There Is No Such Thing As Failure

Have you ever failed?I believe each one of us have failed one time or another at something in life.I have.But I don't believe in failure.

Nothing or no one can block us to success but ourselves.You have more control of your life than what you thought.You can choose to be a success or a failure.Yes,only you.

What does failure really mean to me?To me,failure means giving up and not trying again.When you do that you can forget about being successful.But at times it's wise to give up than to waste your resources on something that won't work out.

What happends when you fail at something?It simply means that you didn't do it the correct way to get your desired results.What you should do is to keep trying different approaches to solve the problem.

True enough,from time to time you will get demoralised when things don't work your way.But never give up.Keep going until you reach your desired outcome.

Mental toughness is essential here.You need to keep telling yourself not to give up.

Many years ago,I allowed circumstances to dictate my fate.Whenever things don't work my way,I will panic and finally give up.As a result,many things were left half done.

Thanks to what I learnt from Napoleon Hill about Persistance.When you keep persisting,somehow things will start to turn in your favour.However,you should have more than 1 plan,so that if it doesn't work out,you can still fall on others.

It feels good to go all out to achieve what you want.The best reward is the sense of satisfaction when you succeed.

My website is not doing very well.But I refuse to give up on it.There is always something to be done to improve the situation.You just need to keep looking and thinking of the solution.

But there are also certain things that I give up easily.I will only persist in things which I am confident that will work out.I don't waste time on things which I need to gamble on.

In particular,the area of women.If I show interest in a woman and she does not respond,I'll simply give up and move on to the next one.I had been stupid once.I wasted a lot of time and effort on one target and things still didn't work out.I should have given up early to cut losses.

This is like investing in stocks.In certain times,you need to sell at a loss to cut losses.Similarly if you try going after a woman and she is not interested in you,why waste you time?Move on to the next one.After all it's her loss,not yours.The world is so abundant,you are sure to find what you want.

You cut losses because you lose time.You time should be invested in people who are worth it.You time should be invested in activities that will further add value to you as a person.That could be learning a new skill.Never waste time on things that don't add value to you.

I used to.But I don't now.

In business as well,you must know when to give up and call it a day.Rather than further increasing your loss in time and money.In "The Tipping Point",Seth Godin shares when exactly you should give up.

It is stupid to give up too early.But it's equally stupid to not give up when you know that you are reaching a dead end.

I wish you success.In the next post,I will share with you how you can propel yourself to success and keep your mental attitude positive most of the time.So stay tuned till then.

Surviving In A Herd Where There Is Condemnation

I just came back from my in-camp training.It was an exhausting experience.Not because training was tough...training was far from tough.As a cyberwarrior,my role is to assist the commanders is playing war simulation games.

Why am I exhausted?

I'm exhausted from the negative energy from the people there.Of course,to say everyone is like that is very unfair.There are a handful of nice people there,especially the full time staff and 3 new friends that I made there.

What is today's topic about?

In short,it's about how you survive in a negative enviroment.If you are like me,you probably understand what I mean.When you are surrounded by negative people,your positive attitude will somehow be affected by them.

There are a few types of negative enviroments.One is where people like to complain.Two is where people like to gossip,backstab and comdemn others.

If you know me well,you probably know that I hate backstabbers and people who are fake.Now,how can you survive when you are surrounded by these people?

I think there is ONE CRUCIAL THING you must possess...that is MENTAL TOUGHNESS.

Why mental toughness?

When you have mental toughness,you will not be affected by the backstabbing and the gossip.You will just take them as a bunch of fools who have nothing better to do.

Whenever you are different,the herd will keep "pressuring you" to be like them.When you are not like them,they "condemn you".Question is,can you be condemned?Or rather,will you be affected by their condemnation?

It is human nature to have the desire to be accepted by people.But it is insane to have the desire to be accepted by a bunch of losers.Why would you want to seek approval from a bunch of losers?

In order to seek approval from them,you "try" to be like them?

You?A loser?

