
(Damn it,actually she was hoping that I helped her with the books.I was really blur at that time!)

She looked at me as if I was an alien from outer space.Back then I didn't even know why she responded that way.OK,I screwed up big time.

After a while,her friends appeared and told me to escort her home.She declined,but I insisted.Throughout the journey we talked about the movie,but somehow I felt she was pissed off with me,and I didn't know why.

I told her that I'll ask her out again.She said OK.After that day,we talked less on the phone......

1 week later,I called her up to ask her out,I asked if she was free on Friday.She declined,saying she was not feeling well.She was going for some school function at MacRitchie Reservoir and her legs ached.I accepted her reason and called back on Friday to express my concern and to see if I could maybe get her some medicine.

Her mum picked up the call and said she wasn't in.She went out with friends.I got pissed this time,because I felt that she lied to me.But it was my fault anyway.By looking back,I screwed up big time.

End of the story........

June 1999 came..........this story started again at Daniel's house.Usual IRC chat.But this time I chatted with this girl from TP.She messaged me first.I remembered that while I was serving MP3s in the channel,she downloaded some songs from me directly.

We had a nice short chat and exchanged ICQ.I entertained her by using astrology.I analysed her and tried to find out if she was attached.

She told me she was interested in a guy who was in the army and 5 years older than her.She was 1 year younger than me.OK,fine,I wasn't interested in her anyway............

But then,I had just picked up a few tricks on tackling girls from Daniel's friend,and thought of using them.I decided to make her my guinea pig......

I'm a person who likes to plan before taking action.I don't like to fight wars that I have no confidence in winning.I asked her what attracted her to that guy.Has she seen him before?And what type of guys she like.

I found out that she fell for him when he said he would like to count stars with her at East Coast.She has never seen him before and she likes army guys who are matured.OK,I could fulfill the first 2.The last one I can't fulfill because I looked young.In fact,people tell me that I'm 22-23 years old.I'm actually 26 this year.

OK,I decided that she was considered a Level 1 target.ON,I will experiment my newly learnt skills on her.Although she was interested in that guy,I believed that I could offer a better deal to her.I think I'm good looking enough to tackle her.(Hey,I finally gained my self-confidence).

One night,I spilled the beans that I was also interested,but just that I didn't want to reveal my feelings so fast.She was shocked and suprised to hear that.I think all women get excited when they know that a guy is interested in them.But you must act FAST once they know you are interested in them.STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS HOT.Once they cool down,you are not in a good position,unless you managed to seduce them in the first place.

It so happended that her Birthday was coming soon.I decided to give her a surprise.I went to Suntec City and bought a soft toy for her,wrapped it up and asked her for her address.

She was delighted to know that I had a surprise gift for her.She agreed to go out with me.Hahaha,my friend's methods are working................

We were to meet at Bedok Bus Interchange.From there we go to East Coast to count stars and talk at the beach.Everything turned well that night.Wah,when it was time to go back to Bedok,9073 G came and I nearly got a 21 points bus ticket.

She told me she felt comfortable with me and we should meet up again to go for a KTV session.I escorted her to her block and walked back to the Bus Interchange.So happy that I was in a daze.Was nearly knocked down by a car.

We continued chatting in ICQ that night and arranged to meet the next week for KTV......

Next week came...........we met at Kampong Chai Chee Community Center for KTV then after that she wanted to try the Fried Ice Cream at Tiong Bahru Market.

After a great session at the KTV,we headed towards Bedok Bus Interchange.Wah,my 9074D was there.I was so EXCITED.She didn't share my excitement.OK,only I get crazy over my favourite bus.I'll post the photos in my next post.

Anyway,it seemed that she wasn't in a good mood that day.I asked her why,she told me she was confused about that army guy.Damn,she was still preoccupied with him.........okok,I got to be more patient........to change her mind and to slowly accept me.

The session didn't end as well as the previous one.That weekend we chatted on ICQ again.She told me she was very confused.I forgot what exactly I said to her,I managed to convince to say yes,that she'll be my gf.

Wah,I was super happy!Oh yah,forgot to mention,after the first date,I started to develop feelings for her.I thought I could just experiment,fail and fuck off.But I fell in love with her as well.Damn.

So the whole night I couldn't sleep.I was so happy.My first "success" in tackling a girl.(You'll know why there are quotes later.)

I thought it was a happy ending........................until 5 days later.............

She told me to wait for her for an hour online,she said she was busy.Later I found out that she was making me wait while she chatted with that guy on the phone.I was damn pissed.Really pissed.I told her off,she shouldn't commit if she was unsure.

Let me tell you............that was one of the things in this life that I REGRETTED SAYING........I mean it from the bottom of my heart.It was because of this incident that I learnt to think before I speak.

She told me "Let's break,since you say so.........I was on the verge of accepting you already,but you screwed things up yourself.Now it's very difficult for me to accept you again."(Hey,I think that's crap.If it's now,I'll tell her to go fly kite.I'll leave and never turn my head back.)

My whole world turned into darkness................I went into depression for many weeks.........

I asked her if I will ever stand a chance again.She said she needed time to cool off.Told me to wait for 6 months.That time I was really crazy over her.I agreed to whatever she said.(STUPID ME.)

So I really waited for 6 months.................until December 1999.............my heart really died.........

End of Story...............

The Millenium came...............

This is my last story,after this case I actually succeeded.Really succeeded.If you are interested in the stories after this case,drop me a comment,I'll continue on.

If not,I'll stop at this case and tomorrow we'll continue with another topic.

I can never forget this girl...................She is one of the girls that I truly loved in this life........(don't let my wife hear this,she'll get jealous)

Why did I fall for her so deeply???Read on...........

July 2000 to August 2000,the few weeks in-between these 2 months were one of the happiest periods of my life..............she brought light to my world...........

