ATTENTION GUYS:101 Ways Of How You Can Score Points With A Woman
I've been doing some studies on relationship recently.Came across something which I want to share with you.If you are a guy,you probably need to go through this list.I can gurantee that if you are able to do a few of the things mentioned in the list,your relationship will improve.
Personally,I've been guilty of not doing some of the things mentioned in the list.And I don't understand why women get so upset with us men sometimes...is it because they are just a bunch of trouble makers?
Well,I used to think so.But now,after reading Dr John Gray's book, "Men Are From Mars,Women Are From Venus",I look at them from a different perspective.I believe the women have their own comments about us as well.We men are not perfect.I think we just have to accept each others' differences for a healthy relationship.
Without further delay,let me share with you the 101 ways which you can score points with a woman.If you are currently single,this will make you stand out from your competitiors.If you are attached,then you are on your way to a more fulfilling relationship with your better half.
Let's begin...
(Those words in italics are my personal experiences and comments.)
1.Upon returning home find her first before doing anything else and give her a hug.
2.Ask her specific questions about her day that indicate an awareness of what she was planning to do (e.g., "How did your appointment with the doctor go?").
Yes,this works.It makes her feel that you care.I did this many times,it works wonders.
3.Practice listening and asking questions.
This is important.We guys have a tendency to want to talk and dorminate the conversation.
4.Resist the temptation to solve her problems-empathize instead.
Yes,this is often overlooked.I'm guilty of this.I'm always trying to think of a way to solve their problems instead of trying to listen.Are you also like this?
5.Give her 20 minutes of unsolicited,quality attention (don't read the newspaper or be distracted by anything else during this time).
And it's better to switch off your cell phone during this time.
6.Bring her cut flowers as a surprise as well as on special occasions.
Doesn't have to be flowers,can be any small gift.Or something you made yourself.Based on experience,something you made yourself has higher perceived value.
7.Plan a date several days in advance,rather than waiting for Friday night and asking her what she wants to do.
This is easy.I always plan in advance.I hate to screw up last minute.But trust me,they don't like screwed up guys.
8.If she generally makes dinner or if it's her turn and she seems tired or really busy,offer to make dinner.
9.Compliment her on how she looks.
Hahaha.You must tell a white lie even if she looks ugly.Unless she really gets on your nerves.(I'm referring to women whom you are not interested in and they keep pestering you.)
10.Validate her feelings when she is upset.
Remember Titanic?"You Jump,I Jump!" For this case,you sad I sad.
11.Offer to help her when she is tired.
Be a gentleman.
12.Schedule extra time when travelling so that she doesn't have to rush.
I still don't understand why women like to dilly dally.I guess it's just their nature.No choice.We got to accept that.
13.When you are going to be late,call her and let her know.
Another important point.Women have very wild imagination.If you are late,they'll start thinking of all the terrible things that happended to you.Better call or get a scolding when you reach.
14.When she asks for support,say yes or no without making wrong for asking.
Just give the support.Unless it's something really bad.I normally don't say no when they ask for support.
15.Whenever her feelings have been hurt,give her some empathy and tell her "I'm sorry you feel hurt." Then be slient;let her feel your understanding of her hurt.Don't offer solutions or explainations why her hurt is not your fault.
Yes,I often overlook this.I like to justify why it's not my fault.Hahaha they can't argue over me.But sadly...I'm the one who loses in the long run:-(
16.Whenever you need to pull away,let her know you'll be back or that you need some time to think about things.
Be open and let her know what you are thinking.Of course,there are certain things that you have to censor.Don't be stupid and tell everything.You'll get yourself into trouble.Like me.I learnt a painful lesson.
17.When you've cooled off and you come back,talk about what was bothering you in a respectful,nonblaming way,so she doesn't imagine the worst.
Refer to the previous point.
18.Offer to build a fire in wintertime.
19.When she talks to you,put down the magazine or turn off the TV and give her your full attention.
Many guys make this mistake.But sometimes women talk to us at the wrong time.Especially when something interesting is on TV.Can't they choose the right timing?
20.If she usually washes the dishes occasionally offer to wash the dishes,especially if she's tired that day.
21.Notice when she's upset or tired and ask what she has to do.Then offer to help by doing a few of her "to do" items.
This is when your problem solving skills comes in.Offer help but don't be pushy.