Think about it...

You know what?My advice is to stand your ground.Be who you are.Let the losers say whatever they want.You may feel uncomfortable.But that's ok.You are human after all.That is where mental toughness comes in.Can you survive condemnation?

I realised a few things about losers...Losers love to gossip about those who are different from them.They love to see people getting into trouble.They love to poke their noses into affairs that don't even concern them.They condemn others so that they feel superior.

I hope you are not one of them.

Hey,thank God.I only go for in-camp once per year.Only get to see the losers once per year.Luckily not everyday.

The next tip for survival is to pretend to like them and try to mix around with them.That's really tough for me.I'm a straightforward person.I hate acting.If you can do that,I really salute you.Because I can't.

By pretending to be like them,they will accept you and not condemn you.Because you are like one of them.

There is one guy whom I salute.Salute meaning I salute him for his ability to act blur.But I look down upon him.He's just a loser in other aspects.But he's a winner in acting.He can pretend till you don't know what he is up to.

He looks very dignified and gentle.But probe deeper and observe longer,you will be able to see his true colors.Initially I was taken in by his innocence,but after a while,I can see the fox's tail sticking out.

He's smart.There's actually a lot to learn from him.He keeps a low profile and will never reveal much about himself.He'll make you talk while he listens.When you ask him questions,he will keep evading them.

So if you want to survive,be like him.

There's another guy,who is pretty straightforward and sincere.There's only one setback.He gives the impression that he is a slacker.After observing him for some time,I realised that he's a lousy worker.But makes a very good friend.

He is sincere and direct.Doesn't pretend and condemn like the other losers.But he's the target of the herd.He is always getting condemned and they always make sarcastic remarks about him.

Yes,this brings me to the next point.You got to learn to be sarcastic.This is to defend yourself.Once losers know that you are more sarcastic than them,they won't try to be funny with you.

So how to be sarcastic?OK,before I go on,please use the following information to defend yourself only.Don't use it the wrong way,please.Never use it as an offense.

In order to be sarcastic,you mind has to work fast.You have to know how to respond to your opponent.You have to be cool and calm.When the attack comes,do not get angry.I repeat,never never get angry.

Keep you mind cool and calm,then start thinking of how to respond.Be like the politicians.They are very good with this.They think before they speak.Similarly,you should do the same.If you have nothing to say,do say anything.

Wait for the chance to strike.Wait for them to fall before you whack them.

If you have a good memory,try to remember one or two incidents where they screwed up and use the incidents as ammunition to fire back.Usually,these losers will try to catch you screwing up and make comments about you.

Once you have enough ammunition,you can hit back.Find out their moments of embarrasment and hit them hard with it.After hitting them,smile and tell them you are just joking.Tell them don't take it too hard.

After a while,they won't dare to try their nonsense on you.Trust me,it works.

But you really must strike at the right time.Don't strike for the sake of striking.Never allow anger to blur your thinking.Never.When you screw them,screw them back HARD.

Before I end,I would like to leave you with this...

"Treat your allies and friends super-well,and crush your enemies!"

If you have given them a chance and they still want to harm you,crush them!!!

Introducing...My Beloved Bus

Today is another special day.15th September 2007.Another super-blessed day.But that's beside the point.Today you will finally realise why I kept using 9074 in my user names and e-mails.

Anyway,if you look at the screenshot below,9074 came out as consolation prize today for the 4D lottery.For so many years I have been looking the the lottery results,today is the first time I saw 9074 in the results.

Why I kept using 9074?If you had known me since my secondary school days,you'll know that SBS 9074 D is my favourite bus in the whole of Singapore.

Till this day,it is still my favourite bus.I first saw SBS 9074 D in 1994,when I was in secondary 2.I was and still is a super fan of buses.Back then,I loved to collect tickets of every bus.SBS 9074 D was one of the last 197s I need to take to complete the whole collection.