I knew her on 2nd July 2000.Hey,exactly 6 years ago today...............it's ironic that I'm writing about this case today.OK,perhaps there's some coincidence here..........

That fateful night,I was at home,chatting in IRC as usual.My idol was Ekin Cheng then,I used his name as my IRC nick.She initiated the chat with me,her nick was DiorEK.Forgot to mention,Ekin is also known as Dior Cheng.

I thought she was a guy because of the nick she used.Honestly speaking,I didn't expect anything to come out of this chatting section.I was ok to make friends with other guys as well.

Later,I found out that her favourite song was also "Yat Sang Oi Nei Yat Gor"(Loving Only You In This Lifetime,a cantonese song).We started to type out the lyrics in IRC.................that night,I felt that I had found my soulmate.

I tried to find out her date of birth and whether she was attached.She was single,but from the date of birth,I knew that I had to "get away" from her in order not to risk myself from getting hurt.

I knew that the relationship was not going to work out.I decided to make a fast exit before anything happended.................

She kept paging me night after night..............but I never replied.I never took initiative to page or call her.Until one day................

I felt bad about it.I was thinking that since we can't be a couple,just be friends and then go separate ways.I called her back at last..........

I told myself that I was only going to chat for 5 minutes and then stop the conversation.I was at Daniel's house when I made the call.No one was at his house and I was free to use the phone to talk to her........................BUT....................

I spoke to her for 2 hours.2 soild hours.We had so much to say to each other.I was almost late for dinner at home because of that.I was scared................

This cannot go on...............I'm starting to fall for her..............and my feelings for her were growing stronger day by day..........I forced myself not to develop any feelings for her..............

But I failed.........the more you try to stop something,the more futile it is.(No knowledge of Sedona Method back then.)To make matters worse.............one night she asked me this question,"Did you think about me today?"

Wah my God,now she's also interested in me.I can't escape even with wings............ok,I have no choice.Since things have come to this stage,I decided to go with my heart.............even if things don't work out,at least I tried my best right?

Few days later it was her Birthday.I sent her an E-card.She told me she printed it out and brought it to school everyday.I was really happy to hear that.The feelings for her became more intense...........

One night,she told me she was scolded by her teacher................"Why?" I asked...........she said she was scolded for writing my name on her science practical worksheet.The whole worksheet was filled with my name.Marco Marco Marco......all the way until the whole sheet was filled up.

I was quite happy and touched at the same time.So I asked her,"What did the teacher say?"

She replied that the teacher said "Stop writing your boyfriend's name on the worksheet!"

"Oh really?" I asked.

"Yes,if you don't believe me,I'll show you the worksheet when we meet up."

"I believe you.So what did you answer her when she said it was your boyfriend's name?"

"I didn't answer her."

"Did you wish that what she said was true?"

"Yes,but I don't know if that guy will accept me as his girlfriend,I like him a lot...........but am afraid of being rejected by him........."

"What makes you think he'll reject you?"

"Because I am not as good looking as the other girls in my school."

(She's from Northland Secondary School in Yishun)

"OK,but don't worry,he's not that type.If he has feelings for you,he won't look elsewhere."

"But I am really scared.........."

"Let's chat on the phone OK?"

"OK,I'll call you."

And so we chatted for 4 hours.........from 2am to 6am........that was the 24th day of July,year 2000.The day when we were supposed to meet.............

I had to assure her that I won't reject her.It was true that I was prepared to accept her,even if she looked like a dinosaur.I was so deeply in love with her..............

We made this agreement that if I accepted her,when we meet up,I'll hold her hand,and we'll go steady.If not,we'll just remain as friends.We were to meet at North Point level 1,information counter after school.

I was as nervous as her...........what if she didn't like what she saw??Oh well,just let things be..........3pm came..............a tall girl in school uniform was standing at the information counter.She had long hair,wore specs and looked elegant...........

Was it really her...................?I wondered............

When I reached the counter,she approached me and introduced herself.I put my hands over her shoulders and we walked around North Point.That moment was magic.............

I escorted her home after about 15 minutes.It was a short meeting,but it was heaven for me.She was so beautiful.(My wife is more beautiful than her though)

We went to her block and talked for a while more before she left.I asked her if I could kiss her.She said she was not ready.......but she rushed over and gave me a tight hug,then she kissed me on my cheek.

I didn't want to wash my face that day.It all happended at the void deck of Blk 757,Yishun Street 72.I'll never forget that place and that day for as long as I live...............

She left after that.I went home feeling great.................

We spoke online that night and she said she was confused.............she was afraid that her mum will find out about us,because her mum objected her going into relationship that year.She was having her O levels then.She was a secondary 5 student.

We planned to meet up the following week,but she was confined in school for being late...........the sad thing was....after that,everything went downhill.............................

A guy from her school found out she was with me and got very upset because he was also interested in her.I was very fearful of losing her.....................I kept asking about that guy every night,until she got fed up.

A week later,she told me she wanted to break up.She felt that she didn't want to lie to her mum because her mum trusted her................

But you want to know what's the real reason?????

I'll tell you.............that guy used tears to move her!Now LISTEN UP,TEARS ARE A WONDERFUL WEAPON TO USE to move a girl.

I learnt the POWER OF TEARS that time.

I really loved her..............if she was happier without me,I will let her go............I just want her to be happy..............I hope she is as happy as I am now.................may God bless her.

If she's reading this,I hope she's already in a happy relationship like me.............

OK,thank you for reading my long stories...........I hope you have gained some experience here............even though you may be a better casanova than me,I hope I have entertained you.God bless you.

1 Comments:

Blogger Christopher said...

hmmm used to listen to bits and pieces of ur stories ad didn't know u will put t all up online hee

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