22.When going out,ask if there is anything she wants you to pick up at the store,and remember to pick it up.
23.Let her know when you are planning to take a nap or leave.
24.Give her 4 hugs a day.
I did only 2.
25.Call her from work to ask how she is or to share something exciting or to tell her "I love you".
A busy man like me has to force himself to do it at least once a day.But trust me,it's worth the investment.
26.Tell her "I love you" at least a couple of times every day.
Hmm...I said it 3 times a day.How many times did you say?
27.Make the bed and clean up the bedroom.
28.If she washes your socks,turn your socks right side out so she doesn't have to.
29.Notice when the trash is full and offer to empty it.
30.When you are out of town,call to leave a telephone number where you can be reached and to let her know you arrived safely.
Yes,don't make her worry for nothing.Despite how busy you are,a few minutes on the phone won't kill you.
31.Wash her car.
32.Wash your car and clean up the interior before a date with her.
33.Wash before having sex or put on a cologne if she likes that.
34.Take her side when she's upset with someone.
This is very very true.I did it once in IRC and that girl got interested in me.Hahaha.Even if you don't agree with her,just agree for the sake of making her happy.
35.Offer to give her a back or neck or foot massage (or all 3).
I love massages.Usually they give massages to me.But I do offer to give back.
36.Make a point of cuddling or being affectionate sometimes without being sexual.
Don't make her feel like a sex slave.
37.Be patient when she's sharing.Don't look at your watch.
Hahaha I don't wear a watch,but I look at my cell phone clock.Don't do that.Unless she's not important to you and you want to throw a smoke bomb.
38.Don't flick the remote control to different channels when she's watching TV with you.
39.Display affection in public.
We guys may feel stupid doing that.But women love it.
40.When holding hands,don't let your hand go limp.
If you hands feel clammy(if you have sweaty palms like me),just excuse yourself and say you need to go to the gents.
41.Learn her favourite drinks so you can offer her a choice of the ones that you know she already likes.
Know thyself and thy enemy,and you shall win a 100 out of 100 battles.Always try to find out as much as you can about her likes and dislikes.So that sometimes you can launch surprise gifts.Women love men who take care of small small details.To us it's small but to them it's a big thing.
42.Suggest different restaurants for going out;don't put the burden of figuring out where to go on her.
Should be easy if you are a goumet like me.I'm very particular and fussy about food.I have many places to eat in mind.
43.Get season tickets for the theater,symphony,opera,ballet,or some type of performance she likes.
44.Create occasions when you both can dress up.
I find this lame.But they love it.Try to buy the same t-shirt and wear together.
45.Be understanding when she is late or decides to change her outfit.
Yeah,got to be patient on this.
46.Pay more attention to her than to others in public.
Hahaha don't look at the big boobs or pretty gals when you are with her.However,I have a solution if you do that...If she gets angry,answer in this way...
"I'm comparing and seeing who is as beautiful as you."Hahaha she may or may not say you are lying.But this is a good way to get yourself out of the situation.
47.Make her more important than the children.Let the children see her getting your attention first and foremost.
48.Buy her little presents-like a small box of chocolates or perfume.
To do this you must know what she likes.
49.Buy her an outfit(take a picture of your partner along with her sizes to the store and let them help you select it.).
50.Take pictures of her on special occasions.
51.Take short romantic getaways.
52.Let her see that you carry a picture of her in your wallet and update it from time to time.
Yeah,always do that.
53.When staying in a hotel,have them prepare the room with something special,like a bottle of champagne or sparkling apple juice or some flowers.
54.Write a note or make a sign on special occasions such as anniversaries or birthdays.
55.Offer to drive the car on long trips.
56.Drive slowly and safely,respecting her preferences.After all,she is sitting powerless in the front seat.
57.Notice how she is feeling and comment on it-"You look happy today" or "You look tired" - and then ask a question like "How was your day?"
58.When taking her out,study the directions in advance so that she does not have to feel responsible to navigate.
59.Take her dancing or take dancing classes together.
60.Surprise her with a love note or poem.
I did this one before.It's powerful.To be honest with you,I'm not a poet or romantic.But somehow I managed to come up with a poem.You can do it too.Doesn't have to be perfect,but must be unique.
61.Treat her in ways you did at the beginning of the relationship.