I suffered a lot to take this bus.Whenever I needed to take 197,it will always appear in the opposite direction.Or it will always appear at times when I am unable to board it.Pretty sickening isn't it?

Well,I don't believe in failure.I persisited and spent many hours studying the order of all the 197 buses.It was 6 months until my first ride on that bus.

One day,my friend gave me a ticket of SBS 9074 D and wished me luck.Basing on the time on the ticket,I was able to know where the bus was at that moment.

The ticket was dated 14th July,the time was 11:53 am.My friend boarded at his house bus stop,which was at Jalan Bukit Merah,after Hoy Fatt Road.He went towards Bedok.

If the bus reached Jalan Bukit Merah at 11:53am,it should reach my bus stop at around 12:30pm.

15th July 1994.I decided to try out my luck.I waited at my bus stop at 11:45am.Just in case there was a change in timing or shift.I waited and waited.Other buses keep coming.

I decided to wait at a more strategic location.So that if it goes both directions,I could still catch it.
I waited at the junction of Geylang Road and Guillemard Road.

SBS 9059 Z came from Bedok.Then another series of non-aircon double decks came.But I kept waiting...

At about 12:35pm,I saw SBS 9073 G.It was going towards Bedok.My heart sank.I was quite disappointed.I started to turn my head and cross the road to board the next bus back to school.

As I was thinking through my disappointment,another bus came...I saw the advertisement..."INDOCAFE,Tastes Good Black Or White".

I jumped.I could hardly contain my excitement and joy.Finally...SBS 9074 D came.

I quickly crossed the road again to the opposite bus stop.SBS 9074 D stopped in front of me.I was so happy when I boarded the bus.My hands were shaking with excitement as I tried to use my Transitlink card to buy my ticket.

The front seats were filled,I had to sit at the second seat from the front.Back then,it was like the photo below.The bus was fully packed.Anyway,this photo was taken today.




Because I had to reach school by 1:30pm,I had to take a few bus stops and alight to take the next bus back to school.

I took SBS 9080 K back to school.Was nearly late for assembly.But that day was really memorable.I finally "conquered" SBS 9074 D.

My second ride came at a price.But I felt it was worth it.

One Saturday,after my common test,my friend and I decided to take 197 all the way to Jurong East just for fun.

When I reached Jurong East Interchange,there were 4 buses parked there.SBS 9076 Z,SBS 9082 E(the one I took) and 2 other non-aircon double decks.The next bus out was SBS 9076 Z.My friend suggested that we take it home.

He said he needed to go to the washroom first.I accompanied him.

When we came back,I saw the INDOCAFE advertisement again.It's SBS 9074 D again.It just came into the interchange.

I must take it!I must.This is such a rare chance.The last time I only took a few stops.Now I can go long distance.

My friend said he was going home.I told him I will wait for SBS 9074 D no matter what.If the bus doesn't leave the interchange,I'll keep waiting till it leaves.

My friend boarded SBS 9076 Z and left.I counted the number of buses parked there.There were 5 of them,including SBS 9074 D.That means I had to wait for around 1 hour for SBS 9074 D to depart.Since the average frequency was 12 minutes.

So be it.I will keep waiting.Until my bus leaves.

After a long wait,the driver finally signalled me to board the bus.I finally had a chance to take this bus for a longer distance.I reached home at around 4pm in the afternoon.My parents were very mad with me for being late.I was punished.They made me stay at home for the whole weekend.

To me it was still worth it.It is not everyday that I get a chance to take my favourite bus.From then on,SBS 9074 D became my favourite bus.Till this day.It has been 13 years already.The drivers and advertisements kept changing.But it is always my favourite.

Today is the very first chance I get to shoot a video of this bus.It is also the first time 9074 appeared in the 4D results.This is a special day.

The photo above was taken at Bedok interchange.The bald-headed guy is a new driver.He doesn't know how to control the bus effectively.The bus travelled very slowly.

I was wondering why my bus was 25 minutes late.It was supposed to arrive at 4:23pm at the St Joseph's Church bus stop.I waited and waited.It came at 4:48pm.

