What's Your Attitude Towards Life & Death?Be Nice To Your Family While You Can...........
You may be wondering..........why a happy person like me talking about such a serious topic?
I'll tell you why...............just read Christopher's post and it was a really emotional post.It really makes me think about being grateful for and cherishing the people around us...........our family members and friends.............
It so happended that today was also my Granny's 13th Death Anniversary.Kind of had a lot of thoughts coming to mind after reading Christopher's post about his Ah Kong(Grandfather's demise).
Have you ever wondered............why do people cry during funerals,burial ceremonials and before cremation?
I've always wondered why............why do they cry?
13 years ago I didn't cry...........I saw everyone cry,but I didn't cry............I kind of accepted my granny's death as a natural occurance..........
Am I a cold person?Nope,I have emotions too.............but why cry when you know that it's inevitable that all of us have to leave this world someday?I feel that it's futile.Since the day you are born,you will surely die.
Tell you about my granny.............actually feel quite sorry for her at the end...........the period just before she got a stroke.............Before I start,let me give you a background of her...........
She was the 2nd wife of my grandfather.My grandfather had 4 wives.He was a playboy in his younger days.Because of the 3rd wife,my grandma was forced to leave the house,leaving my dad,Dennis Trident,the Pharoah and Porno King behind.
Years later,then she tried to find them back.Without her around,the 4 of them were bullied by the 3rd and 1st wife.They were treated like 3rd class citizens.Not enough pocket money to spend,no one to care for them and living in fear everyday.........fearing that the 3rd wife will backstab them in front of my grandfather and get them into trouble.
When they reunited with her,she tried to work hard to give them more pocket money,and to celebrate Christmas with them yearly,with presents.She did her best to keep the 4 of them happy.
Let's fast foward to the 1990s.........
She always looked forward to go out with the whole family during the weekends,but the Pharoah was always very impatient with her,telling her to walk faster and putting pressure on her just because she was slow.
Dennis Trident was even better.............she made my granny sign credit card for the jewellery she bought.When the Pharoah questioned them about the bill,she pushed all the blame to my granny.In the later years,my grandfather's 4th wife(remarried) somehow got "reunited" with us through some links.
The 4th wife gave jewellery to Dennis Trident as gifts.As a result,Dennis Trident stopped going out with my granny.Instead she kept going out with the 4th wife(she's quite a nice person anyway) and my granny was very upset.
Hey,what to do when you have children like that?
Porno King as usual,heck care about everything.
Though my dad is sometimes wrong in his attitude,one thing that I look up to him is that he's final.Among all the 4,he treats my granny the best.Whenever the Pharoah throws temper at my granny,he's the one to speak up for her and fight for benefits for her.He is the one who remembers what she has done for them when they were kids.
May 3rd 1993 Morning..............the Pharoah called up to say that my granny can't get out of bed.She felt numb.We rushed to her house..........on the way the Pharoah seemed to be impatient,he said "Damn,I hope she gets a stroke,so old already still don't die."My dad scolded him for that comment.
We rushed her to hospital.She was warded for a few weeks,then she got better and went home.Dennis Trident tried to find a maid to take care of her.There was this 52 year old lady from Malaysia who came to fill the position.I didn't like her very much,I found her very "fake".She's always sucking up to the Pharoah.
I heard from my dad that my granny was being scolded by the Pharoah for requesting for the fan to be switched off because she felt cold.Pharoah said that the maid was hot,so she should allow the maid to switch on the fan.
The best thing was this,after sucking up to Pharoah,every Sunday,she was entitled to go with us to Johore Bahru,just because she said that she knew the area well and could be our guide.What nonsense!She's meant to take care of my granny,what the hell is doing outside with us at Johore Bahru?What about my granny?
So you can see,there's no fairness here in this family...........
I think they sent my granny for physiotherapy.She went to a nursing home to stay for a while then she went back home.Granny felt very lonely,she tried to call up her children to talk to them.But none of them seemed interested in entertaining her.Their reason was that she didn't want to put in effort in exercising,so they want to make her realise that if she don't put in effort in the exercises,they will not talk to her.It was meant for her own good.
Few days later............she had a 2nd stroke............this time she had to go into ICA(Intermediate Care Area).I knew somehow this time she won't survive.She couldn't even talk..........only can open her eyes and look at us............
This went on till Sunday 11th July 1993.............finally she was able to be released from all these pain.
As usual..........the bunch of clowns cried till they drop...........why bother crying?Why bother crying about something which is inevitable?Why can't we treat a person well when he/she is alive?Why can't we be more accomodating towards old people,who are slower in walking?
They cried from hospital to sending off to Mount Vernon..............Goodness me..........so many tears to shed.........I wouldn't waste my energy and strength crying.............