62.Offer to fix something around the house.Say "What needs to be fixed around here?I have some extra time."Don't take on more than you can do.
63.Offer to sharpen her knives in the kitchen.
64.Buy some Super Glue to fix things that are broken.
65.Offer to change light bulbs as soon as they go out.
66.Help with recycling the trash.
67.Read out loud or cut out sections of the newspaper that will interest her.
68.Write out neatly any phone messages that you may take for her..
69.Keep the bathroom floor clean and dry after taking a shower.
70.Open the door for her.
This is overlooked by many guys.We always tend to be in a rush.We want to quicky find a seat in the eating house or quickly get the movie tickets so that we have more choices.Because of all these factors,we neglect being a gentleman.I got into trouble because of this before.
And I thought the gal was making a mountain out of a molehill.But that's not true.
71.Offer to carry the groceries.
Be a gentleman.
72.Offer to carry heavy boxes for her.
Refer to previous point.
73.On trips,handle the luggage and be responsible for packing it in the car.
74.If she washes the dishes or it's her turn,offer to help scrub pots or other difficult tasks.
75.Make a "to fix" list and leave it in the kitchen.When you have extra time do something on that list for her.Don't let it get too long.
76.When she prepares a meal,compliment her cooking.
Even if the food sucks big time,you mustn't say it.Instead say this "It's nice and it can be improved by blah blah blah..." Don't say the food sucks directly.
77.When listening to her talk,use eye contact.
Many begineers make this mistake.Because they are too shy to look at a gal in the eye.My solution is this,look at her mouth(upper lips) if you are uncomfortable looking at her eyes.When you do that,to her it would still seem that you are looking into her eyes.
78.Touch her with your hand sometimes when you talk to her.
Don't be shy,just touch her arms or shoulder.
79.Show interest in what she does during the day,in the books she reads and the people she relates to.
This is knowing your enemy.Find out all you can about her likes and dislikes.I can't stress further the importance of this.
80.When listening to her,reassure her that you are interested by making little noises like ah ha,uh-huh,oh,mmhuh, and hmmmmm.
I didn't know about this.It works amazingly.They'll love to talk to you.But be careful,don't fall into the "let's just be friends" category.Be extra careful when they talk about their boyfriends or ex-boyfriends.They may be using you as a listening ear only.
81.Ask her how she is feeling.
82.If she has been sick in some way,ask for an update and ask how she is doing or feeling.
Not only that,offer to buy medicine for her.Maybe panadol.Those that you can easily get.If you can,boil some soup for her.You can easily get at those chinese medicine stores.
83.If she's tired,offer to make her some tea.
This is easy.Just do it.
84.Get ready to go to sleep together and get in bed at the same time.
85.Give her a kiss and say good-bye before you leave.
86.Laugh at her jokes and humour.
Or pretend to,if you don't find them funny.
87.Verbally say thank you when she does things for you.
Be well-mannered.
88.Notice when she gets her hair done and give a reassuring compliment.
Hahaha yes,even if it makes her look like a witch,tell her it's nice.
89.Create special time to be alone together.
90.Don't answer the phone at intimate moments or if she's sharing vulnerable feelings.
This is important.You must make her feel as if there are only the 2 of you.
91.Go bicycling together,even it's just a short ride.
92.Organize and prepare a picnic.(Remember to bring a picnic cloth.)
93.If she handles the laundry,bring the clothes to the cleaners or offer to do the wash.
94.Take her for a walk without the children.
95.Negotiate in a manner that shows her that you want her to get what she wants and you also want what you want.Be caring,but don't be a martyr.
Negotiate intelligently.But don't make her climb over you.
96.Let her know that you missed her when you went away.
Yes,say you missed her very much.She was on your mind all the time.Whether you are eating,bathing or shitting.Hahaha ok,I was a little vulgar.
97.Bring home her favourite pie or dessert.
This is easy.Just do it.
98.If she normally shops for the food,offer to do the food shopping.
99.Eat lightly on romantic occasions so that you don't become stuffed and tired later.
100.Ask her to add her thoughts to this list.
101.Leave the bathroom seat down.
Alright,there you are,the 101 ways.To be honest,I didn't use all of them.Only some of them.And my relationship improved.Do try them out for yourself.