When it came,the whole bus was packed.But at least I was able to board it.As you can see in the very first photo,the upper deck is packed.

I reached Bedok Interchange at around 5:40pm.There was a very long queue for service 197.I thought I might not be able to shoot the video because my front seat might be occupied.


But the good thing was that other bus parks were empty.I was able to shoot the whole side view of the bus.As you can see from the photo below,I had to stand 2 bus parks away to shoot the entire side view.

The photo below shows the front view.They repainted the whole bus and removed the Volvo letters from the front.I wondered which idiot placed it there in the first place.This is a Leyland Olympian,not a Volvo bus.

Finally,at 6pm,I boarded the bus.Thank God I was able to occupy the front seat.As you can see from the photo below,it is taken from the left front seat.Where I usually sit when I take double deckers.

As the years pass...the advertisements change,the drivers change.The woman who sits beside me changes as well.But my love for this bus always remains unchanged.

One of my ex-girlfriends was jealous of this bus.I wondered why...

One night,after sending her home,I went to wait for this bus at her bus stop.She was angry with me for getting too excited about this bus.Oh well...she should be jealous.Come to think of it...

If a woman can remain my favourite for 13 years or more,I really salute her.Hahaha so far no one has ever been able to do that.All of my ex-girlfriends have rode in this bus before.

Damn,why am I taking about women all of a sudden?

Well,this bus brings back some nice memories with pretty girls during my secondary days.I'll share them another day.Meanwhile,enjoy the 2 videos that I shot today.

The first video is taken when leaving Bedok Interchange.The background noise is too loud,can't really hear the engine sound well.

The next video is taken after I alighted.The engine sound is clearer in this clip.Enjoy.

The Blessed Birthday!

I am so blessed today that I can't let today pass without writing about it.Praise the Good Lord,who daily loads us with benefits.

Today is my 27th Birthday.

I had a very happy time.Everything went on very well.Since I stepped out of my house to work today,everything has been well.

Had a wonderful lunch with Uncle David,Irene and her nephew.They ordered a Chocolate Banana Cake for me.It was simply delicious.We offered some to the Han's Cafe staff who were on friendly terms with us.Uncle David gave me 100 bucks for my Birthday.

After work,I went out with my uncle for dinner at a Chinese Eating House at Chinatown.It was opened by some Chinese nationals.The food was average,but better than some of the food stalls I tried in China.

After dinner,we went over the the Heritage Museum at Chinatown.My uncle didn't want to go in initially because of the ticket price.But when he found out it was half price,he relented.I'm glad he enjoyed exploring the museum.I received 200 bucks for my Birthday from him.

We left Chinatown about 7:30 P.M. .I suggested that we go for a short drive before going to Billy Bombers at The Cathay for desserts.By following the leading of the Holy Spirit,I was led to Dempsey Road.

It can't be...

That toilet is already blocked up.It is also locked.Why am I back there again?There is no way I can shoot videos.Unless it's a miracle.

I ended up in front of Block 15,Dempsey Road.The location of one of my favourite toilets in Singapore.

Before I knew it,I was led to stop the car and to take another chance to visit it.

I went down.

To my surprise,it was open again.Everything was still unchanged.It was time for me to shoot the videos of that toilet.I was so happy!I could hardly believe my luck.I managed to shoot 2 videos and a few photos of that toilet.

View them at http://www.ultimatetoiletblog.blogspot.com/ .

That was the best Birthday Present I Received this year.

When I went home,I found an Armani Exchange paper bag on my bed.My dear brother bought me the Armani Exchange belt that I was aiming for a few months ago.I was overjoyed.

The day ended with my brother and I playing King Of Fighters XI and Super Street Fighter at Park Lane arcade.

I thank God for this wonderful day!

Oh yes,I have been busy working on my Feng Shui book recently.Once I launch it,I will let you know.There will definitely be a free downloadable gift for you.Stay tuned.