Question to ask myself is this............when this person is alive,have I done my job as a (whatever relationship)?If I had done everything I can,there's nothing to cry about.We'll see each other again in Heaven............it's as simple as that.
You want to know why people cry so hard sometimes?It's because of selfishness.............why selfishness?Because they felt that they had mistreated the late person.They don't feel good.Now that the person is gone,they feel very bad.But what's the use?
If they want to,they might try commiting suicide and join the deceased in the other world,and start treating the person well..................OK,I know I sound bad...........but it's a fact.We should cherish our loved ones...........especially our immediately family............our parents,brothers and sisters.
Though God promised that with a long good life,he'll satisfy us.But why wait till everything is too late?We should start thinking that it would be better for them to mistreat us than we mistreat them.At least our consciousness is clear.
Friends,death is something that no one can escape.It's part of life.What we should do is to live our lives well............live a fulfilled life.Be a blessing to others.Whatever you do,humans may not know,but God knows.Of course we are not trying to claim credit from God.But if we can do good for others,why not?
I personally hate attending funerals and ceremonies..............I hate to see people crying.It irks me............and affects my mood very much.I've decided on this................
During my funeral,no one is to cry.Even when they send me off,no one is to cry.I want the laughter that I brought to this world to continue after I have left.It would be good to have pop music during the funeral,especially those techno ones that make people dance.
I shall be looking down from Heaven and smiling at everyone.
Oh well,back to the crying case.............I'm not saying everyone is like what I mentioned.Of course there are some people who can't bear the demise of their loved ones.My heart goes out to all of them.I pray that God will bless humans with the wisdom of looking beyond death.
That God will take away all the hurt and sorrow that these people are suffering through.I know it's impossible to take away all the hurt and sorrow from this world.But at least...........do the best.
If everyone treats each other well,we would be living in a better world right?Start today by speaking kind words to those around you.Start to appreciate your family members,while they are still with you.Be grateful to God for your family and friends.You'll be happier my friend.*smile*
That's my sharing for tonight.This is also a tribute to my granny.I do miss her at times though.But I know that certain things happended for her highest good.
Since Christopher spoke about Mandai Crematorium,I'll share about my personal TRUE GHOST ENCOUNTERS tomorrow night.It's going to be interesting...........Stay tuned.
I'll tell you why...............just read Christopher's post and it was a really emotional post.It really makes me think about being grateful for and cherishing the people around us...........our family members and friends.............
It so happended that today was also my Granny's 13th Death Anniversary.Kind of had a lot of thoughts coming to mind after reading Christopher's post about his Ah Kong(Grandfather's demise).
Have you ever wondered............why do people cry during funerals,burial ceremonials and before cremation?
I've always wondered why............why do they cry?
13 years ago I didn't cry...........I saw everyone cry,but I didn't cry............I kind of accepted my granny's death as a natural occurance..........
Am I a cold person?Nope,I have emotions too.............but why cry when you know that it's inevitable that all of us have to leave this world someday?I feel that it's futile.Since the day you are born,you will surely die.
Tell you about my granny.............actually feel quite sorry for her at the end...........the period just before she got a stroke.............Before I start,let me give you a background of her...........
She was the 2nd wife of my grandfather.My grandfather had 4 wives.He was a playboy in his younger days.Because of the 3rd wife,my grandma was forced to leave the house,leaving my dad,Dennis Trident,the Pharoah and Porno King behind.
Years later,then she tried to find them back.Without her around,the 4 of them were bullied by the 3rd and 1st wife.They were treated like 3rd class citizens.Not enough pocket money to spend,no one to care for them and living in fear everyday.........fearing that the 3rd wife will backstab them in front of my grandfather and get them into trouble.
When they reunited with her,she tried to work hard to give them more pocket money,and to celebrate Christmas with them yearly,with presents.She did her best to keep the 4 of them happy.
Let's fast foward to the 1990s.........
She always looked forward to go out with the whole family during the weekends,but the Pharoah was always very impatient with her,telling her to walk faster and putting pressure on her just because she was slow.
Dennis Trident was even better.............she made my granny sign credit card for the jewellery she bought.When the Pharoah questioned them about the bill,she pushed all the blame to my granny.In the later years,my grandfather's 4th wife(remarried) somehow got "reunited" with us through some links.
The 4th wife gave jewellery to Dennis Trident as gifts.As a result,Dennis Trident stopped going out with my granny.Instead she kept going out with the 4th wife(she's quite a nice person anyway) and my granny was very upset.
Hey,what to do when you have children like that?
Porno King as usual,heck care about everything.
Though my dad is sometimes wrong in his attitude,one thing that I look up to him is that he's final.Among all the 4,he treats my granny the best.Whenever the Pharoah throws temper at my granny,he's the one to speak up for her and fight for benefits for her.He is the one who remembers what she has done for them when they were kids.