And all the credit goes to Dr John Gray and his book.If you are interested in his book,you can purchase it from the link below.
May you have a happy & fulfilling relationship.
God bless.
Personally,I've been guilty of not doing some of the things mentioned in the list.And I don't understand why women get so upset with us men sometimes...is it because they are just a bunch of trouble makers?
Well,I used to think so.But now,after reading Dr John Gray's book, "Men Are From Mars,Women Are From Venus",I look at them from a different perspective.I believe the women have their own comments about us as well.We men are not perfect.I think we just have to accept each others' differences for a healthy relationship.
Without further delay,let me share with you the 101 ways which you can score points with a woman.If you are currently single,this will make you stand out from your competitiors.If you are attached,then you are on your way to a more fulfilling relationship with your better half.
Let's begin...
(Those words in italics are my personal experiences and comments.)
1.Upon returning home find her first before doing anything else and give her a hug.
2.Ask her specific questions about her day that indicate an awareness of what she was planning to do (e.g., "How did your appointment with the doctor go?").
Yes,this works.It makes her feel that you care.I did this many times,it works wonders.
3.Practice listening and asking questions.
This is important.We guys have a tendency to want to talk and dorminate the conversation.
4.Resist the temptation to solve her problems-empathize instead.
Yes,this is often overlooked.I'm guilty of this.I'm always trying to think of a way to solve their problems instead of trying to listen.Are you also like this?
5.Give her 20 minutes of unsolicited,quality attention (don't read the newspaper or be distracted by anything else during this time).
And it's better to switch off your cell phone during this time.
6.Bring her cut flowers as a surprise as well as on special occasions.
Doesn't have to be flowers,can be any small gift.Or something you made yourself.Based on experience,something you made yourself has higher perceived value.
7.Plan a date several days in advance,rather than waiting for Friday night and asking her what she wants to do.
This is easy.I always plan in advance.I hate to screw up last minute.But trust me,they don't like screwed up guys.
8.If she generally makes dinner or if it's her turn and she seems tired or really busy,offer to make dinner.
9.Compliment her on how she looks.
Hahaha.You must tell a white lie even if she looks ugly.Unless she really gets on your nerves.(I'm referring to women whom you are not interested in and they keep pestering you.)
10.Validate her feelings when she is upset.
Remember Titanic?"You Jump,I Jump!" For this case,you sad I sad.
11.Offer to help her when she is tired.
Be a gentleman.
12.Schedule extra time when travelling so that she doesn't have to rush.
I still don't understand why women like to dilly dally.I guess it's just their nature.No choice.We got to accept that.
13.When you are going to be late,call her and let her know.
Another important point.Women have very wild imagination.If you are late,they'll start thinking of all the terrible things that happended to you.Better call or get a scolding when you reach.
14.When she asks for support,say yes or no without making wrong for asking.
Just give the support.Unless it's something really bad.I normally don't say no when they ask for support.
15.Whenever her feelings have been hurt,give her some empathy and tell her "I'm sorry you feel hurt." Then be slient;let her feel your understanding of her hurt.Don't offer solutions or explainations why her hurt is not your fault.
Yes,I often overlook this.I like to justify why it's not my fault.Hahaha they can't argue over me.But sadly...I'm the one who loses in the long run:-(
16.Whenever you need to pull away,let her know you'll be back or that you need some time to think about things.
Be open and let her know what you are thinking.Of course,there are certain things that you have to censor.Don't be stupid and tell everything.You'll get yourself into trouble.Like me.I learnt a painful lesson.
17.When you've cooled off and you come back,talk about what was bothering you in a respectful,nonblaming way,so she doesn't imagine the worst.
Refer to the previous point.
18.Offer to build a fire in wintertime.
19.When she talks to you,put down the magazine or turn off the TV and give her your full attention.
Many guys make this mistake.But sometimes women talk to us at the wrong time.Especially when something interesting is on TV.Can't they choose the right timing?
20.If she usually washes the dishes occasionally offer to wash the dishes,especially if she's tired that day.
21.Notice when she's upset or tired and ask what she has to do.Then offer to help by doing a few of her "to do" items.
This is when your problem solving skills comes in.Offer help but don't be pushy.
22.When going out,ask if there is anything she wants you to pick up at the store,and remember to pick it up.
23.Let her know when you are planning to take a nap or leave.
24.Give her 4 hugs a day.
I did only 2.
25.Call her from work to ask how she is or to share something exciting or to tell her "I love you".
A busy man like me has to force himself to do it at least once a day.But trust me,it's worth the investment.
26.Tell her "I love you" at least a couple of times every day.
Hmm...I said it 3 times a day.How many times did you say?
27.Make the bed and clean up the bedroom.
28.If she washes your socks,turn your socks right side out so she doesn't have to.
29.Notice when the trash is full and offer to empty it.
30.When you are out of town,call to leave a telephone number where you can be reached and to let her know you arrived safely.
Yes,don't make her worry for nothing.Despite how busy you are,a few minutes on the phone won't kill you.
31.Wash her car.
32.Wash your car and clean up the interior before a date with her.
33.Wash before having sex or put on a cologne if she likes that.
34.Take her side when she's upset with someone.
This is very very true.I did it once in IRC and that girl got interested in me.Hahaha.Even if you don't agree with her,just agree for the sake of making her happy.
35.Offer to give her a back or neck or foot massage (or all 3).
I love massages.Usually they give massages to me.But I do offer to give back.
36.Make a point of cuddling or being affectionate sometimes without being sexual.
Don't make her feel like a sex slave.
37.Be patient when she's sharing.Don't look at your watch.
Hahaha I don't wear a watch,but I look at my cell phone clock.Don't do that.Unless she's not important to you and you want to throw a smoke bomb.
38.Don't flick the remote control to different channels when she's watching TV with you.
39.Display affection in public.
We guys may feel stupid doing that.But women love it.
40.When holding hands,don't let your hand go limp.
If you hands feel clammy(if you have sweaty palms like me),just excuse yourself and say you need to go to the gents.
41.Learn her favourite drinks so you can offer her a choice of the ones that you know she already likes.
Know thyself and thy enemy,and you shall win a 100 out of 100 battles.Always try to find out as much as you can about her likes and dislikes.So that sometimes you can launch surprise gifts.Women love men who take care of small small details.To us it's small but to them it's a big thing.
42.Suggest different restaurants for going out;don't put the burden of figuring out where to go on her.
Should be easy if you are a goumet like me.I'm very particular and fussy about food.I have many places to eat in mind.
43.Get season tickets for the theater,symphony,opera,ballet,or some type of performance she likes.
44.Create occasions when you both can dress up.
I find this lame.But they love it.Try to buy the same t-shirt and wear together.
45.Be understanding when she is late or decides to change her outfit.
Yeah,got to be patient on this.
46.Pay more attention to her than to others in public.
Hahaha don't look at the big boobs or pretty gals when you are with her.However,I have a solution if you do that...If she gets angry,answer in this way...
"I'm comparing and seeing who is as beautiful as you."Hahaha she may or may not say you are lying.But this is a good way to get yourself out of the situation.
47.Make her more important than the children.Let the children see her getting your attention first and foremost.
48.Buy her little presents-like a small box of chocolates or perfume.
To do this you must know what she likes.
49.Buy her an outfit(take a picture of your partner along with her sizes to the store and let them help you select it.).
50.Take pictures of her on special occasions.
51.Take short romantic getaways.
52.Let her see that you carry a picture of her in your wallet and update it from time to time.
Yeah,always do that.
53.When staying in a hotel,have them prepare the room with something special,like a bottle of champagne or sparkling apple juice or some flowers.
54.Write a note or make a sign on special occasions such as anniversaries or birthdays.
55.Offer to drive the car on long trips.
56.Drive slowly and safely,respecting her preferences.After all,she is sitting powerless in the front seat.
57.Notice how she is feeling and comment on it-"You look happy today" or "You look tired" - and then ask a question like "How was your day?"
58.When taking her out,study the directions in advance so that she does not have to feel responsible to navigate.
59.Take her dancing or take dancing classes together.
60.Surprise her with a love note or poem.
I did this one before.It's powerful.To be honest with you,I'm not a poet or romantic.But somehow I managed to come up with a poem.You can do it too.Doesn't have to be perfect,but must be unique.
61.Treat her in ways you did at the beginning of the relationship.
62.Offer to fix something around the house.Say "What needs to be fixed around here?I have some extra time."Don't take on more than you can do.