May 3rd 1993 Morning..............the Pharoah called up to say that my granny can't get out of bed.She felt numb.We rushed to her house..........on the way the Pharoah seemed to be impatient,he said "Damn,I hope she gets a stroke,so old already still don't die."My dad scolded him for that comment.
We rushed her to hospital.She was warded for a few weeks,then she got better and went home.Dennis Trident tried to find a maid to take care of her.There was this 52 year old lady from Malaysia who came to fill the position.I didn't like her very much,I found her very "fake".She's always sucking up to the Pharoah.
I heard from my dad that my granny was being scolded by the Pharoah for requesting for the fan to be switched off because she felt cold.Pharoah said that the maid was hot,so she should allow the maid to switch on the fan.
The best thing was this,after sucking up to Pharoah,every Sunday,she was entitled to go with us to Johore Bahru,just because she said that she knew the area well and could be our guide.What nonsense!She's meant to take care of my granny,what the hell is doing outside with us at Johore Bahru?What about my granny?
So you can see,there's no fairness here in this family...........
I think they sent my granny for physiotherapy.She went to a nursing home to stay for a while then she went back home.Granny felt very lonely,she tried to call up her children to talk to them.But none of them seemed interested in entertaining her.Their reason was that she didn't want to put in effort in exercising,so they want to make her realise that if she don't put in effort in the exercises,they will not talk to her.It was meant for her own good.
Few days later............she had a 2nd stroke............this time she had to go into ICA(Intermediate Care Area).I knew somehow this time she won't survive.She couldn't even talk..........only can open her eyes and look at us............
This went on till Sunday 11th July 1993.............finally she was able to be released from all these pain.
As usual..........the bunch of clowns cried till they drop...........why bother crying?Why bother crying about something which is inevitable?Why can't we treat a person well when he/she is alive?Why can't we be more accomodating towards old people,who are slower in walking?
They cried from hospital to sending off to Mount Vernon..............Goodness me..........so many tears to shed.........I wouldn't waste my energy and strength crying.............
Question to ask myself is this............when this person is alive,have I done my job as a (whatever relationship)?If I had done everything I can,there's nothing to cry about.We'll see each other again in Heaven............it's as simple as that.
You want to know why people cry so hard sometimes?It's because of selfishness.............why selfishness?Because they felt that they had mistreated the late person.They don't feel good.Now that the person is gone,they feel very bad.But what's the use?
If they want to,they might try commiting suicide and join the deceased in the other world,and start treating the person well..................OK,I know I sound bad...........but it's a fact.We should cherish our loved ones...........especially our immediately family............our parents,brothers and sisters.
Though God promised that with a long good life,he'll satisfy us.But why wait till everything is too late?We should start thinking that it would be better for them to mistreat us than we mistreat them.At least our consciousness is clear.
Friends,death is something that no one can escape.It's part of life.What we should do is to live our lives well............live a fulfilled life.Be a blessing to others.Whatever you do,humans may not know,but God knows.Of course we are not trying to claim credit from God.But if we can do good for others,why not?
I personally hate attending funerals and ceremonies..............I hate to see people crying.It irks me............and affects my mood very much.I've decided on this................
During my funeral,no one is to cry.Even when they send me off,no one is to cry.I want the laughter that I brought to this world to continue after I have left.It would be good to have pop music during the funeral,especially those techno ones that make people dance.
I shall be looking down from Heaven and smiling at everyone.
Oh well,back to the crying case.............I'm not saying everyone is like what I mentioned.Of course there are some people who can't bear the demise of their loved ones.My heart goes out to all of them.I pray that God will bless humans with the wisdom of looking beyond death.
That God will take away all the hurt and sorrow that these people are suffering through.I know it's impossible to take away all the hurt and sorrow from this world.But at least...........do the best.
If everyone treats each other well,we would be living in a better world right?Start today by speaking kind words to those around you.Start to appreciate your family members,while they are still with you.Be grateful to God for your family and friends.You'll be happier my friend.*smile*
That's my sharing for tonight.This is also a tribute to my granny.I do miss her at times though.But I know that certain things happended for her highest good.
Since Christopher spoke about Mandai Crematorium,I'll share about my personal TRUE GHOST ENCOUNTERS tomorrow night.It's going to be interesting...........Stay tuned.
posted by Marco at 10:12 AM
1 Comments:
actually after every funeral i went to... it lets me learn some experiences.... during funerals usually all the dirty linen will get spread around, nasty people whom you dun see around when the deceased is around will suddenly turn up during the funerals... people taking sides with each....
you can see that really every family has their own problems whether rich or poor.... as you can see that dennis trident is a mother fucker.... see which wind is more relaxing and go there.... like edward... same character.... really dispise thise type of low mentality people... but as trust me, this people survive longer than good guys... dunno why.... maybe god will kill them when they enter the gates of hell...
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