63.Offer to sharpen her knives in the kitchen.
64.Buy some Super Glue to fix things that are broken.
65.Offer to change light bulbs as soon as they go out.
66.Help with recycling the trash.
67.Read out loud or cut out sections of the newspaper that will interest her.
68.Write out neatly any phone messages that you may take for her..
69.Keep the bathroom floor clean and dry after taking a shower.
70.Open the door for her.
This is overlooked by many guys.We always tend to be in a rush.We want to quicky find a seat in the eating house or quickly get the movie tickets so that we have more choices.Because of all these factors,we neglect being a gentleman.I got into trouble because of this before.
And I thought the gal was making a mountain out of a molehill.But that's not true.
71.Offer to carry the groceries.
Be a gentleman.
72.Offer to carry heavy boxes for her.
Refer to previous point.
73.On trips,handle the luggage and be responsible for packing it in the car.
74.If she washes the dishes or it's her turn,offer to help scrub pots or other difficult tasks.
75.Make a "to fix" list and leave it in the kitchen.When you have extra time do something on that list for her.Don't let it get too long.
76.When she prepares a meal,compliment her cooking.
Even if the food sucks big time,you mustn't say it.Instead say this "It's nice and it can be improved by blah blah blah..." Don't say the food sucks directly.
77.When listening to her talk,use eye contact.
Many begineers make this mistake.Because they are too shy to look at a gal in the eye.My solution is this,look at her mouth(upper lips) if you are uncomfortable looking at her eyes.When you do that,to her it would still seem that you are looking into her eyes.
78.Touch her with your hand sometimes when you talk to her.
Don't be shy,just touch her arms or shoulder.
79.Show interest in what she does during the day,in the books she reads and the people she relates to.
This is knowing your enemy.Find out all you can about her likes and dislikes.I can't stress further the importance of this.
80.When listening to her,reassure her that you are interested by making little noises like ah ha,uh-huh,oh,mmhuh, and hmmmmm.
I didn't know about this.It works amazingly.They'll love to talk to you.But be careful,don't fall into the "let's just be friends" category.Be extra careful when they talk about their boyfriends or ex-boyfriends.They may be using you as a listening ear only.
81.Ask her how she is feeling.
82.If she has been sick in some way,ask for an update and ask how she is doing or feeling.
Not only that,offer to buy medicine for her.Maybe panadol.Those that you can easily get.If you can,boil some soup for her.You can easily get at those chinese medicine stores.
83.If she's tired,offer to make her some tea.
This is easy.Just do it.
84.Get ready to go to sleep together and get in bed at the same time.
85.Give her a kiss and say good-bye before you leave.
86.Laugh at her jokes and humour.
Or pretend to,if you don't find them funny.
87.Verbally say thank you when she does things for you.
Be well-mannered.
88.Notice when she gets her hair done and give a reassuring compliment.
Hahaha yes,even if it makes her look like a witch,tell her it's nice.
89.Create special time to be alone together.
90.Don't answer the phone at intimate moments or if she's sharing vulnerable feelings.
This is important.You must make her feel as if there are only the 2 of you.
91.Go bicycling together,even it's just a short ride.
92.Organize and prepare a picnic.(Remember to bring a picnic cloth.)
93.If she handles the laundry,bring the clothes to the cleaners or offer to do the wash.
94.Take her for a walk without the children.
95.Negotiate in a manner that shows her that you want her to get what she wants and you also want what you want.Be caring,but don't be a martyr.
Negotiate intelligently.But don't make her climb over you.
96.Let her know that you missed her when you went away.
Yes,say you missed her very much.She was on your mind all the time.Whether you are eating,bathing or shitting.Hahaha ok,I was a little vulgar.
97.Bring home her favourite pie or dessert.
This is easy.Just do it.
98.If she normally shops for the food,offer to do the food shopping.
99.Eat lightly on romantic occasions so that you don't become stuffed and tired later.
100.Ask her to add her thoughts to this list.
101.Leave the bathroom seat down.
Alright,there you are,the 101 ways.To be honest,I didn't use all of them.Only some of them.And my relationship improved.Do try them out for yourself.
And all the credit goes to Dr John Gray and his book.If you are interested in his book,you can purchase it from the link below.
May you have a happy & fulfilling relationship.
God bless.
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